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Pope Corky the IX: Dec 18, 2006; What are you looking at?

Hughlander posted:

Can you write to the google doc? Think that should be the keeper of thread knowledge.

I'd have to see if I have access to it, I just used the link from the last thread. If not I'll just make my own.

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# ? Apr 30, 2024 12:41

Shanghaied: Oct 12, 2004; BIG PAD

John Wick of Dogs posted:

Dollars to donuts a forced laborcamp (that they called a plantation)

Not being American, I didn't even know that this was a thing lol. But why though????

# ? Apr 17, 2024 17:11

Pope Corky the IX: Dec 18, 2006; What are you looking at?

Shanghaied posted:

Not being American, I didn't even know that this was a thing lol. But why though????

There are plenty of people that feel that the beauty of a wedding venue is more important than the fact that it was built with the blood of slavery. After all, it's not like they were they ones that enslaved them. They're just enjoying the benefits.

# ? Apr 17, 2024 17:13

the holy poopacy: May 16, 2009; hey! check this out; Fun Shoe

Shanghaied posted:

Not being American, I didn't even know that this was a thing lol. But why though????

Some mix of

1. Big fancy old timey mansions with well landscaped surroundings make for pretty event venues
2. Naked racism

It's usually more about #1 than #2, but you can never be 100% sure. That's the fun part!

# ? Apr 17, 2024 17:14

mystes: May 31, 2006

Kurieg posted:

AITA for "being disrespectful" and telling my parents "good luck with that" when they tried to ground me?

quote:

My grandfather came over to talk to me later. He is the one ho helped me get my company started and he is always there for me. He said that I was rude to my parents when they were trying to be there for me. I asked him how much rent he charged my mom when she lived at home. He said it was ridiculous to think he would charge his kids rent. I told him that I had been paying rent for four years.

He went into the house and I herd a fight.

I always like in these stories when another relative butts in to be like "based on how this situation has been inaccurately described to me, you're being unreasonable" and the OP is like "well actually it was like [how it actually was]" and then the person who butted in is like "wtf, let me go off and yell at them for you"

# ? Apr 17, 2024 17:14

Mr. Lobe: Feb 23, 2007; ... Dry bones...

Shanghaied posted:

Not being American, I didn't even know that this was a thing lol. But why though????

The money from slavery allowed the masters to develop some very fancy estates, I imagine

# ? Apr 17, 2024 17:14

Pope Corky the IX: Dec 18, 2006; What are you looking at?

I can't find it at the moment, but there was a news story a few years ago of a company deciding to do their annual retreat at a plantation so one of the black employees dressed like a slave for the event.

# ? Apr 17, 2024 17:16

Hughlander: May 11, 2005

Pope Corky the IX posted:

I can't find it at the moment, but there was a news story a few years ago of a company deciding to do their annual retreat at a plantation so one of the black employees dressed like a slave for the event.

https://www.reddit.com/r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/wcstm8/company_throws_a_corporate_retreat_at_a/

You need to use the link since it's all in the photos.

Guess not the reddit link:

https://imgur.com/BLk363N
https://imgur.com/gallery/l9Qzn

# ? Apr 17, 2024 17:17

Pope Corky the IX: Dec 18, 2006; What are you looking at?

Thank you poster

# ? Apr 17, 2024 17:19

Baronjutter: Dec 31, 2007; "Tiny Trains"

It's wild to me that plantations aren't seen in the same extremely dark and evil light as like concentration camps or SS headquarter buildings are in europe. I guess because the US never really did any sort of purging of pro-slavery culture.

# ? Apr 17, 2024 17:32

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Baronjutter posted:

It's wild to me that plantations aren't seen in the same extremely dark and evil light as like concentration camps or SS headquarter buildings are in europe. I guess because the US never really did any sort of purging of pro-slavery culture.

Now I'm imagining a company holding a costume party at a concentration camp, then getting mad when someone dresses as a prisoner.

