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Kung Food: Dec 11, 2006; PORN WIZARD

Zulily Zoetrope posted:

I have only ever heard this question in the context of flirting or as a sarcastic put down.

Who the gently caress says that as a way of making conversation? What is an acceptable answer to that question? I'm gonna guess sharing your personal traumas or deep-seated issues will not go over well, and it sounds like a crowd that'd call you a stuck-up bitch if you dared suggest that a woman in her thirties is allowed to have priorities other than locking down a man and getting started on pumpin out the little ones.

What do these people want her to say; "I know, right? Any man would be better than none, so if you have a deadbeat cousin or nephew whose parents are dying to get him out of the house, can you send him my way please?"

People pretty much lose all sense of boundaries regarding the personal lives of single people and can't seem to grasp, "It's a sensitive topic and I don't know you that well." IMO being rude is an acceptable response because it's a rude question to start with.

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# ? May 31, 2024 00:43

Squashing Machine: Jul 5, 2005; I mean boning, the wild mambo, the hunka chunka

sephiRoth IRA posted:

Not everybody who picks an avatar that doesn't look like them is an egg

Every time I play Metroid I can feel my grasp on my gender slipping. Surely a couple more hours in the Black Desert character creator and I'll be completely adrift in the gender sea

# ? Feb 1, 2022 00:19

sullat: Jan 9, 2012

Barudak posted:

Its too late, her next prank is gonna be framing you for murder

I thought we were done with the Agatha Christie derail...

# ? Feb 1, 2022 00:19

sephiRoth IRA: Jun 13, 2007; "Science is not only compatible with spirituality; it is a profound source of spirituality."

-Carl Sagan

Tobermory posted:

Obviously not. But picking an avatar of a different gender and then spending hours tweaking your appearance to be super-hot in your new form? That's a thing.

It is. But it's not that here at all

# ? Feb 1, 2022 00:19

Mx.: Dec 16, 2006; I'm a great fan! When I watch TV I'm always saying "That's political correctness gone mad!"
Why thankyew!

AITA for taking back my gift and refusing to return it

quote:

This happened over christmas and I'm still getting heat over it.

I love knitting and crochet. It's my thing. This year, with covid and all, money's been tight, so I decided to knit christmas gifts for everyone using yarn I already had. Everyone already agreed to only do kid gifts so I made small stuffed animals - unicorns and dragons in different colors. It was my first time doing these, and all the best patterns are crochet, which I'm not as comfortable with, so it took months to make them all. I didn't mind though. It was fun to learn something new and a good way to use up some of my enormous stash.

All my side were happy, or polite enough to act happy, with the gifts. The problem was with my husband's family's. His sister immediately started making snippy, sarcastic, but kind of indirect comments about being me cheap/lazy. Niece didn't seem to like it either, and said some things that, yes, I get that she's a kid, but my feelings were still pretty hurt.

There's a history of this sort of thing, so maybe I'm too sensitized to this, but I angrily took the gift back and handed her some cash, which made things really awkward and we left shortly after.

The big problem happened when niece realized that all her cousins got matching stuffies, and so she wanted hers back. I already gave hers away, and I refuse to make another one. Apparently she is crying and I broke her heart. But I'm finding it hard to care because I'm still hurt by how she and her mother behaved. They have not apologized either yet, but expect me to.

My husband thinks I should make her another one, and should have overlooked the comments in the first place. I told him that he's in charge of his family's gifts from now on, which is apparently petty. Now everyone, including husband, is mad at me except his stepdad and sister. My family is, obviously, on my side, but that's just making things worse.

I get that "snatching" the gift back and "flinging money at my SIL's face" (their words, I don't think I did) might have been overly dramatic and rude. But am I an rear end in a top hat for it for being pushed too far?

Edit: I was told I should mention that niece is around 11-12 years old, and that I didn't literally "snatch" the toy out of her hands like my SIL claims. Niece had tossed it away so I picked it up.

Edit2: Thanks to everyone who responded. I'm sorry I can't reply to you all!. I've tried showing this post to my husband and, unfortunately, it went... not well. He's upset over me making our private things public, which I understand, but still, his reaction seemed disproportionate. I didn't want to bring my family into this because they already don't like him, but I'm staying with my sister for a bit. I don't know what to do. Sorry if I'm not responding much anymore. there's just too much else I need to think about now, I guess.

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PancakeTransmission: May 27, 2007; You gotta improvise, Lisa: cloves, Tom Collins mix, frozen pie crust...; Plaster Town Cop

Tobermory posted:

I think the game avatar choice might be an egg thing.

What does this mean?

I always play hot/strong ladies when there's a choice in video games. I'm also not a wizard in real life. Why would I play as a white guy computer toucher?

# ? Feb 1, 2022 00:34

Bruceski: Aug 21, 2007; The tools of a hero mean nothing without a solid core.

sephiRoth IRA posted:

Not everybody who picks an avatar that doesn't look like them is an egg

What is an egg in this context? I can't keep up with the slang.

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Lazy_Liberal: Sep 17, 2005; These stones are precious

buff lady is the correct choice during character creation

# ? Feb 1, 2022 00:50

sephiRoth IRA: Jun 13, 2007; "Science is not only compatible with spirituality; it is a profound source of spirituality."

-Carl Sagan

PancakeTransmission posted:

What does this mean?

I always play hot/strong ladies when there's a choice in video games. I'm also not a wizard in real life. Why would I play as a white guy computer toucher?

Tobermory is suggesting that the guy in the post is actually struggling with their gender identity and using a hot female character instead of a male is evidence of this. Its an experience for some people with latent gender dysphoria, where they realize they've always selected pcs of the opposite gender but it's not an if A then B situation and it's dumb to assume that here

# ? Feb 1, 2022 00:50

RenegadeStyle1: Jun 7, 2005; Baby Come Back

When I see dudes with women avatars my assumption is that they are trying to get nerds to give them stuff/help.

# ? Feb 1, 2022 00:52

Kung Food: Dec 11, 2006; PORN WIZARD

PancakeTransmission posted:

What does this mean?

I always play hot/strong ladies when there's a choice in video games. I'm also not a wizard in real life. Why would I play as a white guy computer toucher?

It means being trans and not knowing it. Playing opposite gender and spending way too long on character sliders is stupidly common though, I wouldn't say it's an egg thing unless there are other hints. "I wannna look at a hot chick as I play," is teenager cringe, but she definitely over reacted.

That post was super tame compared to a man in his 40s needing to be babysat and throwing poo poo caked clothes/sheets around and other horror shows.

Kung Food fucked around with this message at 00:58 on Feb 1, 2022

# ? Feb 1, 2022 00:54

Mx.: Dec 16, 2006; I'm a great fan! When I watch TV I'm always saying "That's political correctness gone mad!"
Why thankyew!

AITA for getting my coworker fired after he said �he was looking out for me�?

quote:

For some context I (19F) landed a job in sales. It�s very demanding and most days you feel burned out when you go home. Our boss knows this and organised a team building trip, fully paid, Michelin star restaurants, five star hotel, closed a whole club just for us and paid the tab fully.

We go and I am having the time of my life. After we went clubbing my coworker Joe (41M) saw me walking back to the hotel with two other coworkers (both male, early twenties). He pulled me aside and told me those two were known to pressure female coworkers and act inappropriately. I was surprised because they were my work best friends and I never got that vibe from them.

Joe kept insisting they�ll try something with me and started walking with us. He tried to put his hand on my shoulder (like how couples walk) but I quickly shrugged it away and started babbling about my BF and how much I love him. Joe started showing me pictures of his daughter and I calmed down. I figured he was just looking out for me.

Peter, my other coworker, got annoyed and commented how it�s really inappropriate for Joe to be trying to hug me and keeps grabbing my arm. The two got into it and I just urged them to walk back faster so it could all be over.

We went into Peter�s room (it was planned) to play drinking games with some other colleagues and Joe followed even after Peter told him to �f*ck off�. Later in the night most people were drunk and watching a movie on Peter�s bed and I went on the balcony.

Joe came out and started telling me how good of an idea it was if I left with him and went to his room because Peter was really being inappropriate (he wasn�t). Joe then randomly blurted out how beautiful I was and how young I was and he grabbed my hands in his. I freaked and saw Peter had heard the last part coming out.

Peter walked me to my room, told me to lock the door and file a complaint with HR when we go back. We return I went to HR and reported Joe and he ultimately got fired.

His wife found my number somehow (I am guessing because Joe was IT in the company and had access to personal info). She called me, introduced herself and screamed at me that I was ungrateful, stupid and naive and Joe had just tried to keep me safe. She said I ruined their life and they were facing foreclosure because of me. AITA? I don�t think I read the whole interaction so catastrophically wrong, I really did get creeped out a lot.

Edit: thank you all for your nice responses. I was afraid I read too much into it.

