Skutter posted:

WIBTA for asking the staff at my gym to stop someone from recording classes?

I can understand someone recording themselves to check their form, but this sounds way over the top, especially with the different angles thing. Why is that necessary? And why hasn't she been kicked out?!

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AITA I got married in November 2023. I have a property on my own prior to marriage and a healthy amount of savings. My new wife purchased a condo with her sister in 2020 and told her sister not to worry about anything. My wife put 60k and her sister put 10k down. Later my wife paid over 40k in renovations and again told her sister not to worry about contributing as she was trying to express gratitude (gift) for her sister being there for her in the past with helping her make ends meet when she was in college.
Now, my wife is 61k in credit card debt with cards at 28% interest. Their agreement prior to me existing was that when they sell in the future they’d go 50/50 on the profits. At this point her sister is up and my wife is barely breaking even. I told her I married her with her debts and assets. She expects us to pay off her 61k together because i “married her with her debt.”

I provided the alternative to have her sister give her an additional 20k at the sale of the property whenever that is since I’m going to be helping pay down her debt and have that legally stipulated through attorney documents. She is having a hard time with asking her sister for that saying she feels like she’s taking advantage of her sister for going back on her word.

We eloped, I bought both my ring and hers because she didn’t have any money. She has money sitting in that condo investment but now doesn’t want to touch it because she was under the impression that we’d pay it down together and not touch her sisters 50%. She said 60k is nothing for me but I’ve worked really hard in preparation for my future family when I’d get married.

I’ve offered to help her pay down her debt so as long as in the future whenever they sell the property “we get at least that additional 20k.” She doesn’t want to sell the property because her sister would have a hard time getting into another property but I want us to get out of debt or at least not be responsible for all of her debt seeing as to how hard I’ve worked too.

ChickenOfTomorrow posted:

WIBTA for wanting my funeral to happen BEFORE I die

Troublemaker posted:

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Additionally, I noticed the hotel they chose only has bathrooms with crystal clear glass doors, as well as see-through shower walls. If you’re in the room while someone is using the toilet or showering, you can see everything.

Totbot posted:

The wife pretty much did say that she doesn’t trust her husband to be able to take care of the dog when she didn’t just threaten to leave, but to leave immediately with the children.

The implication of describing the dog as untrained and aggressive and talking about taking the children away from the house is that she doesn’t think the husband can/will take care of the dog in any meaningful way.

FMguru posted:

How do I 24M get my former best friend 25M to stop telling people I slept with his fiancé 25F?

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When I went to college I wasn’t focus but I’m older and wiser now.

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I (m17) found out my mom is naming my brother zaza and it breaks my heart that i’m powerless to help him. Everyone has told her this is an awful name and the only runner up is Azrael. She sent an urban dictionary definition as justification. Am I the rear end in a top hat for spending an hour pleading with her to change his name?

For clarification we’re a white middle class american family and she knows it means weed.

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Throwaway because i don’t use Reddit but my friend told me to post here. I 28f Aki have two brothers Akihito 30 and Akio 28. I recently got married to my boyfriend of four years.

idiotsavant posted:

Between travel (gas, vehicle, chains, racks, etc), equipment, clothes, and passes snow sports have pretty much always been expensive as gently caress unless you're basically a townie and live at the bottom of the slope and get all the local discounts. Yeah, you used to be able to go up and ride halfway decent resorts for 20-40 bucks and now the same spots are all literally $110-160 for a single day, but you still had to have all the other poo poo. It sucks because snow sports are fun as hell but also price out a bunch of people who otherwise might love them.

reignonyourparade posted:

TBH I think "being the skiing capitol of the country" makes that specific metric WORSE, not that I think other parts of the country are anywhere near scandinavia tier, because you become "the place where the rest of the country flies for a ski vacation."

Troublemaker posted:

Gonna keep my eye on this one. It has the potential for updates involving TREE LAW.

AITA for putting a tree net to stop any fruits from going onto my neighbor’s yard?

Edited original post to add some missing punctuation and to move OP's edits to the end, because they're an extremely lovely and confusing writer.

