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Fil5000: Jun 23, 2003; HOLD ON GUYS I'M POSTING ABOUT INTERNET ROBOTS

Halloween Jack posted:

She's 31, not 13

Also zero chance Pool would give a poo poo if a partner was enjoying the sex or not.

# ? Jan 13, 2023 18:37

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# ? May 14, 2024 04:10

Agents are GO!: Dec 29, 2004

Barudak posted:

I hate cats

Well, now I know that it's not only your video game opinions that are bad.

# ? Jan 13, 2023 18:38

Arsenic Lupin: Apr 12, 2012; This particularly rapid💨 unintelligible 😖patter💁 isn't generally heard🧏‍♂️, and if it is🤔, it doesn't matter💁.

AITA for kicking out one of my bridesmaids for showing up in the wrong dress?

quote:

My (23F) wedding was back on Saturday December 31st and I'm still getting backlash from this, so I want to know if this was an AH move.

In the country I live in it's currently winter, and we get a fair amount of snow so my wedding was a winter themed wedding. The color theme was forest green and gold. My dress was obviously white, and I chose the color of my bridesmaids dresses to be forest green as well. My MOH"s dress was black, and everyone was to wear gold accessories.

I have this friend, we'll call her Kat, that I asked to be one of my bridesmaids. When we went dress shopping and I told them the color theme I was going for, Kat immediately expressed that she thought forest green was a bad choice.

She said the thinks it's not a flattering color, and thought I should choose something different and more "girly". I said no because my wedding was winter themed and I thought the color would go perfect with the theme. She suggested a pink, blue even a red. I said no, but thanks' for your opinion. She found out my MOH"s dress was black and asked if she could wear black too? I said no, only my MOH is wearing black.

I paid for all the dresses.

Fast forward to wedding day, everyone's getting their hair and makeup done and Kat show's up 30 minutes late holding a bag that looked like it had a dress inside. I asked her what this was for? She told me it was for later on at the reception if she got uncomfortable and wanted to change after pictures. I was like ok cool.

So fast forward we're all dressed and walking down the stairs because the ceremony is beginning in 30 mins and we were going to take some pictures before. Kat is the last person to come down and she's wearing a BLACK DRESS. At the time I was preoccupied taking pictures with my parents, but my MOH came over to me and made me aware of the situation.

I confronted Kat and asked her what was going on. She said she hates her bridesmaid dress, as the color is ugly and makes her look gross so she's wearing black. I told her please go back and change. She refused and started walking away from me. I said I'm going to ask her one more time, and if she doesn't oblige I'm calling security and kicking her out. She began yelling at me to gently caress off, so I called security and asked them to please escort her out. She started making a BIG scene yelling how I'm such a bitch, that I can't force her to wear anything and that I'm a horrible inconsiderate friend.

The wedding went on and it was truly amazing.

Ever since the wedding Kat has been blowing up my phone with texts saying some really nasty thing's and asking for the money back she spent on the black dress, since it was a waste and she didn't get to wear it. I had to block her number. Some of my other bridesmaids have been giving me poo poo saying that it was a little harsh kicking her out and embarrassing her like that. And that maybe I should give her the money back. AITA for kicking her out?

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AITA for refusing to be a bridesmaid months before the wedding? (UPDATE)

quote:

Thank you for all the comments and pov�s in the last post, I want to clarify that although the bride and I are not family, I�ve always been closer with her than with my cousin.

I wanted to give an update on how everything turned out since we had �until today� to pay the $500.

Yesterday she sent a message to the weeding group chat saying that she would be changing bridesmaid and calling off the bachelorette party since only ONE (out of 16 people assisting the bachelorette party) and ONE (out of four) bridesmaids had paid. (Two, and myself bailed for the pricing.)

She asked me again, saying that the dresses were actually $35, but she was running out of funds for the bachelorette and decided that was the �best� way to pay for it.

The plans changed, we pay the $35 PERSONALLY to the seller, and accessories are optional and out choice. I advised her to give out refunds to the people who paid because it isn�t right to use other people�s money like that. And she did.

At this point i am only going as a bridesmaid for support, and even though I hate to say it I felt bad that she ended up by herself. So I agreed.

Her guests are starting to cancel, since she also tried to charge them in advance for food and drinks, I�m currently trying t help her do things right and accept that she needs to accommodate according to her budget.

And yes, we�re on good terms I think, trying to be a good friend rn.

Again, thank you all.

AITA for not showing appreciation of a gift "over a picture" ?

quote:

I�ve had the same friends group since college. Among us is a married couple (Jake and Jill) known to be a bit self-centered. We are all turning 30 in the same couple of years and they decided to make each one of us a printed photo book. Which is a nice gesture of course.

