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I've been thinking about that problem and figured that the best thing to do is lead by example. Limit our own screen time, and do as much non-digital stuff as possible.
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oxsnard posted:yeah lol limiting screen time is a first kid thing that gets successively harder and pointless imho kid's learning to post. respect.
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Good soup! posted:It sucks that so many books about being a dad and giving advice is done through that irritating lens of "HEH you're a MANLY man, also treat your wife like a QUEEN by doing (list of things you should have already been doing around the house because you're not a fuckin manchild) my wife and i are looking at books and yeah there's a whole plethora of "DUDES! TIME TO BE A DAD!" with incredible suggestions like you do the bare minimum of household chores I found one called Cribnotes and i'm not really sure about the author or the reviews about it but the content seems decent.
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i did learn about poopsplosions today as I was trying to understand the anatomy of cloth diapers if we choose to go that route
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May 31, 2021 00:23
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Testicular Torque Wrench posted:here's an incredible parenting 101 book from the government of quebec, for free: https://www.inspq.qc.ca/sites/default/files/mieux-vivre/pdf/tt2021_full_guide.pdf kickass, thank you! (also your avatar rules)
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Mustached Demon posted:the human body's gross and disgusting we get it has anyone ever made long diapers called "containment breeches"?
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been checking out the hospital where my wife will be giving birth, and it looks pretty great. they did some recent renovations. you give birth in your room and don't get carted anywhere else, private bathroom and shower, and an extra bed for the support person. I dunno, the first trimester has been so stressful with spotting and not knowing if everything was okay for days at a time for some reason the work the hospital has put in to make labour less stressful is encouraging
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Jun 12, 2021 02:13
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Thoguh posted:Did they actually let you in? Because of COVID our 'tour' was meeting with a nurse in the intake area to go over how to pre-register and discuss stuff like at what point we'd come there vs the emergency room if something was wrong, where to park and what door to come to when labor happened, and other topics like that. It was still a really worthwhile visit since it was all info we needed but they aren't letting anyone back in to the actual birth rooms because of COVID. It was a virtual tour, yeah
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my wife thinks she felt the baby kick/move for the first time, and it was when a Weezer song started playing on the radio.
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Pobrecito posted:lmao imagine having kids when the planets dying instead of spending your last days before the collapse doing drugs and playing video games you have it backwards, it's why your brain is hosed up op
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Deceptive Thinker posted:Me too dude - we just had a surprise appearance on Friday: three weeks early that is a good reminder that I should get all that poo poo up a month before I think we need it set up
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Aug 13, 2021 23:42
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a friend told me that in Alberta the government doesn't want to build more schools so kindergarten is now 2 hours a day. or maybe just in calgary i dunno but it sounds nuts
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here's hoping our dumb province signs on to $10/day daycare the feds are offering daycare is so expensive in and around toronto that a lot of the time unless you're making decent money it's cheaper for one parent to quit their job
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Petey posted:i don't have kids but a lot of my age-peers do and so i wanted to come in and xpost this here since you all are my posting family appreciate the post. there's a lot of genuine concern amongst pregnant women getting the vaccine as well, although there's more data there to support getting vaxxed. although my wife's doctor told her to wait until after the first trimester.
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poo poo POST MALONE posted:my kid has started reciting entire movie scenes to himself and im worried he's gonna turn into that kid who would "watch shrek in his head" when he was bored. my brother in law watched Brave with his daughter probably easily 40+ times when she was young and they can repeat the whole movie to each other line by line accents and all
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i think my wife and i have settled on doing cloth diapers that you stuff with disposable inserts, going to put an alert on kijiji to see if we can get them second hand. also not going to bother with newborn sizes for cloth because of how little time they spend in them before moving up in size. does this make sense? any tips on picking some up second-hand?
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Chef Boyardeez Nuts posted:We'd just load up at the thrift store, especially when they get full up and do a 25c per item deal. Books too. Kids grow out of stuff so fast that they're almost always in near pristine condition. Haven't seen anything at the thrift stores but I'll definitely try to check them out delta permitting, thanks!
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Really helpful, thanks to you both!
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Loucks posted:I wasn’t totally on board with my kid’s name either, but now just I can’t imagine what else I’d call little Weedlord. We're renting so I'd have to talk to the landlord about buying a bidet or something, but that's a good idea thanks. also it's loving depressing as hell to see all these reviews of various cloth diaper brands with women helpfully adding "so easy my husband/daddy/my so will actually change a diaper!" i can't imagine telling my wife "i think i'll pass on the rote chores in the care of our new kid. welp cya" My wife came up with our daughter's name early on, and while it didn't really catch on with me I couldn't come up with anything better and it's stuck. I just felt her move today for the first time 
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i shouldn't care because medical protocols are what they are in plague times, and at the end of the day ill see the kid all the time once she's born but i haven't been able to go to a single ultrasound and it kinda sucks
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Thoguh posted:See if there is anywhere in town that does ultrasounds outside of the hospital. Initially when my wife was pregnant I wasn't going to be able to go to any so we did that. Some nurses ran it as a side business on nights and weekends. Even the clinics aren't allowing people in as part of provincial mandates. What can you do.
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lobster shirt posted:that does suck, i couldnt go to a lot of my kids early doctors appointments because they only let one parent go and my wife, since she was nursing, wanted to be the one who took him so she could ask the pediatrician questions about nursing and stuff. our kid was born like right when the pandemic started too and we were worried that the hospital wouldn't allow me to go. thankfully they let one support person be there. my friend gave birth on christmas last year and no one could go in with her. it's rough! hoping that things wont be too bad when the baby's due in December meanolmrcloud posted:for a “regular” pregnancy, we had exactly 2 ultrasounds the whole way through during covidtimes. I think they were trying to condition into not worrying too much and just let things happen. jokes on them, I’ll never stop worrying. my wife's had a few complications, nothing too serious thankfully, but i think we're up to number 6 now. Dreylad has issued a correction as of 20:26 on Sep 17, 2021 |
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kecske posted:kid has brought home hand, foot & mouth disease from nursery read this as hoof & mouth disease and wondered if you were a satyr
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Another Bill posted:These are power moves. Your children are asserting dominance. The lack of sleep is just a tactic to erode your resistance. the Sigma Toddler vs the beta dad
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poo poo POST MALONE posted:my kids only ever see their cousins maybe once a month. if my kid is a sigma im hosed
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with an impending newborn it's funny how much advice has changed with babies over the last 20 years let alone the last 30-40. all the future grandparents are flabbergasted at the "no stuff in the crib," and of course 30 years ago you put the baby on their side to sleep, not their back and so on and so on
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Son of Thunderbeast posted:oh god my partner gave our 2 year old a banana and a few minutes later found her with the dog in his crate sharing the banana together your child's class is Beastmaster
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Nov 19, 2021 23:41
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Son of Thunderbeast posted:TIL if my 2yo is trying to pitch a bullshit tantrum because she doesn't like that i said no to something, i can just mock her crying to her face and go WAHHH WAHHH and laugh, and she thinks it's hilarious. Instant mood change! Dunno if this would work with any other kids or if it's just cuz it's my kid once a moderator always a moderator one week away from new baby. my wife is tired as hell and she says im the one doing the nesting as i clean every inch of our apartment. i just want to be a good dad!!
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Thanks! Looking forward to it, sleepless nights and all.
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10 days old now and i respect single parents even more than i already did how on earth do they do this
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Johnny Cache Hit posted:it is literally 24 hours of superhuman effort repeated every single day, and if we lived in a just world support systems for all parents, but especially single parents, would look wildly different. 
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i like how I got all this info about spotting early and mid feeding cues and the babby says gently caress that and goes from zero to Red, Mad, And Nude about not being fed this instant. also i feel like ive survived something every night cluster feed where my wife and i are trying to figure out how to get enough sleep
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yeah ive been doing the formula supplements as needed to get my wife some sleep. also had to realize i wasn't doing her a favour by letting her skip a feed because that affects her milk supply, so we've worked on that breastfeeding man, it's complicated. when it goes smoothly im sure it's amazing but it's complicated otherwise on the upside i can now disassemble, clean, and reassemble a breast pump one handed in the dark like some kind of Dad Operator
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no that's very good advice thank you to you both. night feeds are certainly needed, although we've managed to keep her active during the day so she's starting to have her longer naps during the night, thank goodness. just need her to go down in her crib consistently i am definitely tackling all the cooking, cleaning, changing, burping to support feeding. the little girl is demanding almost hourly right now for extended periods of time, which is intense as hell, but I think we're turning a corner. i just feel bad for my wife who is determined but getting a bit worn down and sore. we've had little grumpy moments but honestly I think we've done pretty well communicating throughout this. the one nice thing about this wretched pandemic is it's just been a month of the three of us together hanging out. nothing beats the baby falling asleep clinging to you in a tiny baby hug. the tough part is finding the time to pump. the hospital outpatient lactation specialists tried to give us a rough timeline for each feed but the feeds are now lasting a long time now so there just doesn't feel like there's any time. there was time when she wasn't feeding as long and we were supplementing with formula. I guess that'll change though as her stomach and digestion develop though? I know rationally these are just phases to get through as the baby grows and develops but man the recommendations and expectations for parents, especially women, are nuts. look after yourself! but also you should probably breastfeed! and get rest! but also find time to exercise! what the gently caress
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Oh yeah to be clear, all the lactation consultants we've had through the hospital and the public health nurses have done everything to support our desire to breastfeed and have never insisted on it. formula was always part of any plan when things started out rough to supplement. honestly just A++ birth experience and hospital support all around. of course this is in ontario. my friend had her daughter in quebec and said they were insane zealots about breastfeeding to the point where she was starving her daughter for 3 weeks before she gave up and switched to formula. and it was fine, obviously. the whole discourse around breastfeeding is intense as hell.
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baby poop is also hilarious and weird except the meconium. gently caress that stuff
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Son of Thunderbeast posted:The face a newborn makes when it's pooping the first few times is hilarious. They look like god just whispered secrets of the universe into their ear that's transitioned to a look of pure joy every time she passes gas. also her poops are hilariously loud
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500excf type r posted:My son was a few hours old and I was changing him late at night while his mother got some rest. He was in one of those little plastic baby basket carts hospitals use. Hes my second so I'm a pro and I take off his diaper and grab his ankles and lift his little butt up and as I do this he takes a violent laser beam of a poo poo that rocketed over the top of the crib and shot about 10 feet across the room narrowly missing his sleeping mother. my wife always tells me about the time she was changing her little brother and when she lifted his butt to finish changing him he decided to arc his piss right into his mouth Dreylad has issued a correction as of 00:38 on Jan 2, 2022 |
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