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potentiallycool posted:I know that delayed ejaculation is a side effect of SSRI medication and fixing it is not a simple solution. My previous girlfriend had a very low libido (another issue entirely) and so time between sex was infrequent and I found it easy to orgasm. With my current partner we don't often have sex in the week because of our work schedules and her libido is quite high. Last weekend we had six times which is a lot for me. I was the same way when I was on Prozac - I could go pretty much forever (until I got dehydrated and exhausted). I never found a great way around it other than concentrating on how good it feels really hard and trying to think sexy thoughts (basically the opposite of what I try to do now that I'm not on it any more). Ultimately, I just stopped taking meds, but that's probably not an option for you. I know this sounds really, really insensitive, but as someone who has been in the exact same situation as you, my advice is "enjoy it." Because you (probably) won't be on SSRI's forever, and as annoying as it is now, it's the one thing you'll miss. Hell, it's basically like having a superpower. A sexy superpower that drives girls wild.
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Geoj posted:My wife is a prolific squirter (has been known to soak through a comforter, blanket, both sheets and into the mattress pad) and we keep a collection of old bath towels in the bedroom specifically for this reason. You can just buy a mattress protector. There's no stigma attached to them, you barely notice them (since they go under your sheets, they're waterproof, and they keep your mattress like new. It's even useful for when you're NOT having sex (since sweat gets through your sheets and yellows the mattress). Also, it's helped a few times when my wife had some particularly heavy periods. http://www.amazon.com/Queen-Size-SureGuard-Mattress-Protector/dp/B00EJOYNBA Just throw it in the wash once a week (or when it gets dirty).
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Vogler posted:No, I mean I have trouble even when using my hand. The hole is lower than you would first assume. If you keep missing, you're aiming too high (or low, in the case of doggy style). You can try starting with the head on her clit and sliding down until it goes in.
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Apr 30, 2014 19:53
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Herv posted:Hit the doctor. Do you have high blood pressure? Edit: Misread
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Apr 30, 2014 21:59
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mmm11105 posted:I have a condom sizing question. I have a rather girthy penis (just over 5.75" around the shaft), and therefore regular condoms are way too tight. Based on what I read online, the only real options for me that are available around store where I live (rural-ish Canada) are either the Magnum XL or possibly the regular Magnum. Buh posted:Just try them all, one at a time. Get single condoms from a sex store or a sample pack from eBay, or else just burn through a few packets for the sake of getting it right. Wank with them so you don't get stuck with a bad fit when you're about to have sex. I use the Magnum XXL due to girth, even though I don't justify it in length (7.5ish). Just roll them until you reach the base and don't worry if there is still some rolled up. Alternatively, you can order them online: http://www.coripa.com/
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loki k zen posted:Mostly I used it cause I can't think of a better word for 'occasion in which sex things are done up to and including what most people categorize as loving but also other stuff, or just the other stuff, whatever floats your boat' and didn't wanna start another derail on what counts as 'sex'. The correct answer was already posted. 
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May 9, 2014 16:48
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hoobajoo posted:Practice edging and do kegels. That'll give you a good sense of when you're getting close, and you can slow down or switch positions before you pop. This is the first time I've heard of someone using kegels in the context of a guy. I mean, I guess we still have that muscle and can sit there flexing it, but it's still weird to think about.
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May 16, 2014 04:34
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Does anyone have a recommendation for larger condoms that aren't thick as party balloons? I'm using Trojan Magnum XLs with my current partner, but I'm unable to orgasm during sex. For awhile, it wasn't a problem, but now it's starting to make my partner feel self conscious that she's not able to make me orgasm. I'm in the US. Help me, goons!
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Mar 31, 2015 14:09
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bowmore posted:I don't have condom rec's but maybe more foreplay would help you orgasm? The problem is that she's extremely... submissive in bed. I'm "running the show," as it were.
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Mar 31, 2015 14:13
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FactsAreUseless posted:Yeah, inflatable dolls tend to be. Maybe some day I'll be able to afford one that isn't used, and I won't have to use a condom any more! Anne Whateley posted:So tell her to do what you want, duh. I have a box of Skyn. Same problem. I'll try asking her to do more foreplay-type stuff and see if that helps. Thanks.
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Mar 31, 2015 15:47
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gently caress da Mods posted:laying silently and staring off into space ≠ extremely submissive Nah, she's usually on her phone playing flappy bird or some poo poo.
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Apr 1, 2015 05:35
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Masonity posted:That's not submissive. That's bored and not really into you. 
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Apr 1, 2015 14:59
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cash crab posted:a company called kimono makes ultra-thins. they're fairly large. They're long enough, but not wide enough. http://www.kimono-condoms.com/condom-size.html The MicroThin Large might be wide enough. I'll give them a shot. Thanks.
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LoonShia posted:I think I speak for all of us when I say: tell us how big your cock is. No. http://www.condom-sizes.org/condom-sizes/suggested-condom-width-in-relation-to-penis-circumference Using this chart, a Magnum XL is just about right, girth-wise, which matches my experience. HTH! Vahakyla posted:I've found out that a regular condom goes around a fire extinguisher. Use this info to your advantage. I wore a regular size condom once, back when I didn't know any better. It felt like I was trying to play basketball with shoes 2 sizes too small. It also split like a hotdog on the grill. Finding a pharmacy that carried the morning after pill at 11pm was a fun time. Use this info to your advantage. Edit: Almost forgot, I tried the Skyn large again because I hadn't tried them in awhile. They're not really too thick - just too small. 
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Apr 6, 2015 14:12
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cash crab posted:Since I don't actually own a dick, I'm not sure how uncomfortable it is to wear something that needs to stretch significantly to accommodate me. Extremely.
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Apr 6, 2015 16:44
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^^^ This, but child size stockings instead of socks. Add imagine it on your boobs instead of your feet.Mechafunkzilla posted:Fire extinguishers don't have a urethra that gets pinched when a condom is too tight at the base hth Well, they kind of do. It's just made of inch-thick cast iron.
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Apr 6, 2015 16:58
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The Door Frame posted:So a training bra over C-cups? Only with the pressure for it to be a comfortable and enjoyable experience I have no idea what you're trying to say. Using condoms that are too small should be a comfortable and enjoyable experience and using large condoms is like eating jello off the floor? What?
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Apr 6, 2015 19:35
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Mechafunkzilla posted:Fire extinguishers depressurize and result in people burning to death when their seals fail which is arguably worse We're talking about how my dick is apparently the size of a fire extinguisher, but should still fit a normal size condom because *thing I saw on Youtube*. Edit: Where should I buy the Kimonos from? Amazon doesn't sell them directly and the only listed seller is "Chubby Dick Emporium" which I don't really trust. KillHour fucked around with this message at 19:58 on Apr 6, 2015 |
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Apr 6, 2015 19:49
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gently caress da Mods posted:so a magnum size dong can abort a fetus via the butt? please c/d Duh. How else would gay abortions work? Dumbass.
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Apr 16, 2015 23:43
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hoobajoo posted:The sooner you stop thinking sex should or has to end with orgasm, the sooner you can start having good sex. Seriously, as long as you and her have fun, it doesn't matter at all. Seriously. I rarely orgasm during sex, but that's fine because it just means I can keep having sex for longer!
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Apr 26, 2015 04:48
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89 posted:Basically, I need to stop masturbating for a while if we start dating (early to say, but it's looking up), right? You need to stop worrying. If you've been gong at it awhile and she can't continue (hey, it happens - poo poo starts to hurt), do other stuff. Ask her to give you a BJ. If you just made her cum 4 times, I don't think she'll be opposed to a little reciprocation. Or better yet, if you know you're in for a long one, START with the other stuff. PS: She's on BC, right? Pulling out isn't going to make a big difference on the effectiveness of that, so don't worry about it. Likewise, pulling out isn't going to stop her from getting pregnant if she's not, so don't fool yourself.
