BONGHITZ posted:

A little background, I'm a half Japanese/Chinese who was raised in America while my girlfriend is full Korean and has lived most of her life in South Korea and moved here during her early teens. She is proficient at English but I wouldn't say fluent as she still hangs around Korean friends/communities and doesn't really hang outside of that circle.

We've never known each other prior to dating as we were introduced by a mutual friend and we just hit it off from there. I've never once mentioned to her that I'm half Chinese because I never really had a appropriate time/situation to mention it to her and honestly I never thought that it would matter at all. She just assumed I'm Japanese since I can speak fluent Japanese and have a full Japanese name.

Just last week, we were eating out at a Korean bbq place and we were sitting accross the table to a Chinese family who was being a bit loud and rude to the waiters (but honestly given the busy vibe of the restaurant, it wasn't that bad imo). Immediately you could tell my girlfriend wasn't happy about the situation and said "ah do these people have any basic manners at all?". Then after about 30 minutes, the father of the chinese family faced towards our direction near our food and started coughing like no tomorrow without covering his mouth and than spat into one of the cups. You could tell at this point my girlfriend was quite pissed and made another remark saying "seriously, why are chinese people so fxxxing dirty, it's pissing me off, i seriously can't stand them". I was completely speechless and I had no idea what to say, instead I just kind of ignored what she said and changed the subject.

I always thought of her as an open minded person considering that I'm Japanese (if you didn't know, Japan and Korea don't have the best relations due to politics and history), but now I'm thinking it's because she's into anime/games so she might be more open minded about Japanese only. I feel really torn about this because she is the first girl I dated which I really feel like our personalities and interests/hobbies really match.

Being part Chinese is something I want to embrace with it's deep beautiful history/culture and isn't something I want to hide, I've always wanted to teach my future kids to be multilingual as I feel like Chinese is a very useful language as it's the most spoken in the world (even though i'm horrible at mandarin).

I don't know what to do from here on and how to approach this situation. Is this something we should break up over? Deep inside I want to say that she didn't mean those words and just said too much in that given situation, but at the same time she could really be racist as I know that the image of Chinese people isn't that good in Korea. Is there anyway I can salvage this relationship? I don't even know what to say as I've been thinking about this all week and it's been driving me absolutely crazy. I wish I would of just mentioned to her that I'm half chinese the moment we met.

tl;dr: Went to eat dinner with my girlfriend and sat across the table of a Chinese family. The Chinese family was a bit rude and did some gross things so my girlfriend said some racist remarks about Chinese people but she doesn't know that I'm half Chinese. Please help me, I don't know what to say/do.

Haier posted:

LOL, y'all act like you've never waited until she went to the bathroom so you could stuff the used condoms and clean-up tissues into your bag because you're worried she might try to stuff them up her cooch when you leave her house.

I walked 5km back home with them safely out of her 'gina.

Fleta Mcgurn posted:

Based on what Koreans friends and coworkers have told me (and my own, biased observations), Koreans have a bit of an inferiority complex, and it's actually well-deserved in a lot of cases. because of their history of colonization, a lot of native Korean inventions and developments, especially when it comes to technology, are either co-opted by the reigning culture or have simply been forgotten by most of the world. Moveable type, for example, was actually invented by Koreans. However, this feeling of inferiority/having been kicked around naturally elicits a nationalistic response, leading to people finding all sorts of loopholes to claim that Koreans invented everything. The same kind of people who genuinely believed the stuff in GF's post.

Definitely #NotAllKoreans, and not a uniquely Korean mental state, but it is sort of funny when they tell you something you know isn't true. For example, my coworker once bragged to me that Koreans invented chili peppers, when even the Kimchi Museum in Seoul doesn't make this claim.

Grand Fromage posted:

Oh god is that show just 100% mainlanders screaming?

Fleta Mcgurn posted:

They're all run by NK and the waitresses are basically prisoners.

Every time I think about going to one, I remember that and I can't.

Vesi posted:

Haier posted:

MAN IN CHINA SEES DRAGON IRL FOR REAL, OMG

peanut posted:

The Australian I talked to the most was from Perth with British parents so it's hard for me to know what was Perth problems, what was England problems and what was General Australian Lies.

Gromit posted:

Absolutely lied to. He probably said they had special parking for your kangaroo.

Collateral Damage posted:

Don't they have braces in China?

Tupperwarez posted:

Ice-T: "Yeah, it boosts athletic performance, but permanently disfigures your teeth. Kids are calling it Smashmouth."

big time bisexual posted:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_a6zMz5oQIk

WarpedNaba posted:

It's like Anhk-Morpork, all that matters is that you have money. That you can be parted from. Quickly.

Ein cooler Typ posted:

why don't they just give kids HGH to make them grow

McGavin posted:

Correct This Is The Way...
China Deserves It...

Glenn Quebec posted:

Sorry wrong one.

Phone posting / Imgur is hard to use now and I'm deep in bloody marys.

Haier posted:

OMG, this guy is a FACE master! He should definitely come to China. Maybe this is why some buzzcuts can't give up the face train?

I would blow Dane Cook posted: