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IOwnCalculus posted:It definitely trends that way, but if a car is such a trivial thing that you think you need to buy another one, why do you expect the husband to do it instead of just buying one on your own? Depending on the state he may not even be able to get his real license for a few months/a year. I get him feeling like poo poo because his mom set him up to. When I was 16 if my mom had hinted that I would be getting a car I wouldn’t been an insufferable little shut about it. I put it 98% on his mom and 2% on the step dad for never, like, talking to his wife at all about a several hundred dollar purchase of a gift for her son.
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BrigadierSensible posted:I would also argue that the 16yo is a bit of a sook. Storming off and sulking in his bedroom coz he didn't get a car. I mean he expected it because his mom hinted at it.
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Mar 7, 2022 03:02
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Absurd Alhazred posted:Is getting financing from the dealership ever not a complete scam? Reputable places don’t do the finance themselves but partner with a bank. They’ll typically not give you as good a deal as the bank themselves would’ve (the bank says we’ll finance this person at 3%, the dealership makes you an offer of 3.5% and pockets the .5%. If you went directly to the bank maybe they give you 3.25%.) But if you get pre-financed and the dealership wants to see if the banjo will beat your pre-financed number it’s not a bad idea to listen. Places that actually do the financing themselves (buy here pay here) are complete scams though.
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Mar 7, 2022 06:37
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Halloween Jack posted:I can only think of a single person who's had something like a successful career starting wrestling post-40. If he's a hardcore wrestling fan he should know what an unbelievably stupid move he's making. And that dude isn’t 5’8 and “husky.”
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Mar 7, 2022 21:03
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Sisal Two-Step posted:From a guy who definitely didn't cheat: His entire family doesn’t even believe him. Incredible.
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Mar 7, 2022 21:27
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Seth Pecksniff posted:lol it's my dad When I got my first “real” job some guy there gave me poo poo because I brought “expensive” lunches. They were pita bread sandwiches. Apparently if only I used cheaper bread my $50k of student debt would’ve just melted away.
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Mar 7, 2022 22:56
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Soylent Pudding posted:AITA ripping up my brothers apology letter and screaming at him to just leave me alone we aren’t family Wait she dated this guy 8 years without noticing he was dating her brother?
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Mar 7, 2022 23:01
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Soylent Pudding posted:AITA For Scaring Dad From Barging In “Exposing myself to him” by having her shirt off alone in her room.
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Mar 8, 2022 03:42
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Captain Hygiene posted:Mom's having the baby, mom gets to decide who's there at the birth. The problem here is that it's a reddit relationship so obviously they wouldn't talk about it beforehand and you have an OP who just fucks off home because obviously the doctors can just handle whatever crisis might pop up along the way. Naw. If you’re not going to have the husband there you need a reason. It’s expected that he’s going to be there for the birth of his child now. Now, we’re getting half the story. She could have a very good reason. But just springing “no I don’t want you in here” on him while in labor would be very lovely.
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Mar 9, 2022 19:15
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Zulily Zoetrope posted:Hardship clause. If it is literally impossible to prevent or would save a life, it's ok to let a meal/item go kashrut as long as you make a good faith effort to minimize its impact afterwards. Strict religious observation is not worth more than a human life. See, I think Judaism and Islam have this but at least in the evangelical Christian branch I was brought up in we were expected to loving die before denying Jesus. Like it was drilled into our heads that there would probably be a day where somebody had a gun and told us they’d shoot our whole class if we didn’t deny Jesus, and the right move there was to let them shoot everybody. It was hosed.
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Mar 9, 2022 19:18
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Captain Hygiene posted:Man I grew up in that environment, and that particular point was screwed up enough that I'd forgotten all about it. I remember thinking in Sunday School, nobody else would actually do this, they'd all just pray for forgiveness and tell a lie, right? I totally bought into all that poo poo at that age and thought that was now I would probably end up dying. In reality I probably would’ve just poo poo my pants and give a Hail Satan or whatever they wanted.