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89 posted:But yeah, if this keeps going, it'll definitely be time for a birth control question pretty soon. You don't know?  
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Your condom shouldn't be falling off, even with a half-chub. It might be too big. Don't masturbate for like a week, then try to have sex. If you still get soft, see your doctor (or just stop wearing a condom if she's clean and on BC, I guess). Nobody cares if you call yourself a virgin or not, so go wild and brag to your friends about how much of a stud you are.
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hoobajoo posted:Oh my god stop gooning out over sex. You are having fun and feeling good with a nice lady, it does not matter if your dick sneezes or not. You obviously have a ton of anxiety around sex, and it won't magically go away after one or two tries, you need to accept that it'll take some time to work through. The more you worry about the "right" way to have sex, the less you'll enjoy it, and the harder it will be to orgasm. This is common with guys that lose their virginity later, but it's not some witch's curse that can't be undone, you just need practice. Think about it, have you ever expected to be good at something the first time you try it? No, because sucking at something is the first step to being kinda good at something, so just relax and focus on the journey. And make sure you talk to your girl and explain what's going on, people are very understanding. Also this. Next time you see her, don't have sex. Just have her give you a blow job or something. Then you can finger her / eat her out / gently caress her with a dildo all night and both of you can get off without the pressure of performing. Once you get comfortable doing that stuff to each other, vaginal sex should be no big deal and just another way you two can have fun. Turtlicious posted:Hey guys, I've been lasting for like an hour long, and I think I'm too girthy, what should I do? I thought I'd be the god of sex, but my girlfriend finishes after about 15 minutes, and I'm just kind of left wanking, and the whole feels too tight. Is there anything I can do to be a little less big / cum quicker? This, but unironically. 
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Mak0rz posted:I know it's not exactly what you were asking, but: Goon does dumb thing; story at 11.
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asvodel posted:I do not have a foreskin And we're telling you your preconceived notions of sex are too narrow and are what is causing you to get hung up. Instead of trying to have "sex" how about trying to have fun. You'll find that if you're having fun, the sex comes naturally. Also yeah, I thought you meant sliding off, not rolling down. Don't use a condom that's too small - they can split.
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asvodel posted:The condoms are not free they are trojan brand I bought them Masturbation almost always feels better than sex with a condom. Sex without a condom may or may not feel better than masturbation. Sex is still more fun either way because you get to play with her tits and/or smack her rear end (depending on position). HTH. Edit: Have you only tried one position? Try doggie. I find positions where the girl is on top to not be very fun (for me) with a condom on because there's not as much up and down motion. KillHour fucked around with this message at 20:48 on Apr 26, 2015 |
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asvodel posted:Oh this is actually pretty much exactly accurate to my recent experience, just not what I would have expected with expressions like "feels better than sex" and all of the hype associated with it. I'm 6'3" and doggie works fine. Have her kneel at the edge of the bed and stand behind her. That way she can adjust her height to match. Being on the bottom is harder because you don't have control. If you're having issues keeping it up, that's probably why.
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Turtlicious posted:Warning, some people have a penis too small to do doggie, hitting her when she laughs at you (she will laugh!) will not increase penis length. I feel like there's no way that's possible since her vagina is like right on your crotch. Doggy style is the deepest method of penetration I can think of short of cutting your dick off and using it like a dildo. Maybe if you had a micro penis it might be an issue? But I feel like sex in general would be an issue at that point.
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John Lee posted:This seems like more of a personal thing, and not something that'd be true for all people. Like, I feel there'd be some significant variation in the population on this subject. I mean that it's harder to control your orgasms. Sometimes I'm on the bottom and I can't get there because the rhythm is off or whatever and sometimes I'm on the bottom and I cum in 30 seconds because the timing is just right and I can't pace myself or slow down. Either way, it's much harder to manage the experience if you're not in control of the movement.
