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Mr. Nice! posted:I have my facebook settings set so no tags of me appear unless i approve them. People tag me in poo poo all the time but my name doesn't show up unless i approve it. what screen is this setting on? I cannot find it.
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# ¿ Mar 1, 2017 16:37 |
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# ¿ May 14, 2024 04:22 |
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CommieGIR posted:This happened in Brazil: can you give a safe-ish rundown for those of us who don't want to click something deemed brain-warping?
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# ¿ Mar 9, 2017 05:50 |
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Liquid Communism posted:It's always funny to read this, then wonder how exactly we have anyone left alive in the US at all, given that there are more privately owned guns than people floating around here. It's almost like that statistic is meaningless because assault is statistically speaking rare enough that the also rare incident of accident with a dangerous object has a similar prevalence! http://www.vocativ.com/culture/lgbt/transgender-suicide/ 41% of transgender people have attempted suicide. Arming trans people just converts those attempts into successes. It's a terrible idea. The only way to protect the trans community is to get people to stop being bystanders to violence against minorities.
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# ¿ Mar 9, 2017 16:18 |
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Easy Salmon Recipe posted:This right here. The moment the LGBT community arms up and GROUPS up, we'll be safer. Bigots are cowardly as gently caress, and unlikely to try to mass, as LGBT rights crossed the 50% approval mark close to a decade ago at this point. Thus, making it about attacking a community, rather than a person, makes it a lot less likely that some inbred piece of poo poo is going to try and take out his daddy issues on one of us, because that will end with him outnumbered and outgunned. Um, I think this is one of the places where we do a disservice to everyone in the acronym by treating LGBT as a single cohesive group. People might be past 50% support for the most adorable and clean-cut gay couples' ability to get married, but lesbians are still often treated like they just need a good dicking from the right man to go straight, bi people are treated as invisible or worse, and trans people currently have psychopaths monitoring our bathroom activities lest we succumb to the allure of child flesh. There are some rights and causes that unify us, but when you're talking about personal safety issues and public approval issues, the trans community has a long, long way to go to stack up with cute white gay dads in the JC Penney catalog or whatever.
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# ¿ Mar 10, 2017 17:42 |
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Easy Salmon Recipe posted:Those laws seem to be roundly rejected by all but the most incurable fascists. I think you'd see a lot of queer people get shot by hillbillies claiming that the queer person was menacing them and they had to stand their ground.
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# ¿ Mar 10, 2017 21:24 |
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come see my cover band Gay Panic! At The Disco next saturday.
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# ¿ Mar 13, 2017 15:58 |
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Rent-A-Cop posted:If you aren't listening to PWR BTTM you're doing it wrong. I loving love pwr bttm. Dairy Queen is the best song.
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# ¿ Mar 13, 2017 18:19 |
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Aleph Null posted:There are transphobic people who are transgender on these very forums even.
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# ¿ Mar 17, 2017 21:13 |
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Thalantos posted:Culture at large is transphobic. I tend not to think of transphobia out of ignorance as the same thing, as it can generally be corrected. I'm thinking only of people who hold a genuine hatred in their hearts for transgender people.
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# ¿ Mar 19, 2017 16:23 |
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Gorilla Salad posted:From the schadenfreude thread: I don't like describing this as schadenfreude. I know it's not in the literal definition of the word, but I feel like there's a subtext that the downfall is an appropriate mirror to the thing they did. I don't like the idea of "caught loving children" as schadenfreude for being mean to trans people.
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# ¿ Mar 21, 2017 15:18 |
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BigRed0427 posted:Ok, took me awhile but i found their post again. drat, Facebook does not make finding things easy. Two things to know when you read this. 1: This person does the organizing for all the trans related events in our area, including TDOR and the Trans day of Visibility that was recently held. Also, their family is Russian so that might be where the "Russiaphobia' stuff is comming from tankies are the loving worst. "i will ignore all the crimes of not-communist dictatorships lest people use <<hey russia>> as an argument against communism. also i poo poo my pants and do not buy new ones because clean pants are an effete distraction of the bourgeoisie."
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# ¿ Apr 17, 2017 04:33 |
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PT6A posted:There's also a strong undercurrent of nationalism in Eastern Europe: Admitting to your country having done something wrong would be tantamount to saying that, possibly, your heritage is not the most superior one in the world (which is constantly and unfairly put upon by pernicious external influences, which one must constantly be on guard against) and, well, that would just be intolerable. Tankies are Western commies though. Aging American and British trots who defend everything China, Russia, or Korea do lest it besmirch the superiority of communism.
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# ¿ Apr 17, 2017 19:51 |
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PT6A posted:Right, I was talking specifically about the person BigRed was quoting, who was of Russian descent. Gotcha. My brain shut down on that post before I saw who the quote came from.