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Mar 9, 2022 19:39
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Halloween Jack posted:AITA for refusing to be an egg donor for my aunt? This is why I stopped explaining my “no” to a lot of people a long time ago. Someone asked me to help them move recently. I don’t know this person that well and I’ve never asked him for anything and never plan on it. I could’ve started the excuse game of “oh my kid has something that day/I have to work/my back is trash” etc but that always turns in to people trying to poke holes in your reasons. “It’s fine we’ll do it the next day! You don’t have to lift anything heavy!” Etc. So now I just say no. When they ask why I just say “I just can’t.” Not to everybody. Some people I’m closer with and know they’re reasonable I’ll give explanations to. But I don’t give them by default anymore.
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Mar 9, 2022 21:15
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Blastedhellscape posted:This could be a harmless clash of lifestyles like vampire-dude says, but I bet the room the guy's wife keeps airing out is horrifyingly gross. When someone can smell themselves you know it's awful.
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Mar 10, 2022 05:27
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Invisible Clergy posted:
Apparently it's still kind of unknown why grapes cause dogs to have renal failure, although I found one article that said it was the tartaric acid in them. It's a chemical thing, whatever it is.
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Mar 10, 2022 06:41
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gf, preferably with some kind of ingested poison. "Why are you being such a baby? You're fine. I ate this all the time, you're faking. Get up."
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I don’t get the secret recipe thing at all. I’ve brought printed copies of recipes to get-togethers when I’m making something I know people there might really like. My aunt had a secret pepperoni dip recipe she wouldn’t give out. Now she’s dead and I don’t get the pepperoni dip. Thank goodness the integrity of the recipe I’m sure she got off a box of cream cheese is intact though. Edit: Invisible Clergy posted:
I think that’s more about SEO.
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Mar 11, 2022 03:24
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Vim Fuego posted:Stick a fork in it, it's done You rang?
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Mar 11, 2022 08:21
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deety posted:So... Sister bought the house years ago for $375, and OP feels like he's been ripped off because now it's worth something in the high $400s after a nationwide spike in home values? She may have gotten a good price on it, but it's not uncommon for folks to sell at a discount to family even when "a free place to live for the rest of your life" isn't part of the deal. And that raise in value seems pretty in line with what's gone on in the housing market. If their dad couldn't afford to keep the house, it would have been sold to a stranger anyway, and the following years of rent payments (on top of the debt, medical costs, etc.) also would have made a noticeable dent in OP's inheritance. Yeah it’s something that in my family I would’ve wanted to know about, but I can see why they didn’t tell him from what he’s doing now. I don’t know why inheritance brings out the worst in everyone.
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Mar 11, 2022 15:39
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DACK FAYDEN posted:I feel bad that the shitbag lady got fired, I think the sister should have called CPS rather than that... but I mean it was also a totally reasonable thing to do, so I don't feel that bad. I would much rather be fired than have CPS get involved with my kids. I’m not anti-CPS; my wife is a social worker. But it’s a huge headache with massive risks if CPS comes knocking. Runcible Cat posted:If it's escalated to the point of dad's got to sell the house to get out of debt then it seems reasonable to involve all the siblings at that point and see if they can contribute. As it is, His sister got a house, but she paid most of the value (OP doesn’t mention how long ago she bought it so it could’ve been very close to the value at the time) and then did not collect any rent on the property, while also paying taxes etc. She may have come out ahead in the whole deal but for all she knew he was going to live to 90 and she would’ve taken a huge loss.
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Mar 11, 2022 16:33
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Runcible Cat posted:Yeah, that's what I'm saying, we don't know so we can't really judge. I like the idea that the brothers were checked out in every respect and sister scored herself the family home, but there's no way of telling from what's been posted whether the brothers would have helped out or co-bought the house if they'd been asked. I think my main issue with how you’re framing it is that she didn’t “score” the house. At absolute best, she scored the difference in value between the house at the time she bought it and the price she paid, minus what she could’ve collected in rent over the (?) years she let him live there, and any taxes or fees she paid as the homeowner. There’s not nearly enough information provided to determine how much that score was, but it was well south of the value of the house.