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QuelleFuck posted:Newer sex havers: try masturbating with a condom on! You'll have more opportunities to figure out what brand works best for your dillz, how much lube feels good, and you can get your dick used to the sensation of safe sex so you'll stop barebacking on the first date jfc. Also, jerking off with a condom on makes cleanup easier. #Lifehack
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cash crab posted:I'm an antsy person, so if my boyfriend is getting all grabby fingers at me in his sleep, I can't imagine me not waking up for it. Although now I'm wondering how many times we've had sex while he's still partially asleep. It happens more than you think. Last time I had morning sex with my girlfriend, I had no idea she was still asleep until she woke up mid-coitus and said "Oh hi! What's up?" Then again, she's a REALLY deep sleeper and tends to sleep talk. We've had whole conversations she swears never happened and I've woken up to her burying my face in her boobs more than once.  Edit: If you sleep (literally) with someone regularly, it's probably a good idea to establish ground-rules regarding sleep sex. I personally don't care if a girl I'm with wants to have a little fun-time in the middle of the night but some people understandably don't like it. KillHour fucked around with this message at 22:13 on Apr 28, 2015 |
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John Lee posted:I've never had sleep sex to my knowledge, but the concept is one of the things that creeps me out, because it is technically rape, and from then on your partner can ruin your entire life any time they want. You couldn't even deny it to a judge; "Well, yes, I had sex with her when she didn't consent nor was capable of consent, but I guess I just didn't think it was a big deal at the time?" Consent is one of those things that sounds like it should be straight forward, but really isn't. Like, if both parties are drunk, was there consent? How about high? If both parties are sleeping? If one of the parties is sleeping but the other one doesn't know (like in my case)? You could go by the standard of needing an explicit "Yes, let's have sex," but that's pretty rare in practice and it's possible to give explicit consent without being mentally capable of doing so (such as in the examples above). Sometimes, you just have to trust that the person you're with knows your boundries and won't take advantage of them.
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Crap posted:you raped her Oh no! Will the police know? What will my mother think? Is that why she only made me 2 strips of bacon that morning? 
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Edit: ^^ You're no fun.bowmore posted:Yeah my girlfriend has had whole conversations with me that she didn't realise that I was sleep talking until the next day Were they sexy conversations? You might have gotten word-raped. Better go to the police, just in case.
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If you rob a bank while sleeping, are you criminally responsible? This is important! Please send the answer to my lawyer; TIA. Edit: "PYF things you've done while sleeping."
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Stop jacking off with shampoo. You're probably sensitive to one of the fragrances or solvents in it or it got inside your urethra. Go to the corner store and use real lube next time like an adult instead of a 14 year old using whatever he can get his hands on. Edit: Wait; if you don't have lube, how the gently caress are you sticking stuff in your rear end? Please tell me you're not covering a dildo in shampoo and going to town on yourself. 
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Ausmund posted:I was drunk and ran out of lube. I took a shower immediatley afterwards as well. Didn't think it would be an issue, but I've been pretty worried about it. Also I think you're confusing me with the other Thunderdome Loser avatar poster. Yeah, I was. Sorry, shampoo lube guy, for confusing you with auto prostate stimulation guy. If it doesn't get better in a day or two, see a doctor.
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cash crab posted:I knew a girl who used conditioner as an anal lube once. Honestly, if you don't have lube, stop improvising. You can wait a day or two until you get lube. Stop jerking off with hair products. However, if you must, conditioner does work better because it doesn't have soap in it.... Still, use real lube. Especially internally.
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feedmegin posted:So what we're saying is American men have small dicks? No, they just want to feel better about themselves by needing to buy the larger size. My dick isn't really all that big, but finding one that fits me properly is a bitch and a half.
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