# ? Apr 17, 2024 17:35

Kenshin: Jan 10, 2007

Baronjutter posted:

It's wild to me that plantations aren't seen in the same extremely dark and evil light as like concentration camps or SS headquarter buildings are in europe. I guess because the US never really did any sort of purging of pro-slavery culture.

And because a small but significant portion of the US population yearns for those times

# ? Apr 17, 2024 17:35

Ominous Jazz: Jun 15, 2011; Big D is chillin' over here
Wasteland style

yeah that's a major theme of the reconstruction era is how instead of any consequences or reparations uhh nothing happened
they should be burned to the ground and the owners shouldn't be compensated

# ? Apr 17, 2024 17:37

PetraCore: Jul 20, 2017; 👁️🔥👁️👁️👁️BE NOT👄AFRAID👁️👁️👁️🔥👁️

But yeah, plantation buildings and surroundings can be quite beautiful, because their ancestral owners built up massive wealth on the concentrated suffering of the human beings they owned and forced to labor for them. I don't think the richness or beauty of the manor can be separated from the suffering and evil that funded it, even moreso than basically any other mansion in history.

# ? Apr 17, 2024 17:37

metachronos: Sep 11, 2001; When I roll, baby I roll DEEP

mystes posted:

But it's incredible to spend that much money and still make guests pay for their own food

In that vein someone post the one where the people had a disney wedding and made guests buy food at the park because they spent like 15k on having Mickey and Minnie actors from the park attend their wedding.

# ? Apr 17, 2024 17:42

trickybiscuits: Jan 13, 2008; yospos

ChairmanMauzer posted:

These two were my food-related favs:

AITA for not participating in my friends "scheme" to convince a restaurant to buy his ketchup?

My (32F) husband (36M) wants to start a 'restaurant for magicians', and it is tearing our family apart

Ask A Manager once shared an amazing story about a holiday party featuring magic (I don't know why men think magic is impressive to a date, I know the thing I look for on dates is to be an appreciative audience for someone's hijinks)

quote:

When I was fresh out of college, a dude in my social circle invited me to his fancy work Christmas party. He was a teacher, so I�d kind of assumed I was there as friend to act as a buffer between well-intentioned female colleagues who wanted to set him up with one another, with their daughters, etc. I was wrong! This invitation to a work Christmas party was meant to be the first date of a magical relationship between two people destined to be together. Why a magical relationship? When I opened the door, he said he�d hope we�d have a magical night leading to a magical relationship. Then HE DID A MAGIC TRICK. I was� startled.

The party was at a country club, where he drove around and around looking for a space while I said �they have valet. it�s only valet� over and over. Inside there was a coat check. He didn�t want to leave his coat�because there were additional magic tricks secreted inside. We went in, got our drink tickets and our seating assignment. I sat down at a table that was mostly single women several years older than we were. He offered to get me a drink, and I asked for a glass of any kind of wine. He came back several minutes later with a mudslide because girls love mudslides, because they�re chocolate and girls love chocolate. I don�t. But he tried! That�s sweet! Right? Over dinner, I tried to make that sort of general polite conversation people make around banquet tables with strangers. He kept jostling my arm to get my attention to show me another magic trick.

At the beginning of the evening, I really thought we were casual friends, but I was single and kind of open to dating this guy if we got on well. Maybe that hokey line was a story we�d tell our grandchildren! But it was becoming increasingly clear that this guy was Not for Me. That didn�t mean I wanted to embarrass him in front of his principal, though. I finally said something like, Would you mind terribly saving those for after dinner? I�m really interested in hearing more about Harriet�s begonias, aren�t you?�

He pushed his chair back and stalked across the ballroom to a piano. He plopped down and proceeded to pound out an assortment of sad pop hits. There was Muzak-y Christmas music, but he was gonna play the piano anyway. At this point, I was embarrassed to have come with this guy. My tablemates were embarrassed for me. One of them left and came back with the glass of wine I�d asked for initially. I drank it while the middle aged ladies at our table told me all about their various bad dates. More wine showed up. Then someone asked if I like martinis and brought a martini. Apparently none of them drank, and, as my date played �You�re So Vain� while staring mournfully at me, I drank my way through pretty much all their drink tickets. I am an effusively nice drunk person. I told each and every one of these women that they were beautiful angels shaping tomorrow�s great minds to recognize the power of sisterhood and human kindness. Or something to that general effect. My memory is a bit fuzzy, for obvious, gin-based reasons.

My date wanted to leave, so I went to coat check. I tipped the coat check person, and he reached in the tip jar to fish out my money. I thought he was going to pay the tip. Nope. He told me coat check is free. I said I know. I put my tip back in the jar and sidestepped him when he tried to help with my jacket. His department chair and her husband appeared and said that my apartment was on their way and they�d be happy to drive me. I told them they were �hashtag relationship goals� and made an actual hashtag with my fingers.

I was driven home by way of Taco Bell by these very nice strangers. A week later, the guy called to say his work friends loved me and would I like to go out again. I would not.

A few years later, a friend was telling me about a legendary party her school hosted before she got a job there. A girl nobody knew got plastered and told everyone she loved and appreciated them while her boyfriend played the piano at her and drowned out the Christmas music. I did not reveal my identity. Maybe there�re two of us? I hope there�re two of us.

# ? Apr 17, 2024 17:42

trickybiscuits: Jan 13, 2008; yospos

Baronjutter posted:

I just don't understand people so spineless and easily influenced. They rarely change too. If you get them to change it's only because they've switched from instantly going along with what their mommy tells them to instantly going along with what you tell them. But it's like the muscle in their brain that lets them decide things themselves simply never developed, it's entirely atrophied. You can give them a huge pep talk about standing up to their mom/dad/spouse/boss or whatever and they seem to totally get it, but the moment they face that person they instantly fold.

I've known a couple people like that, and it's wild hearing them get all pumped up to stand up for themselves then talking to them a week later and suddenly it's "no I was wrong to stand up to them, they actually totally convinced me I was wrong" and you ask why and they can never explain it. "Well I know I went over to tell my mom she needs to stop smashing the headlights out on my car every week and you all made good points, but after talking to my mom I realize it's way too soon to be making demands like this of her. Also she's my mom and she explained she's doing it because she loves me. Anyways, I need to stop being so influenced by my friends, please don't try to turn me again my mom again"

I started reading poetry last week for some reason:

IT IS SO EASY TO GIVE IN
I have been thinking about the man who gives in.
Have you heard about him? In this story
A twenty-eight-foot pine meets a small wind
And the pine bends all the way over to the ground.
I was persuaded,� the pine says. �It was convincing.�
A mouse visits a cat, and the cat agrees
To drown all her children. �What could I do?�
The cat said. �The mouse needed that.�
It�s strange. I�ve heard that some people conspire
In their own ruin. A fool says, �You don�t
Deserve to live.� The man says, �I�ll string this rope
Over that branch, maybe you can find a box.�

It's not the whole poem, but the ending is depressing.

# ? Apr 17, 2024 17:51

Danger: Jan 4, 2004; all desire - the thirst for oil, war, religious salvation - needs to be understood according to what he calls 'the demonogrammatical decoding of the Earth's body'

Invisible Clergy posted:

The ones that haven't already been reposted

Party sub:

AITA because I ate more than "my share" of a 6 foot party sub last night?

The themes present in the sandwich:

AITA for trying to sell my sandwich recipe to various deli's in my town?

part 2

The scale of the sub always catches me lol. Like I�m thinking oh three pieces of one of those party subs I mean ye that�s filling but maybe like as much as a normal sub and then I re realize it�s three feet

# ? Apr 17, 2024 17:59

BOOTY-ADE: Aug 30, 2006; BIG KOOL TELLIN' Y'ALL TO KEEP IT TIGHT

oh jay posted:

TIFU / My (20F) girlfriend of two years told me the music that I (25M) play during sex is weird and a major turn off

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KAwyWkksXuo

TIFU - Posting on Reddit about our sex life with CBAT and now our relationship has ended

Admiral Joeslop posted:

AITA for reporting my PhD advisor’s really cruel prank to my university?