For everyone saying this trip is a disaster for HR- probably. This is the typical fashion a sales team would celebrate reaching goals. Is it too much? Definitely! Did I go because I would never pay for something like this myself but wanted to experience it at least once? Absolutely!

I asked Peter and he said coworkers have been known to have s*x on these trips but it is consensual. Most of us in sales are between 20-30y and still in the �party� mood. This was a celebration for breaking some records in the company. There are many more company events geared towards family life- picnics, sight-seeing, sangria parties, pet walks.. you name it, they have it.

We also have VERY nice bonuses for our hard work. These trips are not a compensation, not really. They are something extra I guess.

I went because I know Peter, I even know his parents and GF and I felt like I�d have a buddy at all times.

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Spalec: Apr 16, 2010

Soylent Pudding posted:

AITA for tipping our waitress 20 dollars despite her poor service, because my date was playing a "game" with her tips?

I would have walked out on the date the second he started that bullshit. I hope every server he ever tries that with spits in his food.

# ? Feb 1, 2022 00:56

Nae: Sep 3, 2020; what.

Mx. posted:

AITA for getting my coworker fired after he said �he was looking out for me�?

These trips are not a compensation, not really. They are something extra I guess.

I'm sure that's exactly how the IRS phrases it.

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hawowanlawow: Jul 27, 2009

Mx. posted:

AITA for getting my coworker fired after he said �he was looking out for me�?

wow pete goes by peter now

# ? Feb 1, 2022 01:07

Neito: Feb 18, 2009; 😌Finally, an avatar the describes my love of tech❤️‍💻, my love of anime💖🎎, and why I'll never see a real girl 🙆‍♀️naked😭.

Ok but like Joe was totally going to try some poo poo if the OP went back to his room, right?

# ? Feb 1, 2022 01:16

Flared Basic Bitch: Feb 22, 2005; Invading your personal space since 1968.

Sisal Two-Step posted:

AITA for my response when asked "why are you still single"?

Tell the boyfriend you�d be happy to apologize to him, alone, while you give him a conciliatory hot oil massage.

# ? Feb 1, 2022 01:17

Uncle Enzo: Apr 28, 2008; I always wanted to be a Wizard

Neito posted:

Ok but like Joe was totally going to try some poo poo if the OP went back to his room, right?

Or if OP had let him go to her room. Or if Joe got OP alone at someone else's room. Or if Joe ran into OP in a hallway. Retreating behind a locked door was about the only safe option for her.

# ? Feb 1, 2022 01:22

Quackles: Aug 11, 2018; Pixels of Light.

Neito posted:

Ok but like Joe was totally going to try some poo poo if the OP went back to his room, right?

Abso-f'in-lutely.

# ? Feb 1, 2022 01:22

AnoHito: May 8, 2014

Neito posted:

Ok but like Joe was totally going to try some poo poo if the OP went back to his room, right?

He still tried some poo poo even when she didn�t

# ? Feb 1, 2022 01:27

Sisal Two-Step: May 29, 2006; mom without jaw
dad without wife

i'm taking all the Ls now, sorry

Mx. posted:

AITA for taking back my gift and refusing to return it

Garbo husband comes from garbo family.

Lazy_Liberal posted:

buff lady is the correct choice during character creation

# ? Feb 1, 2022 01:31

Barudak: May 7, 2007

I outsource my character development to other people in my household in games which is how I always end up looking like a hideous goblin (all genders)

# ? Feb 1, 2022 01:37

Neito: Feb 18, 2009; 😌Finally, an avatar the describes my love of tech❤️‍💻, my love of anime💖🎎, and why I'll never see a real girl 🙆‍♀️naked😭.

AnoHito posted:

He still tried some poo poo even when she didn�t

Re-reading it, I'm getting the vibe that this isn't the first time Joe's been inappropriate with a new hire. I dunno if I'd casually tell a non-sexpest workmate to "gently caress off"...

# ? Feb 1, 2022 01:37

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Soylent Pudding posted:

AITA for tipping our waitress 20 dollars despite her poor service, because my date was playing a "game" with her tips?

Oh gently caress that. If people were really paid for how hard they work, retail and food service would be taking home six figures while CEOs would be begging on the streets.

# ? Feb 1, 2022 01:57

Mx.: Dec 16, 2006; I'm a great fan! When I watch TV I'm always saying "That's political correctness gone mad!"
Why thankyew!

My (22f) mother in law (60f) is so obsessed with her son (35m) and I having a baby that every event we don�t announce I�m expecting she ends up bursting into tears

quote:

Hi!! This is kind of bizzare lol. Throwaway account because my husband uses Reddit (so if anyone recognizes me from our ages/the situation or anything pleaseeee don�t say anything to him haha).