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Mar 11, 2022 16:50
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Absurd Alhazred posted:Just send them an invite to the wrong venue, eight hours away. "It's just a prank!" Send them to a (I’m making a tiny logical leap from the subjects they interrogated OP’s fiancée about) gay wedding.
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Mar 11, 2022 18:51
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Absurd Alhazred posted:Why does a gay couple need to deal with these assholes on their special day? Fair point. Perhaps instead have an officiant there who believes they’re there for a large poly wedding to each other.
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Mar 11, 2022 18:57
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Foo Diddley posted:a lot of MLM places do culty bullshit like this. i don't think i ever heard of it happening at a legit company, though My workplace has a pretty cringy thing that is not religious at all. We have a daily meeting and at the end we have to bring up someone, every day, from the manufacturing floor to say thanks to and thank them for whatever good thing it is they did. Which I’m sure was meant as a good thing, but 1) every day is too much 2) everyone knows we have to do one a day so they know they’re only up there because we had to pick someone and it isn’t as sincere and 3) for some reason our plant manager (micromanaging rear end in a top hat) insists on filming them all and posting them to our Teams channel for…??? to watch.
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Mar 11, 2022 19:20
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Sisal Two-Step posted:So she was enough of a strict hardass to force this kid to spent every waking hour doing school work but the second she gets any kind of push back at all, she folds on every demand and lets her 13 year old son run the show. Just the worst of both worlds in terms of parenting. She has no idea how to deal with him as a person. When he was a young child he was just this thing who obeyed her because he never thought not to, and as soon as she had to actually deal with him in a way that required understanding that he’s a human being she had no clue what to do.
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Mar 11, 2022 21:36
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Mx. posted:AITA For Uninviting My Parents To My Wedding After They Called My Fiancé A Cradle Robber? It’s very nice to see sane reactions to insane parents.
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Mar 12, 2022 03:53
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Keromaru5 posted:I'm no expert on childbirth, but the horror stories keep reminding me of how indigenous Peruvian women give birth vertically, which is apparently a lot safer. Squatting is more natural and in a lot of ways is better than laying for the mother. It’s harder for the doctor though, and I suppose you couldn’t use an epidural standing up.
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Mar 13, 2022 03:09
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Halloween Jack posted:It's sad when people are so bad at managing give-and-take in a relationship that everything suddenly becomes explicitly transactional. Yeah, he eventually got where he needed to go but got there the wrong way. Regardless of if she’s giving blowjobs her requests were unreasonable. Bringing that up just muddied the waters.
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Mar 14, 2022 20:43
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Halloween Jack posted:You're right about that, but: he asked for a massage, she gave up after 5 minutes saying she was bored and her hands hurt, and she still didn't get what he was trying to communicate. Not sure where you go after that without a, uh, dramatic counterexample. You just say no and explain why. If they get it then they change, if they cannot understand it then you move on. Maybe if you already have kids you try and work it out in therapy, but I wouldn’t put that much effort into keeping dating this person. When you say what he said all she hears is “I don’t want to massage you, you don’t blow me,” which isn’t what he said, but it’s going to be what she hears. And that misses the problem. The problem isn’t that she doesn’t do enough period. The problem isn’t that she doesn’t do enough relative to him (there’s that too but it wasn’t his main point). The problem is she’s asking him to do too much, period. The more you keep it to that the better the problem can be managed.
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Mar 14, 2022 21:10
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snergle posted:morally not literally. she thinks bringing a life into this world is bad not that its impossible. if i had to guess its because you know this is a hell world and there a literally thousands of kids to adopt. There’s definitely plenty of the latter. There are many forms of dementia but at least some of them cause massive personality changes and a completely distorted worldview.
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Mar 14, 2022 22:23
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Doc Hawkins posted:what really gets me is her telling him that "no talking" is one of the rules No talking, no watching a show, two full hours, it’s crazy enough that I kind of doubt it’s real. But if it is, holy poo poo.
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BIG FLUFFY DOG posted:is the alarm not going off when the fire exit is used also a code violation? I mean it’s totally fine to have a door that goes back to your dumpster which is also a fire exit. The alarm is more to prevent misuse than anything.
