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quote:He left his shoes and bag in the hall, right in the way, when his parents came over his dad tripped over his bag and broke his nose on the radiator. When they asked why the bag was there I just looked at him and said "thats your bag isnt it?" I would pay an absurd amount of money to have a video of this, lmaooooooooo
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AreWeDrunkYet posted:It's a fun read and all, but why would OP do this to themselves? Putting up with disgusting dishes and terrible food because you want to prove a point to someone you don't want to be with anyway? She was probably holding out hope that he would change. When he admitted he was being lovely on purpose (with presumably no remorse) it actually hit the breaking point. Kinda a bummer it still says “we broke up,” not “I dumped his rear end.” Some people struggle to recognize their own agency in relationships and play dumb passive aggressive games instead of just…hitting da bricks.
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Nov 11, 2022 19:29
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sephiRoth IRA posted:Here's someone we can all agree to hate! Read through this twice, and on the first read through missed the bonus layer of the OP being in a lesbian relationship which is probably an extra level of why their kids aren't recognized as 'real' grandchildren
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Nov 11, 2022 19:51
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sephiRoth IRA posted:Here's someone we can all agree to hate! I’m so glad my ex-inlaws never pulled this poo poo with exBIL’s stepchildren. Those kids became family as soon as MIL and FIL met them. My ex-inlaws was good people. Edit: I’m pretty sure my mom would also react in a non-lovely way if, like, my sister remarried and there were now additional children to be grandkids along with the current grandkids. And I’m pretty sure this would stand if my homophobic sister suddenly realized she was pansexual and married a woman with kids. Bored fucked around with this message at 20:50 on Nov 11, 2022 |
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Nov 11, 2022 20:44
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teen witch posted:Addendum because I think my mind is just gone rn: if there are any instances of lovely ableist attitudes or behavior that I or others have missed please let me know. I might not pick up on it! I have one. Can we please cut down on calling abusers and abusive behavior things like 'psychotic' / 'psycho' or 'sociopathic' or 'narcissistic'? Mental illness doesn't make one inherently an abuser, and having such illnesses like psychosis does have higher rates of being victims of abuse. We can just call people assholes. Or abusers. Or hell, go the tumblr route and call them fudging meaners. Or the cowpoke route of things like 'egg sucking horse thieves'. Let's get creative.
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Nov 11, 2022 21:27
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value-brand cereal posted:I have one. Can we please cut down on calling abusers and abusive behavior things like 'psychotic' / 'psycho' or 'sociopathic' or 'narcissistic'? Mental illness doesn't make one inherently an abuser, and having such illnesses like psychosis does have higher rates of being victims of abuse. I think narcissistic describes a lot of behaviors demonstrated in these posts without it specifically attaching to people with diagnosed narcissism. That said I'm betting some of the worst monster in-laws we've seen in this thread are part of the narcissism spectrum disorder, group b or whatever
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value-brand cereal posted:I have one. Can we please cut down on calling abusers and abusive behavior things like 'psychotic' / 'psycho' or 'sociopathic' or 'narcissistic'? Mental illness doesn't make one inherently an abuser, and having such illnesses like psychosis does have higher rates of being victims of abuse. As long as we don’t say fudging meaners, god please. This is a threat. I am threatening everyone. But yes, I do think rethinking what we call assholes is well worth a shot. I don’t expect perfection, but I do expect conscientiousness and creativity.
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Nov 11, 2022 22:00
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AITA for telling my friend her boyfriend can’t come to my party because of a comment he made to my boyfriend?quote:This is a throwaway post. I invite people to comment who will not be judgmental about my relationship situation. That is not the point here. You’ll see what I mean.
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The Lord of Hats posted:There was a weeks-long concrete promise of "I will be there for your field trip" that she last-minute cancelled, and replaced with a vague, offhanded promise of "I'll make it up to you." And I really don't see that promise coming through--it's a platitude with no actual thought behind it. How is she going to make it up? It can't just be "following through on another promise", it has to be something above and beyond, and there really doesn't seem to be a plan there. It's going to get forgotten by the mom, but it sure won't by the daughter. Does anyone in those reddit posts ever ask the OP "what do you have in mind in terms of making it up to them? what does that look like to you? when do you think you will be able to do it?"
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Evil Willow posted:AITA for telling my friend her boyfriend can’t come to my party because of a comment he made to my boyfriend? yta
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Evil Willow posted:AITA for telling my friend her boyfriend can’t come to my party because of a comment he made to my boyfriend? Honestly “dude how old are you what the hell” is a pretty legit question
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Evil Willow posted:AITA for telling my friend her boyfriend can’t come to my party because of a comment he made to my boyfriend? As much as it seems like the 44yo dating the 23yo is the reasonable person in this situation, I have to say dude, how old are you what the hell, stop being a creep
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Nov 11, 2022 23:20
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Evil Willow posted:AITA for telling my friend her boyfriend can’t come to my party because of a comment he made to my boyfriend? That one really made me laugh. I've known folks in gap relationships on that order that seem to work, as far as I can tell from the outside, but it's always gonna raise questions in my mind. I've just never been blunt enough to put it that way.
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Cowslips Warren posted:AITA for making a teacher change my son's grade? Y'all are just reminding me of this assignment one of my worst teachers gave where we had to tell a story that we learned from our family and a lesson we learned from it. More than one of us had massive problems with that assignment. One guy was like "Oh, so do you want one of the many racist stories I was told and how the moral was 'black people steal'?" The teacher was a new teacher and literally could not imagine any student not having some wholesome story our family taught us to teach us values or whatever. This was in college, btw. sephiRoth IRA posted:Here's someone we can all agree to hate! They couldn't shut the gently caress up about the niece being more important than the other kids even there! Midnight Voyager fucked around with this message at 23:41 on Nov 11, 2022 |
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Nov 11, 2022 23:39
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Absolutely creepy for a dude in his mid 40s to be hanging out with a bunch of young 20 somethings.
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I searched "age gap" looking for stories, came across this one and it was too good to pass up. I can only assume it's been posted before AITA for cancelling a years awaited trip over a boy? quote:
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Good find. I don't remember seeing that one before. WIBTA to ask someone to return a baby gift i want a more expensive version of? quote:im having my first child in a couple of weeks and my in laws asked what i was missing to buy for the baby. i sent a link to a playpen that i wanted to get for the baby which is $125 on sale from $180. it is the color i want, with music and vibration features. it has multiple pockets and a big space for pampers bottles etc. plus it has near perfect reviews. yesterday my SIL showed me the one they got me which is $90 but in a color i don’t like, with a smaller area to put baby things and no outside pocket. it was like they didn’t put in the effort to order the one i wanted and ordered the first one they saw at target. personally i feel awkward with these things and just said thank you and its cute but i truly don’t want it.
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Invisible Clergy posted:WIBTA to ask someone to return a baby gift i want a more expensive version of? quote:and if i just return it without them knowing they will be hurt when they see i don’t have it in my house As opposed to telling them up front that you don't want it, and that they need to pay extra for the privilege of giving you the one you do want 
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I feel like she's NTA because she pointed out the one she wanted first. The in-laws took that and bought her a cheaper one that she didn't ask for
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sephiRoth IRA posted:I searched "age gap" looking for stories, came across this one and it was too good to pass up. I can only assume it's been posted before Seems new to me. Ah, to be that young and dumb!
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Evil Willow posted:AITA for telling my friend her boyfriend can’t come to my party because of a comment he made to my boyfriend? quote:Seriously age is just a number. a phrase you never want to see in a reddit post
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r/relationships: Dude how old are you what the hell
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Kurieg posted:r/relationships: Dude how old are you what the hell
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Midnight Voyager posted:Y'all are just reminding me of this assignment one of my worst teachers gave where we had to tell a story that we learned from our family and a lesson we learned from it. More than one of us had massive problems with that assignment. One guy was like "Oh, so do you want one of the many racist stories I was told and how the moral was 'black people steal'?" The teacher was a new teacher and literally could not imagine any student not having some wholesome story our family taught us to teach us values or whatever. In 6th grade we had a thing where we had to interview and record on tape our grandparents talking about their lives and ask them various pertinent questions etc. Well, my grandmother ended up having dementia at the end of her life but was mentally unwell for most of it before that too. I followed the best practice indicated by the teacher of giving her the questions and talking through them before recording (like going okay I'm going to ask you about this this and this) and asked her if she was okay with me asking about her husband (my grandpa) who had died in the 50s and she was like yep all good, no problem at all. Well, two minutes later I put on the tape to record her and ask her about my grandpa and she starts sobbing inconsolably and asks me how dare I ask her about that and such. Really really great project, definitely didn't gently caress me up at all. vvv edit : agreed - my mom is still mad about the super expensive crib she insisted on buying that hasn't ever been used, that I told her I didn't need. hallo spacedog fucked around with this message at 01:04 on Nov 12, 2022 |
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Invisible Clergy posted:WIBTA to ask someone to return a baby gift i want a more expensive version of? It piles up fast, too. My garage is about 80% gifts family members bought and I need to dig them out for display whenever they visit.