However, the books are basically fifty pages of pictures of just the two of them with the birthday person. Even from events where all of us where presents, or their family. Sometimes other people pop in, but the vast majority just excludes anyone else. They always end the photo book with a message that is supposed to be nice but always refers to their life. For instance, one of our friends was a new dad and they put a lot of picture of themselves with his baby, but not a single one of the mother. The message was �looking forward to have one of our own so they can play together!�

Every time, they pressure the birthday person to review the book in front of everyone. So here we all are, watching pictures we are not in, while they comments on how great their friendship is without acknowledging our presence, whether at the moment or when the pictures were taken.

A month ago, it was my turn to have a �surprise� birthday. I obviously got my own book. Despite me trying to put it aside by saying I would take time to enjoy it privately, they pushed me to look at it. I was commenting on the pictures and including other people in the review. Like �oh, this was us at X cabin! Remember, Y, when we all went tree climbing and you tangled yourself in the ropes?�. It was clear that Jake and Jill were not happy with how thing went.

At some point came a photo of my wedding. It is normally a picture of both of them, my husband and I, but they it resized to cut him from it. My husband saw the picture and said jokingly �can�t remember that one, where was I that day?�. Jill snapped and told him �the gift wasn�t about him�. Honestly, it pissed me off, so I closed the book and told her �it�s certainly not about me either, then�. Then got up and went to chat with someone else.

They left shortly after. She messaged me a couple of days later, stating she was hurt by my rejection because they put a lot of thought into this gift. I told her that while I appreciate the intent, it was not a smart move to cut �the husband out of a wedding picture you gift his wife�. She then replied �but the gift was for you, not for him�. I said the wedding was about the both of us. She says it�s not about the wedding. I honestly don�t know how to explain something that obvious, so I just told her to forget about it, that it�s no big deal, disagreements happen. But they won�t let go. Jake is refusing to come to any event my husband and me are in and so does Jill.

I don�t care, they�re excluding themselves, but our friends said we shouldn�t have started drama �over one picture�. I don�t think we started anything tho. AITA ?

# ? Jan 13, 2023 18:41

Agents are GO!: Dec 29, 2004

Ups_rail posted:

no one can truly own a cat

You, however, get deservedly owned all the time.

# ? Jan 13, 2023 18:46

Foo Diddley: Oct 29, 2011; cat

Involuntary Sparkle posted:

The whole thing is just so sad and I wish she'd kick the guy out

holy poo poo i hate this person so much

quote:

I could legally keep them apart, but what good would that do?

it would keep your special needs daughter from being controlled and abused by a complete piece of poo poo for the rest her life you loving rear end in a top hat! she's dependent enough that she needs a guardian at 25 and your plan is to hand her off to a family of bigots and "hope she opens her eyes"? god drat

# ? Jan 13, 2023 18:51

JacquelineDempsey: Aug 6, 2008; Women's Circuit Bender Union Local 34

Just wondering if any of the regular content posters here got any groomzilla stories? (Or from same-gender/NB marriages)

I love me a good bridezilla story, don't get me wrong, but is it that cishet women are more inclined to go bananas about weddings, or that's just what gets written about more frequently? You don't see stories of guys flipping out over the boutonnieres, or who didn't tip the strippers for the bachelor party, or... See I'm struggling to come up with examples, 'cause I never seem to read any.

# ? Jan 13, 2023 19:15

Foo Diddley: Oct 29, 2011; cat

JacquelineDempsey posted:

Just wondering if any of the regular content posters here got any groomzilla stories? (Or from same-gender/NB marriages)

I love me a good bridezilla story, don't get me wrong, but is it that cishet women are more inclined to go bananas about weddings, or that's just what gets written about more frequently? You don't see stories of guys flipping out over the boutonnieres, or who didn't tip the strippers for the bachelor party, or... See I'm struggling to come up with examples, 'cause I never seem to read any.

it might be because there's no societal expectation that a wedding is held for the groom's sake

# ? Jan 13, 2023 19:23

Hughlander: May 11, 2005

JacquelineDempsey posted:

Just wondering if any of the regular content posters here got any groomzilla stories? (Or from same-gender/NB marriages)

I love me a good bridezilla story, don't get me wrong, but is it that cishet women are more inclined to go bananas about weddings, or that's just what gets written about more frequently? You don't see stories of guys flipping out over the boutonnieres, or who didn't tip the strippers for the bachelor party, or... See I'm struggling to come up with examples, 'cause I never seem to read any.

It seems most of the Groomzilla stories are, "I want my mommy to run rampart all over this wedding."