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# ¿ Apr 17, 2017 20:04 |
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VitalSigns posted:The gay Trump-voters I know (mostly from Dallas, natch) love Mike Pence and are fine with this because they think only the 'bad' kind of gay people get discriminated against while the good wholesome kind (them) won't have any problem maybe the tankies were right bougie rear end gay dudes.
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# ¿ May 4, 2017 16:12 |
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Guavanaut posted:The 'bad' kind of gay people like those born into homophobic families who were lied to that you can shock the gay out of children? i think in this case he meant that they are referring to those hedonistic gays who spend their lives in a continuous orgy of hot man sex that is totally and absolutely occurring on a larger scale and not at all made up in well-to-do white people's heads.
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# ¿ May 4, 2017 19:52 |
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Prester Jane posted:Fair enough, I'll keep my material out of this thread going forewards. It's not a perfect fit, but if you wanted to have a more extended/serious discussion about ACE again I'm sure most people in TGRS would be OK with a thread there as long as it was clear how it tied into suppressing minority identities and such. And we all know you didn't mean any harm
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# ¿ May 25, 2017 15:56 |
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joat mon posted:No, I agree with you that having to be angry about Muslims is stupid. what the gently caress is wrong with you? religions are massive entities organized of individuals with differing philosophies. corporations and police forces are unified entities that act unilaterally from the policy laid out by their leadership. it's entirely different. nobody's kicking Unitarian Universalists out of pride parades because their relationship to, say, holy rollers is basically a tiny amount of shared vocabulary. Meanwhile, police as an institution have centuries of of history of using their power to maintain the status quo even when that status quo is the creation of underclasses of human beings based on their sex or skin color. This is a common feature of all police departments nearly uniformly. Even in "liberal bastions" like New York, Chicago, San Francisco, and so on, police have long track records of beating up and killing black people and queer people to this very day. meanwhile the vast majority of muslims mostly want to live their lives in peace and leave others in peace.
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# ¿ Jun 12, 2017 21:57 |
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Ayin posted:My GP has a little flyer at the check-in desk asking that patients specify their gender identity at each visit, to ensure that the staff don't make any mistakes. I would never write down anything related to my gender on a piece of paper in Alabama regardless of context. Plenty of trans people have been murdered by bigoted clinical staff who saw information they didn't need to see. It's an issue we're struggling with mightily in how to properly store gender information in our EMR.
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# ¿ Jun 14, 2017 15:25 |
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Thalantos posted:Yeah, that person doesn't hang out in any of the Troon threads or what have you. I don't feel safe in the cccc thread because a certain people involved in doxxing still post there and for obvious reasons I'm in a total social media lockdown these days. You can pm me if you want the drama about the tgrs thread but I got some threats so I'm not gonna talk about it here.
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# ¿ Oct 12, 2017 23:32 |
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I'm in the same boat where I used to operate under the assumption that people just lie to my face and then act like assholes when I'm not there, and that was reinforced by a lot of childhood and teenage trauma unrelated to being trans, and it took me 2 years working with an extremely good therapist (the 3rd I'd tried over the course of transitioning) to get to the point where someone could compliment me and I could accept that they were being factual rather than "just being nice". That lack of trust in people's intentions is a particularly nasty brainworm because it's reinforced by a lot of real lived experience for most of us, and it can be really hard to switch from having your guard up among strangers to having your walls down around people you know. And as Thalantos says, if the people you know are doing that poo poo, you need to cut them out of your life because it's not good for you to have 0 places where you can relax and trust the people around you. That path leads to anxiety and depression.
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# ¿ Oct 17, 2017 18:53 |
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FantasticExtrusion posted:When I said the spectre of homophobia was a fading ghost, I said fading, not gone. A lot of closed-door examples from people who grew up in a different era and are dying. Some pandering from politicos for a demo grab. Call someone "loving human being" at WalMart in an unironic way and look at what the random sample of eyes say about it. I'm so happy for you. For trans people the hate is still right out in the open, everywhere. We get called trannies on the street, people follow us to the bathroom or the car, we get kicked out of changing rooms in department stores, we're murdered at a much higher rate than other groups, our suicide rate is through the roof, and our own government is at the forefront of finding new ways to persecute us. If you have stuff to say about the gay experience feel free, but Kramering into a conversation about trans people to assert that lifesaving treatments are problematic in your view as a cis gay dude and then telling us about how hate free your life is is real hosed up. Please don't mute other people's challenges and traumas by bragging about how great it is for gays in the year 2017.