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Mar 15, 2022 02:19
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Seth Pecksniff posted:Narcissism is a beast, man The daughter who, by the way, is a successful engineer and seems to be doing really well in life. Guess her dying her hair or whatever the mom harassed her about didn’t get in the way of her “potential” after all!
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Mar 15, 2022 16:17
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Halloween Jack posted:If they want to murder someone, why can't they just drop a bomb on the wedding they're attending, like a normal country? I constantly have to remind myself that some people think that way. My family is relatively normal and my wife is great but her mother is a pure narcissist. Something as simple as us taking our kids to the zoo (which is nearby, and we have a membership so we go pretty often) was met by “well that’s ok I guess, we (wife and MIL) took them a couple months ago.” Because she has to keep score on how often she does fun things with them versus how often I, their father, who is married to their mother, does fun things with them. Edit: Captain Hygiene posted:AITA for getting my girlfriend sock puppets for her birthday? I’m on this dudes side. That was a pretty thoughtful gift. If she wanted a necklace with his gemstone she should’ve, you know, actually said that. Fork of Unknown Origins fucked around with this message at 17:25 on Mar 15, 2022 |
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Mar 15, 2022 17:22
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sephiRoth IRA posted:Man I feel so sorry for these weenies. Again, he's so close to an epiphany. A little therapy about how it's okay to be a man and not be 6ft and he'd be right as rain. The crazy part of his insecurity is he already has a girlfriend. Obviously his height isn’t preventing that from happening.
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Mar 15, 2022 18:54
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Quackles posted:The OP updated his post. Ok those were some pretty obvious hints but still, everyone here is an adult, you can straight up say what sort of thing you want.
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Mar 15, 2022 20:05
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ScienceSeagull posted:Haven't we had a couple of stories like that, where someone gets upset (possibly to the point of wanting to break up) over a lame gift and later discovers that the real gift is hidden inside? Maybe I'm thinking of the guy who gave people boxes full of barbed wire and broken glass and claimed there were gift cards inside. It’s a bad prank if the outside gift is outright lovely. But in this case if she actually wanted the sock puppets then putting a bonus gift inside would’ve been a good one. Unless she is potentially expecting a proposal, in which case now is not the time for hidden jewelry pranks!
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Mar 15, 2022 20:16
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hot cocoa on the couch posted:does anyone remember that story of the guy who drinks at work because he wants to be like the guy on mad men (the main character i think)? he offers clients whisky during meetings or something. does anyone have a link to that one? An alcoholic posted:
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I’m going to ensure the whiskey / drinking is hidden from public view in the future + no drinking before lunchtime. Still sucks that I don’t get to be Don Draper though
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sephiRoth IRA posted:You'd better not start a fight about something that's important to you just because I think it's stupid! Ok sure but in this case that something is a $12 jar of pickles that he seems to have a reserve of.
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Mar 16, 2022 20:21
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sephiRoth IRA posted:I don't disagree. But from his post it's clearly a big deal to him and if they are something he gets excited about and rations, and this bothered him, and his wife slapped him down because she thought it was stupid, that's lame. I mean if it were something that was actually scarce then yeah I get it but this is one where he’s being silly enough that he needs a reality check.
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Mar 16, 2022 20:50
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Foo Diddley posted:AITA for telling my husband's family and friends that he didn't buy the house but both of us did? This is one where I would really, really love to hear his retelling of what she said.
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limp_cheese posted:The answer to both of these questions is "The respect of your family and friends." I seriously love the stories where one partner makes the other look like a lazy moocher and then gets upset when that person says otherwise. Yeah I can imagine a scenario where the husband is going on about all the stuff he did to buy the house, probably really proud of being able to buy a house. Maybe he didn’t intend to make it sound like she hadn’t contributed, but was just somewhat inconsiderate. Then she aggressively comes in and people react like “what the gently caress” because they understood what he was saying. Or maybe it went down exactly as she described and he’s a dumbass! But that’s why it’s one where I would really like to hear his side. He may have meant something totally different than what she heard.
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