Mx. posted:

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Neighbour should plant some fruit trees. Everyone with a yard should plant some fruit trees actually. Trees own and you the local possum, bird and bat bear population get free fruit.

AnoHito posted:

It was the same when I was growing up in New Jersey, at least. Including the public school ski trips.

I never thought of skiing as anything particularly expensive; it was always sort of comparable to something like going to a football game.

mystes posted:

The way he describes it is that she gave him a weird look when he asked for a fork and then asked the wife if there was a problem in a way that seems to have been in response to him asking for a fork.

imo either
1) He was weird about how he asked for a fork (like he was intentionally acting like he didn't want to be in a Chinese restaurant)
2) He just asked for a fork normally and she was actually acting snobbish about it as he described, or
3) The way he told the story was so inaccurate it's not worth trying to make sense of it

I don't think it's really possible to distinguish between 1 and 2 just by reading his post, so I don't think it's possible to say whether it's projection or not, but if the sequence of events is anything like what he described it doesn't sound like the question about whether they should have gone to another restaurant was intended neutrally. That's not usually something you would say when someone has just started to eat their food unless there is some specific issue.

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She is people pleaser. Which makes me want to act more like this to balance things out.

Tobermory posted:

AITA for putting people on a "no drinking" list for my wedding?

BAGS FLY AT NOON posted:

r/relationships: due to our age gape

DemoneeHo posted:

[b]AITA for not inviting my eldest brother to my wedding.[/b

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He used to call mom and dad(his stepdad) regularly to ask about me and my other siblings . But that's it nothing more than just normal "how are you" and "what are you doing" we never really hung out with him . Only my sister Sara was close to him , they used to talk alot , unlike me and sam. When ever he visited us he used to bring chocolates and gifts for us . And take me and my other siblings to lunch and dinner . As I grew up we started to drift apart. On there other hand I have very good relationship with my other siblings. Currently I and jake only talk like once month .

Kurieg posted:

Yeah it sounds like she resents him for going to college and being older than her, despite him making every effort to make and maintain a connection, she's the one who checked out at the age of loving six.

DoubleNegative posted:

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I’ve gone and spent thousands having this looked into and the better part of our 1 year relationship. I’ve been to the chiropractor, seen 2 different ear nose and throat doctors and have tried countless over the counter remedies to no avail. 

haveblue posted:

The way it's written makes it sound like he's falling asleep involuntarily no matter what he tries to avoid it, so maybe he does have a real issue. Or he's doing strenuous labor for all of those 15 hours, I dunno

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She goes to sleep around 11pm or later and has to get up for work around 7-7:30.

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Well we’ve been together for a year so about a year. If I want to do something with my friends she has to tag along

Funktastic posted:

AITA for taking “advantage” of my gf?

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it was technically unlimited

Pope Corky the IX posted:

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I apologise for any spelling or grammar mistakes I'm dyslexic

My sister and my brother-in-law are awful people they are disgusting human beings who should never have been allowed to reproduce but life's not fair and my sister gave birth to my beautiful niece and my gorgeous nephew. my niece and nephew were removed from their care permanently and I legally adopted them. I'm not going to go into detail about what they did to these poor kids well let's just say it was horrible. One of the most horrible things that they've done was what they named their kids and they're not something old fashion like Gertrude or Eugene no, my niece original name means prostitute and, they named my nephew after a dog from a horror movie. So when I adopted them and filled out the paperwork to change my niblings last name to mine I also changed their first names to. This was over 6 years when niece was just about to turn 4 and nephew was 2 and a half years ago. My sister just found out last week that I changed their names and is going crazy to family and online. I didn't think I was an rear end in a top hat until our mutual aunt someone I respect said that I was an rear end to complete erase my sister and BIL connection to my kids, and now I'm starting to second guess my self

So am I the rear end for renaming my niece and nephew?

Big Bowie Bonanza posted:

AITAH for not telling people at my new job that my wife is bi?

bi wife so what

Hughlander posted:

AITA for returning gifts to my family and asking them to leave after they insulted my daughter's name?


Indie was the dogs name.

syntaxfunction posted:

Everyone knows a real adult drinks rainwater or grain alcohol

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I’m a 56 year old woman and I have three children, Brad (32), Emma (29), and Sophia (23). Brad lives about 4 hours away, Emma just recently moved back home and Sophia still lives with my husband and I. Emma was engaged and the relationship became abusive so we urged her to stay with us for a while for both safety reasons and financial reasons. She is 32 weeks pregnant with her first child (our first grandchild ). She works hard but took a financial hit when her relationship ended and home prices are insanely high here.

We have a nice sized 4 bedroom home that we’ve owned since the kids were little. All three of our kids had their own bedrooms and Brad’s room is currently vacant except for the few times a year he visits. Brad moved out about 3 years ago and did not at all take care of his room. I had to do a lengthy cleanup when he moved out and the room has been needing to be redone for quite a while. I told Emma that I would happily help her renovate Brad’s room for the baby. The baby will be sleeping in her room the first few months anyway but the nursery will give her a dedicated space to keep the baby’s things and for baby to sleep once the bassinet is outgrown. My only caveat was that the room needs to have a bed for Brad’s visits. When he comes home, he can either stay in his old room and the baby can be in a pack and play with Emma, or Emma can stay in the baby’s room and Brad can stay in hers. It’s not ideal but it’s the best option for Emma at this time and we can make it work.

I was telling Brad about the plans to renovate his room into a nursery and he freaked out. He said I should have asked him, not told him. He feels I’m trying to erase him from the family and that I’d rather have the baby than him. He said he’s not going to visit anymore or come home for holidays because he won’t feel welcome. He feels his sister was irresponsible to get pregnant and that she’s not owed his childhood bedroom for her child. He feels it has sentimental value and I’m just getting rid of that without second thought. I disagree with him wholeheartedly. I love all my kids (and my unborn grandchild) and I’m just trying to do right by all of them with the resources I have. He comes home very few times a year (less than 10 nights per year) and to me it just doesn’t make sense to have a vacant room when we could really use that space for a baby. Am I the rear end in a top hat for just giving away his childhood bedroom?

wizardofloneliness posted:

I don’t want to think about the logistics of collecting and freezing sperm from someone in a coma. Good for the wife for banning mom from the room so she couldn’t try anything.

Mx. posted:

AITA for sending my parents a picture of the Biblical Rebeccah every time they try to get in touch with me?

idk who rebeccah is but google shows me pictures of a lady who is super done with everyone's poo poo

sullat posted:

AITA for tricking my senile husband into disinheriting his favorite son?

duck trucker posted:

I keep going back to his "recently my wardrobe broke down" like that's just a thing they do like cars. What do you mean man did you break it or did it collapse? I can't wrap my head around that phrasing.

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I (19F) have been living with my best friend (20F) for the last 6 months or so. We’ve been friends since forever. I know her older brother (26M) pretty well too because i’d see him when I was younger and at my friends house and when he’d babysit us sometimes and drive us places. I’ve known him like my whole life.

It was my birthday a month ago and he bought me lingerie which I thought was like really weird so I just put it in my drawer. I threw it away a few days ago because i’m never gonna wear it and like it just makes me uncomfortable because he bought it. He was here earlier and me and my friend were talking to him. He asked me if I wore the lingerie yet and before I could answer my friend asked if the lingerie was the one I threw in the trash I was gonna lie but she already told him what color it was so he knew that it was lingerie he bought me. He started yelling at me for throwing it away because it cost him a lot of money. I apologised but said that it made me really uncomfortable that he bought it for me. He told me he was just being friendly and thought i’d appreciate the gift. He accused me of thinking he’s some kinda pervert and kept yelling at me until I cried and went to my room.

I just hated the way he looked at me when he gave me the lingerie like it grossed me out so much I don’t think he’s a bad person or anything but it just made me uncomfortable and I didn’t want to be reminded of the way he looked at me every time I saw the lingerie that’s why I got rid of it. I didn’t tell him all this though because it would’ve really upset him. My friend said I kinda overreacted in throwing it away because he was only trying to be nice. I don’t know, AITA?