I�m 22f, I�m a student. My husband is 35m, he�s a firefighter. We own our own home but we live close to his mom (60f). She�s kinda obsessed with my husband. Her husband died in 9/11 and her only other child, my sister in law, lives in Oz.

We got married before the pandemic, and she really was heavy on pressuring us to have a baby, telling me she�d watch it while I went to school, she�d sleep over to help out at nights, etc. I don�t have a functional relationship with my family at all so I�m pretty uncomfortable with any one being that involved in our lives, luckily (I know that�s awful to say I�m so sorry) the pandemic started and my husband told her that we didn�t want to have a baby in such a time of uncertainty, and that worked for a while. A few months ago though she began to start up again. My husband had a talk with her and even though she respected it she still seemed sad. So I had a talk to with her and I told her I do plan on having kids I just don�t know when yet (in truth I�m off bc but not really actively trying/tracking cycles etc) but that when I did find out she�d be one of the first to know, and I�d make it really special.

She seemed to take this as I was going to make some grand announcement to her soon even though I tried to make it clear I wanted to be done with school before I really started trying. Whenever we invite her over for dinner or any holiday she dresses really nice, she always gets her hair blown out and makeup done because she has this dream of us recording our pregnancy announcement to her and it going viral, the issue is every time this doesn�t happen she gets really upset and usually ends up crying. My husband just says she�s dramatic and he�s been trying to get her into therapy for years but she refuses to go. I feel so bad but I also don�t want to get pregnant just to appease someone else, I want to make sure it�s the right time for us, whenever it may be.

This isn�t a huge issue, it�s just something that�s been on my mind lately after the last sunday dinner we had. I don�t know if there�s anything I can do or say to make this better. Im not used to normal family relationships lol.

# ? Feb 1, 2022 02:05

Chef Boyardeez Nuts: Sep 9, 2011; The more you kick against the pricks, the more you suffer.

Mx. posted:

My (22f) mother in law (60f) is so obsessed with her son (35m) and I having a baby that every event we don’t announce I’m expecting she ends up bursting into tears

I also saw this SNL skit

# ? Feb 1, 2022 02:10

Mx.: Dec 16, 2006; I'm a great fan! When I watch TV I'm always saying "That's political correctness gone mad!"
Why thankyew!

Chef Boyardeez Nuts posted:

I also saw this SNL skit

# ? Feb 1, 2022 02:14

Involuntary Sparkle: Aug 12, 2004; Chemo-kitties can have �accidents� too!

Mx. posted:

My (22f) mother in law (60f) is so obsessed with her son (35m) and I having a baby that every event we don’t announce I’m expecting she ends up bursting into tears

OP:

quote:

I was 18 when we met.

# ? Feb 1, 2022 02:22

Chef Boyardeez Nuts: Sep 9, 2011; The more you kick against the pricks, the more you suffer.

https://twitter.com/nbcsnl/status/1472433290414116864?s=20&t=YfNQLRV9NjKdY-V_Mt5wbw

# ? Feb 1, 2022 02:22

Dr. Stab: Sep 12, 2010; 👨🏻‍⚕️🩺🔪🙀😱🙀

Tobermory posted:

I think the game avatar choice might be an egg thing. Either way, it's still somewhat creepy. Possibly extremely creepy, depending on what BF does in the game.

If the character looks like his girlfriend, it would be even creepier if he was doing it as an egg thing. Makes me think he's the kind of egg who is dating someone so he can vicariously experience being them.

# ? Feb 1, 2022 02:28

Serephina: Nov 8, 2005; 恐竜戦隊
ジュウレンジャー

I'm putting on my old man hat and having a good chuckle at the silly 'egg' terminology. Can't wait to see what those zany kids will come up with next!

# ? Feb 1, 2022 02:31

Breetai: Nov 6, 2005; 🥄Mah spoon is too big!🍌

Dr. Stab posted:

If the character looks like his girlfriend, it would be even creepier if he was doing it as an egg thing. Makes me think he's the kind of egg who is dating someone so he can vicariously experience being them.

Conjecture in this thread has started off with "this person is trans" with zero evidence and is now barreling towards "this trans person is abusive acktually" with no loving brakes.

# ? Feb 1, 2022 02:50

Halloween Jack: Sep 12, 2003; I WILL CUT OFF BOTH OF MY ARMS BEFORE I VOTE FOR ANYONE THAT IS MORE POPULAR THAN BERNIE!!!!!