# ? Jan 13, 2023 19:26

TehRedWheelbarrow: Mar 16, 2011; Fan of Britches

that only works if there are both castles and cannons so not a common occurrence even for a wedding.

# ? Jan 13, 2023 19:27

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JacquelineDempsey posted:

Just wondering if any of the regular content posters here got any groomzilla stories? (Or from same-gender/NB marriages)

I love me a good bridezilla story, don't get me wrong, but is it that cishet women are more inclined to go bananas about weddings, or that's just what gets written about more frequently? You don't see stories of guys flipping out over the boutonnieres, or who didn't tip the strippers for the bachelor party, or... See I'm struggling to come up with examples, 'cause I never seem to read any.

A lot of women are socialized that that is the ONE DAY their opinion matters, and they want to make the most of it.

# ? Jan 13, 2023 19:28

Captain Hygiene: Sep 17, 2007; You mess with the crabbo...

I remember reading some, but the ones I can think of are more about the groom wanting to have someone in the wedding party that the bride doesn't want, or things like differing expectations/lies about bachelor parties. I don't immediately remember any focused more on the style or decorations, I also think there's something to do with the general societal ideas about "traditional" weddings that feeds into that.

e: oh yeah, and a lot of future MIL terrors

# ? Jan 13, 2023 19:29

haveblue: Aug 15, 2005; Toilet Rascal

Yeah, it�s a cultural gender difference. Men are discouraged from caring that much about weddings and women are encouraged to. Plus the things to zilla out over are traditionally feminine interests (clothes, food, decor)

# ? Jan 13, 2023 19:31

TehRedWheelbarrow: Mar 16, 2011; Fan of Britches

if you have ever been in an indian or saudi wedding there probably a lot more groomzillas that arent posted about on reddit, my second marriage was into a fairly affluent indian family and oh my god my brother in law threw a loving fit that the elephant he rode into the wedding pavilion wasnt masculine enough. (its traditional)

oh and doweries are still a thing

# ? Jan 13, 2023 19:34

Captain Hygiene: Sep 17, 2007; You mess with the crabbo...

drat, I think I might be back on board with weddings if I could ride an elephant in to one

# ? Jan 13, 2023 19:36

Andrast: Apr 21, 2010

TehRedWheelbarrow posted:

if you have ever been in an indian or saudi wedding there probably a lot more groomzillas that arent posted about on reddit, my second marriage was into a fairly affluent indian family and oh my god my brother in law threw a loving fit that the elephant he rode into the wedding pavilion wasnt masculine enough. (its traditional)

oh and doweries are still a thing

what's the difference between a very masculine elephant and normal elephant

# ? Jan 13, 2023 19:38

TehRedWheelbarrow: Mar 16, 2011; Fan of Britches

marry an indian lady

its pretty rad, other than the whole caste thing (which doesnt exist, but does) or be the firstborn son of an indian family of means

# ? Jan 13, 2023 19:39

TehRedWheelbarrow: Mar 16, 2011; Fan of Britches

Andrast posted:

what's the difference between a very masculine elephant and normal elephant

the penis

# ? Jan 13, 2023 19:39

olylifter: Sep 13, 2007; I'm bad with money and you have an avatar!

Bf [36M] wants me [23F] to buy him a gun
So, we�ve been dating almost two years. He told me I have to fill out some forms in the morning. I asked for what? He says firearm permit stuff. I say I�m not comfortable buying a gun. Then he gets upset and says well then he can�t have a gun to go hunting with his kids. I said again I�m sorry but I don�t want a gun. He threw his phone and sulked still mad he can�t get a gun for a couple more years and he can�t take his kids hunting because I won�t fill out the license stuff. I tell him it�s not my fault and he sulks more. Im definitely not filling out any forms to get someone else who is unlicensed a gun :/ advice for how to handle this argument in the future? I have a lot of anxiety about arguments and the tone and actions he does while he talk make them harder. I don�t feel like I�m rational saying no to all the things I do but he expects me to do a lot.

This can't be real. I don't believe it's real.

# ? Jan 13, 2023 19:40

Zulily Zoetrope: Jun 1, 2011; Muldoon

Yeah all the examples that come to mind of guys ruining their weddings involve a third party, either an overbearing mother or a "tells it like it is" best friend they simply can't do without, being allowed to do the actual ruining.

dudes need to step up their game

# ? Jan 13, 2023 19:41

mllaneza: Apr 28, 2007; Veteran, Bermuda Triangle Expeditionary Force, 1993-1952

Foo Diddley posted:

it would keep your special needs daughter from being controlled and abused by a complete piece of poo poo for the rest her life you loving rear end in a top hat! she's dependent enough that she needs a guardian at 25 and your plan is to hand her off to a family of bigots and "hope she opens her eyes"? god drat

It sounds like they're worried that if they put their foot down that the daughter will run off and cut contact and end up completely isolated. As it is, they can keep an eye on the kids and have some influence.