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# ¿ Oct 17, 2017 19:04 |
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Aleph Null posted:It was this, right? This is what you are upset about? Your information is out of date and the idea that confirmation surgery results in a "fake" genital that doesn't work like the real thing is propaganda. Yes, penile inversion is the technique that is used to make a neovagina, but barring horrific complications they're extremely functional. Yes we will always deal with the dysphoria of not having a uterus and being unable to have children, but vaginas and penises form from the same set of tissues in utero and modern surgeons have gotten really good at doing things like using the mucosa from the inside of the glans penis it form the labia minora and forming extremely accurate clitorises and hoods. Although most trans women can't self lubricate, plenty of cis women have that problem too. Neovaginas have full sexual function, again barring catastrophic complications, and many trans women report even increased function compared to pre surgery since dysphoria no longer interferes. The painting of confirmation surgery as some kind of devils bargain to attain pacification of dysphoria at some sort of nebulous personal expense is dangerous and contributes to the atmosphere of stigma that lets insurance companies refuse coverage to us and the government to refuse treatment to prisoners and soldiers.
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# ¿ Oct 17, 2017 22:21 |
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Aleph Null posted:I guess the doctor I consulted with just didn't want to get my hopes up? That was just about exactly a year ago. You saw a bad surgeon. Go look at Brownstein Cranes website or find pictures of Dr Brassard's work to see what it's like when a practiced and experienced surgeon does it. Like any plastic surgery, it's as much about artistry and an aesthetic eye as it is surgical technique and this is what separates good from bad surgeons (how many lovely boob jobs do you see out there for every good one, for example?). Yes, you have to dilate to keep it from closing, but after the recovery period you only have to do that like once a week and only if you don't otherwise have sex or masturbate with penetration. It's not the albatross around the neck it gets exaggerated to. I also deal with dysphoria around child bearing. I get irrationally upset around pregnant people sometimes. Gender confirmation surgery can't fix that, but why pass on a surgery that can help some of my pain while waiting for one that can address other aspects of my pain? The fact remains that surgery isn't for everyone and many trans people are perfectly happy with what they've got in their pants already, but I don't want to see people miss out on a surgery that could really help them just because of horror stories spread by anti trans groups and results from bad unknown surgeons.
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# ¿ Oct 17, 2017 22:44 |
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Vulpes Vvardenfell posted:I keep hearing conflicting information about neovaginas being self-cleaning. A lot of people say it isn't, and others say that it is after the first two months, while the proper bacteria get a foothold. Do you know where reliable information is to be had on that? To be honest I haven't seen much information either way on that one. I only know anecdotally that nobody I know who's got one complains about having to clean it, so they either don't or it's just not that big a deal given the benefits.
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# ¿ Oct 18, 2017 18:37 |
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Hollismason posted:My understanding was that a portion of the inner lining of the intestines was used in order to provide a mucus membranes in the newer surgeries for vaginoplasty. Some Thai surgeons do that but American surgeons consider it bad practice as you are disrupting the function of the digestive system to do that. If grafts are needed American surgeons tend to go for skin from the thigh. Edit: and as far as my two cents, medical tourism for complicated and dangerous procedures seems ill advised to me. Especially to a country where they call us ladyboys and the doctors assume we're getting the surgery to further our prostitution careers.
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# ¿ Oct 18, 2017 19:03 |
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Aleph Null posted:Growing penises: https://www.theguardian.com/education/2014/oct/04/penis-transplants-anthony-atala-interview This is kind of my main point. Yes, better medicine will come in the future. Is that worth the pain of doing nothing now? That question has a different answer for every person. For me, I'm going to assume that since bottom surgery leaves all the nerves and blood supply intact that any future grown organ implantation will work just fine for people who already had old-fashioned srs.
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# ¿ Oct 18, 2017 20:38 |
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Senju Kannon posted:kathoey don't map onto our western ideas of gender and sexuality 1:1, which is something western activists, theorists, and even terfs fail to understand and appreciate. suffice to say; most kathoey don't identify as women but as a third gender, and consider ladyboy to be a proper translation of kathoey You're much better studied in Eastern cultures than I am so I'll take your word for it. Doesn't assuage my concerns about medical tourism to a less developed country however. I've seen video from Thai surgeons where they just wake you up from anesthesia and make you walk up stairs to a room full of cots after surgery.
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# ¿ Oct 18, 2017 20:41 |
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Keeshhound posted:Just so we're clear, I'm glad they're doing expirements with 3d printing tissues in such a way that it can help people transition, even if it's not the primary intended use, but I'm honestly surprised we're doing this poo poo so soon. Well, part of it is that there's genetic abnormalities that can cause people to be born with no genitals but otherwise doesn't harm them, whereas people born with no heart or lungs just die. This research started as a way to help people born with one of these genital defects. There are many other efforts working on growing other types of organs, but peepees and vagines makes for a more eye grabbing headline so it gets more coverage.
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# ¿ Oct 18, 2017 20:52 |
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# ¿ May 14, 2024 04:22 |
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Aleph Null posted:I'd like to say "it gets better" but, in this culture, all I can say for certain is "you get stronger." This is sage right here
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