Another for the "explain how this joke is funny" pile. Fire that rear end in a top hat into the sun at light speed.

# ? Apr 17, 2024 18:00

AKA Pseudonym: May 16, 2004; A dashing and sophisticated young man; Doctor Rope

Big Bowie Bonanza posted:

I�m in highschool and money was stolen from my bank account. I need help NOW

I think about this one every day

Now obviously this is very, very stupid. But there's a bunch of people in the comments asking him what "souvenir check" means. And I guess that's not a term people use but it's obvious he thought you could give out real checks like those big wacky novelty checks they give people who win the lottery. And I just get the feeling that a lot of people like the little feeling of power they get from making somebody who knows they screwed up go even further in explaining themselves by litigating every single turn of phrase. Or maybe some people are just unable or unwilling to figure things out from context. Either way, it's something I've always found very irritating and this is as a good time as any to get it off my chest.

# ? Apr 17, 2024 18:02

Ominous Jazz: Jun 15, 2011; Big D is chillin' over here
Wasteland style

trickybiscuits posted:

Ask A Manager once shared an amazing story about a holiday party featuring magic (I don't know why men think magic is impressive to a date, I know the thing I look for on dates is to be an appreciative audience for someone's hijinks)

i love this story. everybody but the magician wins.

# ? Apr 17, 2024 18:10

Crocobile: Dec 2, 2006

If we�re reposting classics, I�m missing the title but this one is saved to my phone. It�s the sex role-play �OFFICER DOWN� one.

quote:

So we've been with eachother for 6 years. Our sex life is just as good as when it started, I just wanted to try out some kinkier stuff so I suggested roleplaying. Kevin (husband) was somewhat open to the idea, but also thought it was a bit ridiculous. This is something I've always wanted to try, sort of like a fetish. So we got a few costumes, a Cop outfit and a Spy trenchcoat for him, and a nurse and cheerleader outfit for me. All of our roleplaying revolves around one person being in character, and the other interacting with them.

But he takes his roles as a joke! He goes intentionally extreme with the roles. I know he thinks it's a bit ridiculous, and I know he has more fun when he does this, but I want a real roleplay!

For example, when he dressed up as the Cop, he was supposed to do a stop and frisk, arrest me, etc, but in a sexy way. But instead, he kicks open the door, screams "HANDS UP THIS IS A RAID" and basically tackles me to the bed (this is OKAY it's NOT ABUSE we have rough dom/sub sex all the time), handcuffs me, literally reads me my Miranda Rights, leaves me there and rummages through the drawers throwing stuff everywhere, pulls out a little baggy of weed and goes apeshit like a cop might. I play a long, try to get him to 'let me go' if I can do sexual favours for him. Then we have some rough sex with handcuffs and everything. The actual sex was good but he kept speaking into his fake radio calling for backup, when I was on top he would shout OFFICER DOWN OFFICER DOWN.

With the Spy outfit he would come in and check me for wires and do the whole Pink Panther thing where he says "It is lovely weather we are having" while sneaking to the drapes and then beating the drapes up. I was envisioning a more James Bond-eqsue seduction.

Like, I like the sex, it's good, but I wanted a more porn-like experience. And it was kinda funny but not what I thought. And I KNOW that he thinks roleplay is ridiculous, and that he is trying to have fun with it but I feel like he doesn't know what I want. And I don't hate him for it, he's a big fuckin goofball in or out of our roles, but I want to have MY experience. How can I tell him this?

Another fav is the �gotta hit the drippini� one. I love the low stakes ones where one partner is excessively silly.

# ? Apr 17, 2024 18:37

Hughlander: May 11, 2005

AITA foe telling my mother that her marriage is none of my business.

quote:

I'm a 36 year old woman, married to an amazing and beautiful man. I'm successful and happy.

However my life wasn't always so great. While growing up, i never had a close relationship with my parents and siblings (2 older brothers, 1 younger sister). They did things together that I wasn't interested in. And my parents never had any time for me. By the time I was a teen, I just realised that I wasn't important to them and made peace with it.