# ? Jan 13, 2023 19:42

tactlessbastard: Feb 4, 2001; Godspeed, post; Fun Shoe

olylifter posted:

Bf [36M] wants me [23F] to buy him a gun
So, we’ve been dating almost two years. He told me I have to fill out some forms in the morning. I asked for what? He says firearm permit stuff. I say I’m not comfortable buying a gun. Then he gets upset and says well then he can’t have a gun to go hunting with his kids. I said again I’m sorry but I don’t want a gun. He threw his phone and sulked still mad he can’t get a gun for a couple more years and he can’t take his kids hunting because I won’t fill out the license stuff. I tell him it’s not my fault and he sulks more. Im definitely not filling out any forms to get someone else who is unlicensed a gun :/ advice for how to handle this argument in the future? I have a lot of anxiety about arguments and the tone and actions he does while he talk make them harder. I don’t feel like I’m rational saying no to all the things I do but he expects me to do a lot.

This can't be real. I don't believe it's real.

Somebody's got a felony!

# ? Jan 13, 2023 19:42

TehRedWheelbarrow: Mar 16, 2011; Fan of Britches

if the lady has guardianship she can do whatever.

doing it without destroying her relationship with her daughter is a completely different matter, but i drat sure wouldnt tolerate some half rear end proto magachud in my home for a year.

# ? Jan 13, 2023 19:43

Cythereal: Nov 8, 2009; I love the potoo,
and the potoo loves you.

JacquelineDempsey posted:

Just wondering if any of the regular content posters here got any groomzilla stories? (Or from same-gender/NB marriages)

I love me a good bridezilla story, don't get me wrong, but is it that cishet women are more inclined to go bananas about weddings, or that's just what gets written about more frequently? You don't see stories of guys flipping out over the boutonnieres, or who didn't tip the strippers for the bachelor party, or... See I'm struggling to come up with examples, 'cause I never seem to read any.

I've known one groomzilla, but he was neurodivergent in some form (don't know exactly what) and the stress of the wedding kicked his tendencies to make everything exactly as they should be according to specifications and schedule into overdrive.

He was fairly normal before and after, but he visibly lost weight in the months leading up to the wedding because he was under so much stress.

# ? Jan 13, 2023 19:47

therobit: Aug 19, 2008; I've been tryin' to speak with you for a long time

tactlessbastard posted:

Somebody's got a felony!

He could still go black powder or archery if hunting is actually what he wants to do. The felon hunters I have known all went black powder but a major plot device in The Dukes of Hazard was that they used bows because as felons they couldn�t own a gun.

# ? Jan 13, 2023 19:47

Foo Diddley: Oct 29, 2011; cat

mllaneza posted:

It sounds like they're worried that if they put their foot down that the daughter will run off and cut contact and end up completely isolated. As it is, they can keep an eye on the kids and have some influence.

ah, that makes sense i guess

tactlessbastard posted:

Somebody's got a felony!

and wants his gf to commit some of her own!

# ? Jan 13, 2023 19:48

therobit: Aug 19, 2008; I've been tryin' to speak with you for a long time

The BATFE has a very poor track record on bothering to prosecute straw purchasers so probably she wouldn�t face any consequences.

# ? Jan 13, 2023 19:54

TehRedWheelbarrow: Mar 16, 2011; Fan of Britches

there is probably a valid reason not to get dipshit mcgee a gun even if there is no straw purchase prosecution though.

# ? Jan 13, 2023 19:56

Foo Diddley: Oct 29, 2011; cat

therobit posted:

The BATFE has a very poor track record on bothering to prosecute straw purchasers so probably she wouldn�t face any consequences.

not from the law, maybe

some redditor posted:

Think of it this way, OP:

When he was reacting angrily towards you, throwing things around, and being bizarrely demanding and unreasonable, do you think the situation would have been made better had he had access to a gun at that moment?

# ? Jan 13, 2023 19:56

Doctor Butts: May 21, 2002

I'm actually surprised at the backbone that the lady who is in their early 20's has. Especially when she's dating someone 13 years older that has kids.

I'm sure she's being used by him in other ways. Hope she sees it for herself.

# ? Jan 13, 2023 19:59

B-Rock452: Jan 6, 2005

therobit posted:

The BATFE has a very poor track record on bothering to prosecute straw purchasers so probably she wouldn�t face any consequences.