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I'm 44 and the idea of dating a 23-year-old fills me with dismay. Eww.
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oh god, can you imagine? they'd ask you about the latest bands, want to go to music festivals in the summer heat, ask you to help them make tiktok vids, etc. i'm finally free of having to be on top of all the new poo poo, no one is pulling me back in!
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HopperUK posted:I'm 44 and the idea of dating a 23-year-old fills me with dismay. Eww. I am 39 and the thought of hanging out with 20 something year olds makes me want to jump off a bridge.
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Narcissism is just a personality trait. It's not a diagnosis of NPD. And, I think it's generally correctly applied, unlike when people use psychotic to describe someone who is mean or angry, or sociopathic to describe someone who is selfish. Those are inaccurate labels.
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Danaru posted:Still lolling that the 23 year old dunked on the 44 year old so hard he started moping, just by asking how old he was Yeah like, if you're 44 and dating a 23 year-old, and you don't see that coming, you really are lamer than loving lame.
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mind the walrus posted:Yeah like, if you're 44 and dating a 23 year-old, and you don't see that coming, you really are lamer than loving lame. If you can't handle that question and you're in an age gap relationship like that, your age gap relationship is not remotely as functional as you think it is. You should expect that FIRST THING.
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StrangersInTheNight posted:oh god, can you imagine? they'd ask you about the latest bands, want to go to music festivals in the summer heat, ask you to help them make tiktok vids, etc. i'm finally free of having to be on top of all the new poo poo, no one is pulling me back in! I'm 45 and still love going to music festivals, the ones at the wineries are fantastic! One of the people I regularly attend these with is 20 - my sister's kid. Hanging out with a bunch of early 20 year olds would not be my idea of a good time at all! r/relationships: Dude how old are you what the hell And a bit of content: AITA for expecting accommodation for my vegan boyfriend from my mom at Thanksgiving?. quote:My f24 mom had invited us to thanksgiving with her and the family. I called her saying that I'll accept the invite on one condition and that is to make sure that my vegan boyfriend m25 is accommodated. She asked what that meant and I sent her a list of options to cook for him since he can't be having any meals that contain meat and the main dish at thanksgiving is obviously meat. She got back to me later calling ridiculous for expecting her to cook an "elaborate" meal for my boyfriend. I told her I was just making sure he'll have something to eat when the time comes but she turned it back on me asking why don't I choose a meal from the list I sent her and cook it for him myself and bring it. This was a hard no from because for one, she's the host. And besides that I'm busy with school and she should consider how I sacrificed my study time to come celebrate thanksgiving with her and the family. She said that I was out of line and hung up. Dad called me and was furious sayin he could not believe this "attitude" I'm giving about the whole thing but I said that I was just making sure that my boyfriend who's a guest at their event, is accomodated that's all. We had an argument and he hung up upon telling me to get over myself. Evil Willow fucked around with this message at 01:46 on Nov 12, 2022 |
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Evil Willow posted:AITA for expecting accommodation for my vegan boyfriend from my mom at Thanksgiving?. Is it really that big of a deal to hold the butter on a couple of sides if there's going to be a vegan at the table?
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B-Rock452 posted:I am 39 and the thought of hanging out with 20 something year olds makes me want to jump off a bridge. I'm 39 and, over the last year, have become good friends with a 20-year-old that I work with. She's great, we have a lot of fun, we've supported each other through some crazy drama on both sides, and I wish I'd been more like her at her age. Her boyfriend does look like a toddler, tho.
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