After I moved out, it was almost as if family didn't even exist. I went years without talking to my siblings and only spoke to my parents once or twice a year.

Fast forward to about 8 months ago, I found out that my father was cheating on my mother with my former friend. My husband and I were on vacation and coincidentally, my father and his side piece were staying at the same hotel as we were. We saw them come out of a room together, arms around each other.

My father turned pale, but I didn't say a word to him. My husband and I just went to stay at a different hotel because I didn't want our vacation ruined.

About a week after we came home, my father showed up at our house. He had been calling me all week, but I ignored his calls. He begged me not to tell his wife. I told him I wouldn't because simply don't care.

Cut to two weeks ago, the side piece contacted my eldest bother and told him everything. Apparently, my father had dumped her and she wanted to get back at him. She also told him that I knew.

Of course, my mother found out and called me. She screamed at me about "betraying" her. I just told her that since I was never a part of her perfect family, the state of her marriage was none of my business. Then I blocked her.

My husband supports my decision to not get involved, but feels that I may have been a little too harsh.

# ? Apr 17, 2024 18:39

Mordiceius: Nov 10, 2007; If you think calling me names is gonna get a rise out me, think again. I like my life as an idiot!

DemoneeHo posted:

Since we're feeling nostalgia for classic posts, here's my all time favorite one about open relationships

My(20m) gf(24f) wanted an open relationship and is now mad at me and wants it closed.

UPDATE: My(20m) gf(24f) wanted an open relationship and is now mad at me and wants it closed.

Goddamn the buried lede on this story - "She found me fat and unattractive. Also, I'm 6'2" and 255lb and she's 5'3" 305lb"

# ? Apr 17, 2024 18:48

mystes: May 31, 2006

Hughlander posted:

AITA foe telling my mother that her marriage is none of my business.

That's a surprising level of not having any interest in her parents without any specific reason aside from "They did things together that I wasn't interested in. And my parents never had any time for me"

# ? Apr 17, 2024 18:49

kimbo305: Jun 9, 2007; actually, yeah, I am a little mad

A Moose posted:

I remember there was 1 story about a teenager being shipped off to his grandparents, and he couldn't figure out why and nobody would tell him. I don't think that one ever got updated either.

Iirc, it got an inconclusive update (as to why the parents did it), but the kid had made his peace with it and the parents seemed to be regretting it.

# ? Apr 17, 2024 19:02

Mordiceius: Nov 10, 2007; If you think calling me names is gonna get a rise out me, think again. I like my life as an idiot!

oh jay posted:

If we're doing alltimers

TIFU / My (20F) girlfriend of two years told me the music that I (25M) play during sex is weird and a major turn off

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KAwyWkksXuo

Thanks to Tiktok, I knew exactly which track it would be. :negative:

# ? Apr 17, 2024 19:03

tactlessbastard: Feb 4, 2001; Godspeed, post; Fun Shoe

mystes posted:

That's a surprising level of not having any interest in her parents without any specific reason aside from "They did things together that I wasn't interested in. And my parents never had any time for me"

The probably just had bad vibes

# ? Apr 17, 2024 19:09

Admiral Joeslop: Jul 8, 2010

AKA Pseudonym posted:

Now obviously this is very, very stupid.

What does this mean??

# ? Apr 17, 2024 19:12

mystes: May 31, 2006

Admiral Joeslop posted:

What does this mean??

what?

# ? Apr 17, 2024 19:13

The_Franz: Aug 8, 2003

A Moose posted:

I remember there was 1 story about a teenager being shipped off to his grandparents, and he couldn't figure out why and nobody would tell him. I don't think that one ever got updated either.

I think this thread needs the gurglespurts story too unless I missed it being posted.

I kind of want to know what happened to that lady who announced that she was leaving her husband to go be a second wife/concubine to some old boyfriend in Qatar, since the guy's parents now had their racially pure grandchildren by his first wife and basically said "OK, we have grandchildren of the proper skin tone, so you can have your fun with the white lady now".