I just hand the controller to my spouse and so my Commander Shephard looks like me, a normal person, in a slutty wig. I don't know what weird poo poo you people are doing.

# ? Feb 1, 2022 02:50

Defiance Industries: Jul 22, 2010; A five-star manufacturer

Tobermory posted:

Obviously not. But picking an avatar of a different gender and then spending hours tweaking your appearance to be super-hot in your new form? That's a thing.

Yeah it means they don't want to alt tab out of the game to beat off. You don't actually think that the people who run lovers lab for Skyrim have any other motive do you?

# ? Feb 1, 2022 03:02

Scags McDouglas: Sep 9, 2012

I'm still relatively certain that the whole "stack of dollar bills I slowly deplete as punishment" thing is largely an urban legend. I mean surely it's happened but I think in reality most people would rather stiff a server at the end and escape, not make some weird show. I've worked as a server and never actually heard it credibly happening in the wild.

My dream though, if I ever saw someone doing it, would be to dash to an ATM and pull out some 20's and tell the server I'm applying a reverse bounty so every time you spill liquid in their face / lap I lay down a fresh Andrew Jackson.

# ? Feb 1, 2022 03:07

Kung Food: Dec 11, 2006; PORN WIZARD

Breetai posted:

Conjecture in this thread has started off with "this person is trans" with zero evidence and is now barreling towards "this trans person is abusive acktually" with no loving brakes.

I've known the term less than a day, and already it feels like gender essentialism but from the other side.

# ? Feb 1, 2022 03:22

Evil Willow: Apr 26, 2007; Bored now...

AITA for excluding my best friend's girlfriend from the trip we are planning?

quote:

My gf and I came up with the idea of planning a small trip for 5 days nearby. My gf said that it would be me, her, my best friend and her best friend. I didn't see anything wrong with it at first. When I told my best friend that my gf and I will plan the trip like this and since we are only booking two rooms at the hotel, he won't be able to bring his gf because he'll have to share a room with my gf's best friend. Once I voiced that to him I then realised how wrong this whole thing sounds but I awaited for his response. Once I said who's gonna be on the trip he said a simple no and hang up. That no, I knew he was offended because he wouldn't bring his gf.

I told my gf it's a bad idea to expect him to exclude his gf and have him share a room with another girl. My gf got mad and decided to confront my best friend. She called him and said that he's being very lovely as a friend because he always brings his gf around and he refuses to spend time with just us,his friends. My best friend hang up on my gf by simply saying that he'll do so because he doesn't want to insult her but instantly called me and started berating me and telling me that my gf is ridiculous for expecting him to exclude his gf and for complaining that he always brings his gf around and told me to remind my gf that she is also a gf as well and she doesn't get to make the rules on who he can bring around or not. I wasn't completely disagreeing with what he said, he had a point but I was mad he was insulting my gf and I tried to apologise and claim its a simple misunderstanding but he also shouldn't take it too far. He called me an AH for not seeing anything wrong with his gf's plans in the first place and he claims I'm also ta for telling him he's taking it too far since my gf is the one who started it and is unapologetic about it.

While I do see his point and I get why he's mad, his reaction also got me mad because I doubt that my gf had any ill intents. AITA?

# ? Feb 1, 2022 03:26

the holy poopacy: May 16, 2009; hey! check this out; Fun Shoe

Kung Food posted:

I've known the term less than a day, and already it feels like gender essentialism but from the other side.

this is a problem in gender discourse, yes

the term "egg" gets used plenty in a healthier, less prescriptive fashion but some people definitely latch on to the concept in a very toxic way. earlier editions of this thread had at least one story about someone's queer friend very insistently badgering them for supposedly being an egg (based on even more dubious tells than picking female avatars, IIRC)

# ? Feb 1, 2022 03:28

Malcolm Excellent: May 20, 2007; Buglord

Evil Willow posted:

AITA for excluding my best friend's girlfriend from the trip we are planning?

How is this even a question ⁉️

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CharlestheHammer: Jun 26, 2011; YOU SAY MY POSTS ARE THE RAVINGS OF THE DUMBEST PERSON ON GOD'S GREEN EARTH BUT YOU YOURSELF ARE READING THEM. CURIOUS!

Breetai posted:

Conjecture in this thread has started off with "this person is trans" with zero evidence and is now barreling towards "this trans person is abusive acktually" with no loving brakes.

That�s how it goes when a story is vague on details, goons just fill them in with their own hang ups

# ? Feb 1, 2022 03:33

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