At least in PA the AGs office is very aggressive with prosecuting straw purchases and it's a mandatory 5 to 10 year sentence of convicted.

# ? Jan 13, 2023 19:59

Noir89: Oct 9, 2012; I made a dumdum

mllaneza posted:

It sounds like they're worried that if they put their foot down that the daughter will run off and cut contact and end up completely isolated. As it is, they can keep an eye on the kids and have some influence.

It's this but the goons in this thread love to judge everything in absolutes. It is loving obvious in this case the mom hates the idiot bf but is afraid to loose her relationship to her daughter if she forces the issue.

It's piss easy to say "durr just do it, save ur daughter" when not being the one taking the risk.

# ? Jan 13, 2023 19:59

TehRedWheelbarrow: Mar 16, 2011; Fan of Britches

Noir89 posted:

It's piss easy to say "durr just do it, save ur daughter" when not being the one taking the risk.

this

# ? Jan 13, 2023 20:02

mllaneza: Apr 28, 2007; Veteran, Bermuda Triangle Expeditionary Force, 1993-1952

olylifter posted:

This can't be real. I don't believe it's real.

By her post history, it's all too real. Reddit consensus is RUN.

# ? Jan 13, 2023 20:03

JacquelineDempsey: Aug 6, 2008; Women's Circuit Bender Union Local 34

^^^ oh I hope she listens to them, because that one legit scared me.

TehRedWheelbarrow posted:

the penis

Sooo... He got a female elephant to ride, or a male but the dick wasn't big enough?

(Sorry to pry but the consensus seems to be that it's slim pickings when it comes to groomzillas. Thanks for the replies y'all!)

JacquelineDempsey fucked around with this message at 20:12 on Jan 13, 2023

# ? Jan 13, 2023 20:09

TehRedWheelbarrow: Mar 16, 2011; Fan of Britches

it was a female elephant.

also for context this was the song he was riding an elephant to

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mhxRBa7zaOI

a :krad:

beat but lol the BIL was kind of a spoiled baby bitch.

# ? Jan 13, 2023 20:17

Failed Imagineer: Sep 22, 2018

TehRedWheelbarrow posted:

it was a female elephant.

also for context this was the song he was riding an elephant to

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mhxRBa7zaOI

a beat but lol the BIL was kind of a spoiled baby bitch.

Lol that I knew exactly what song it would be before I clicked - an all time banger.

E:
On so-called "groomzillas", not to be too stereotypical but I have observed this phenomenon in a gay dude wedding where both guys seemed to get pretty wound up.

Also I imagine that fragile dude who cried about the otter plushie would be pretty interesting as a groom. Luckily, that's not likely ever to be a concern

Failed Imagineer fucked around with this message at 20:25 on Jan 13, 2023

# ? Jan 13, 2023 20:23

TehRedWheelbarrow: Mar 16, 2011; Fan of Britches

solid af

# ? Jan 13, 2023 20:25

cumpantry: Dec 18, 2020

olylifter posted:

Bf [36M] wants me [23F] to buy him a gun
So, we�ve been dating almost two years. He told me I have to fill out some forms in the morning. I asked for what? He says firearm permit stuff. I say I�m not comfortable buying a gun. Then he gets upset and says well then he can�t have a gun to go hunting with his kids. I said again I�m sorry but I don�t want a gun. He threw his phone and sulked still mad he can�t get a gun for a couple more years and he can�t take his kids hunting because I won�t fill out the license stuff. I tell him it�s not my fault and he sulks more. Im definitely not filling out any forms to get someone else who is unlicensed a gun :/ advice for how to handle this argument in the future? I have a lot of anxiety about arguments and the tone and actions he does while he talk make them harder. I don�t feel like I�m rational saying no to all the things I do but he expects me to do a lot.

This can't be real. I don't believe it's real.

i dont see why the dad of two who throws his phone and sulks when he cant get what he wants cant have a gun or two. he needs to wisen up and dump op's rear end

# ? Jan 13, 2023 20:30

Foo Diddley: Oct 29, 2011; cat

cumpantry posted:

i dont see why the dad of two who throws his phone and sulks when he cant get what he wants cant have a gun or two. he needs to wisen up and dump op's rear end

yeah he can do better, there's plenty of girls out there who will let him use the n word and commit felonies for him

# ? Jan 13, 2023 20:32

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cumpantry: Dec 18, 2020

Foo Diddley posted:

yeah he can do better, there's plenty of girls out there who will let him use the n word and commit felonies for him

lol

r/relationships: He threw his phone and sulked still mad he can�t get a gun

# ? Jan 13, 2023 20:37

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