# ? Apr 17, 2024 19:16

Baronjutter: Dec 31, 2007; "Tiny Trains"

I had a friend from high school who had a really nice boyfriend and they were together for a solid 5 years or so into their early 20's. She was south african but never expressed any lovely ideology and she was also a total tomboy nerd who only dressed in baggy hoodies and absolutely hated anything feminine and would make comments like she'd rather die that wear pink, how she'd never wear a dress or skirt under any circumstances. In hindsight I would have assumed maybe she was NB or something.

One day she just ghosted her boyfriend and her entire friend circle, abandoned all her nerdy hobbies, and moved to a trailer park in the USA to marry a guy 10 years her senior she met online in WoW. Her long time boyfriend wasn't 100% white and one of her stated reasons for abandoning her entire life was the need to protect her family lineage and genetics and this guy she met was 100% dutch-english. She became an ultra-trad "women shouldn't be legally allowed to wear pants" racist who pumped out a bunch of pure white babies.

How the hell does that happen?

# ? Apr 17, 2024 19:27

Admiral Joeslop: Jul 8, 2010

AITA for Exposing My Child's Lie About Groceries?

quote:

So, here's the situation: my child lied to her boyfriend about us not having groceries because she wanted him to order food for us. We had plenty of food at home, but she preferred DoorDash. When her boyfriend sent food, thinking we were struggling, I clarified the misunderstanding. He broke up with her after seeing photos of our well-stocked cabinets. Now, she's blaming me for the breakup, claiming I caused it by telling the truth.

Am I the rear end in a top hat here? I don't think so. I simply exposed her manipulation and refused to let her spread lies. She's refusing counseling, so we've taken steps to address her behavior, including volunteering at a homeless shelter to gain perspective. Thoughts?

Readers, what do you think? Was I too harsh or just standing up against manipulation?

Based on some of the stories my sixteen year old has told me about her friends and other kids she knows, this probably happens a lot.

# ? Apr 17, 2024 19:28

mystes: May 31, 2006

Admiral Joeslop posted:

AITA for Exposing My Child's Lie About Groceries?

Based on some of the stories my sixteen year old has told me about her friends and other kids she knows, this probably happens a lot.

I had to read that twice because I initially misunderstood the beginning as OP's kid just telling her boyfriend that they should order takeout to eat together because they didn't have any food on hand to cook but I guess the situation was that she lied to her boyfriend, who hadn't even seen her house, and told him that their family couldn't afford food, which is hosed up so OP is definitely NTA

# ? Apr 17, 2024 19:34

CommissarMega: Nov 18, 2008; THUNDERDOME LOSER

kimbo305 posted:

Iirc, it got an inconclusive update (as to why the parents did it), but the kid had made his peace with it and the parents seemed to be regretting it.

ANy update is a good update, even if it isn't the one we wanted. If anyone's got a link to the original, I'd like to see it myself.

# ? Apr 17, 2024 19:39

Mordiceius: Nov 10, 2007; If you think calling me names is gonna get a rise out me, think again. I like my life as an idiot!

Baronjutter posted:

I had a friend from high school who had a really nice boyfriend and they were together for a solid 5 years or so into their early 20's. She was south african but never expressed any lovely ideology and she was also a total tomboy nerd who only dressed in baggy hoodies and absolutely hated anything feminine and would make comments like she'd rather die that wear pink, how she'd never wear a dress or skirt under any circumstances. In hindsight I would have assumed maybe she was NB or something.

One day she just ghosted her boyfriend and her entire friend circle, abandoned all her nerdy hobbies, and moved to a trailer park in the USA to marry a guy 10 years her senior she met online in WoW. Her long time boyfriend wasn't 100% white and one of her stated reasons for abandoning her entire life was the need to protect her family lineage and genetics and this guy she met was 100% dutch-english. She became an ultra-trad "women shouldn't be legally allowed to wear pants" racist who pumped out a bunch of pure white babies.

How the hell does that happen?

Oh god. Something similar (similar being suddenly ghosting family, not the trad poo poo) to this happened to a family friend.

My parents never had moved from Los Angeles to northern Idaho in the 80s (a few years before I was born). A couple they were friends with in Los Angeles also moved to the same area a few years later. Back when my parents were together, they were fairly reclusive and didn't really have a social circle outside of this other couple. To this day, my mother has zero social circle and is basically a hermit that never leaves her house.

This couple, Joe and Cindi, had two daughters. One daughter was quite a bit older than me - maybe like 6 years older, which is significant when you're 8 years old. Their younger daughter was a bit more than a year younger than me - so right between the ages of myself and my brother. The three of us spent a lot of time together.

Cindi ended up getting obsessed with the internet - and became an avid player of The Realm - a super lovely MMO from the mid-90s. At one point, she tried to convince my mother to play but my mother is dogshit with computers (even still to this day) so it didn't go well. One day Cindi goes to her husband and asks for a divorce. She found love in The Realm and was moving to Alabama to be with SAJON (a really clever name because his real name was Jason). She and their youngest daughter left to Alabama and I never saw them again. No clue what ever happened to her husband or the oldest daughter.

Mordiceius fucked around with this message at 19:46 on Apr 17, 2024

# ? Apr 17, 2024 19:42

Midnight Voyager: Jul 2, 2008; Lipstick Apathy

Baronjutter posted:

I had a friend from high school who had a really nice boyfriend and they were together for a solid 5 years or so into their early 20's. She was south african but never expressed any lovely ideology and she was also a total tomboy nerd who only dressed in baggy hoodies and absolutely hated anything feminine and would make comments like she'd rather die that wear pink, how she'd never wear a dress or skirt under any circumstances. In hindsight I would have assumed maybe she was NB or something.

One day she just ghosted her boyfriend and her entire friend circle, abandoned all her nerdy hobbies, and moved to a trailer park in the USA to marry a guy 10 years her senior she met online in WoW. Her long time boyfriend wasn't 100% white and one of her stated reasons for abandoning her entire life was the need to protect her family lineage and genetics and this guy she met was 100% dutch-english. She became an ultra-trad "women shouldn't be legally allowed to wear pants" racist who pumped out a bunch of pure white babies.

How the hell does that happen?

Sometimes the "never wear dress, never wear pink" stuff is rooted in a struggle with gender norms, not just gender. It sounds like a bad end of the struggle won.

# ? Apr 17, 2024 19:45

Pope Corky the IX: Dec 18, 2006; What are you looking at?

I had a friend who I had known since our freshman year in high school go from "My father is an abusive rear end in a top hat and a cop, I hate all cops" and being fairly liberal to posting "kill all Muslims" and "cops should just shoot protestors" on Facebook around 2016.

# ? Apr 17, 2024 20:04

DeeplyConcerned: Apr 29, 2008; I can fit 3 whole bud light cans now, ask me how!

Fuckin' fascists, man!

# ? Apr 17, 2024 20:17

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# ? Apr 30, 2024 12:41

FMguru: Sep 10, 2003; peed on;
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One Weird Trick for scoring a free house for yourself. Sons in law hate it!

AITA for telling my wife that it's not ok for her and her family to decide unilaterally that we were moving to the city where they live without telling me until her family was under contract on a house for us?

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A couple of week ago my wife told me that her grandparents just went under contract on a brand new house under construction in their neighborhood in the city they live in a couple of hours away and that we would be moving there when it was completed. To make things worse, her grandparents called me a couple of days ago saying they were doing this as a favor to us and the house would be in their name, but they wanted me to contribute a significant amount of money towards the purchase price of the house otherwise they would lose the earnest money if they didn't close on it it. I told her that it was not ok for her and her family to unilaterally make the decisions that we were moving and to go under contract on a house without telling me until after the fact. Am I the rear end in a top hat?

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For clarification, they want me to contribute approximately 40% of the purchase price while them and another member of my wife's family contribute the rest.

"Put up 40% of the value of this house, and get no equity or ownership" - gosh what a great favor, OP should be more thankful.

# ? Apr 17, 2024 20:23

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