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So, uhm, this might be a bit uncomfortable to talk about.

Basically, GF wanted to do it on her period, and I didn't want to. It just makes me feel grossed out, and I told her that. She basically said "well I get horny when I'm on my period, what am I supposed to do." I really didn't want to, but felt pressured to try it. I did and couldn't stay hard cause I was grossed out. She was in tears afterwards.

Am I overreacting for thinking this is breakup material? I want to be accepting of women and their sexuality and all that, but I was never really comfortable with this and didn't want to do it and felt pressured into it.

tl;dr: Period sex is not something I'm interested in, am I a bad person for wanting to break up over being pressured into it?

Tears In A Vial posted:

WampaLord posted:

And now, I present the biggest baby ever:

GF [21F] guilted me [25M] into period sex

Pearnicious posted:

If just TALKING about porn makes you cry, you're the one with the problem, not him.

My opinion is heavily biased because I'm a guy, but expecting a man in his 20's to not watch porn and masturbate is one of the dumbest things ever.

WampaLord posted:

And now, I present the biggest baby ever:

GF [21F] guilted me [25M] into period sex

Gumbel2Gumbel posted:

Just wear a condom, put down a towel, and don't look down jesus christ.

Edit: Also someone who is this much of a baby is not going to handle a crisis situation where someone gets injured very well. She needs to dump his rear end.

flick my Mr. Bean posted:

Seriously, what the gently caress. How do you escape your teens without getting over your fear of periods?

zakharov posted:

I too think porn policing is dumb, but if you make a promise to your partner you should keep it???

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A friend and I[both 21M] humiliated a girl[20F] who has social anxiety. He doesn't seem to regret it, I want to make it up to her

Throwaway since this story involves me being a huge rear end in a top hat.

I've been friends with Alex since freshman orientation when we were 18. We have very similar senses of humor and tastes in music, so we quickly became best friends and spent most weekends hanging out. We're in similar majors(chemistry and biochem) and share a number of core classes, and we're both prominent in a popular student organization. We're very outgoing and I in particular try to make an effort to get to know everyone in my classes and clubs which is how I met Elly: a very shy, quiet girl in my major. She's not rude or anything but when I say shy, I mean shy- I've never seen her try to befriend anyone, and she always sits alone in the cafeteria/student lounge with her laptop or a book. She only wears oversized sweatshirts and baggy leggings, so I didn't really find her attractive and she didn't seem to want to talk to anyone so I never approached. Alex, being overconfident, tried anyways. He would sit next to her in the lounge and cafeteria, and got to know her a bit. He would always complain about her to me and our friend group, saying how creepy and awkward she is and how she's just a weird anime nerd- he had a lot of fun ragging on her, and both I and the rest of the group took part. He also said that he caught her staring at me at times, and she would ask questions about me. He suggested that I hang out with her as a joke, just to see how awkward she was.

I started hanging out with her early this semester, around late September. At first she was aloof, but gradually opened up to me. She was indeed very awkward- she had trouble looking me in the eye, and always seemed on edge- but had a good sense of humor and seemed very kind. She eventually told me that she suffered from social anxiety and found it hard to talk to people and make friends, but she desperately wanted to. She was still the butt of every joke in our friends' group chat, and I shamefully took part even when I was befriending her. The girls would take mean snapchats of her and insult her body/fashion/etc, while the guys- Alex especially- would say cruel, often sexualized things about her that I'd rather not repeat (one recurring "meme" among the guys was how they'd rather suffer through [horrible injury] than have sex with her). Elly did become a little too attached to me around November; I'd see her all over the place like she was stalking me, and would always try to sit with the group and I and butt into our conversations. I did find this off-putting (I am not at all saying that this justifies my actions), and so I continued to insult her and egg my other friends on. Alex would make veiled insults to her when she intruded on the group, which she didn't seem to notice. She was nicknamed "stalker" and our chat's avatar was a very unflattering snap of her face.

This all came to a head last Tuesday when Elly contacted Alex on social media, asking him advice on whether I'd accept an invitation to go on an ice skating date with her. According to him, he was a bit drunk and pissed off about failing a final, so he let her have it: he told her about the group memes, how everyone- including me- found her creepy and repulsive, and even showed her screenshots of us insulting her in the chat. He told me this and seemed very proud of himself, but I was horrified. I know I was complicit in her humiliation, but it all came crashing down on me that night. I wanted to text her an apology and meet up with her to see what I could do to make things right, but she blocked me on facebook and blocked my number from her phone. I tried to catch her after our last final, but she came in after and finished way before me. Her family lives a state away and she is probably there for the winter break. I told Alex that we need to make things right with her when she comes back, but he keeps brushing me off like it's no big deal. I removed myself from the chat and have not spoken to anyone in the group since.

Looking back, Elly was just a scapegoat and insulting her was just a means of masking how stressed we all were due to our status as juniors and an increasingly difficult workload... but that doesn't make things better. I could blame peer pressure or Alex for what I did, but I won't lie. I made fun of her because it felt good to rag on someone "weaker" than me in a time of massive stress. I am an awful person. Please, I would like to know what I can do for Elly to let her know that I am truly sorry for what I've done.

tl;dr: I pretended to befriend a girl who has social anxiety and who had a crush on me to humiliate her. I deeply regret my actions and want to make things right, but my friend who also humiliated her thinks we did nothing wrong. I need to know how to let her know I am sorry, and how to convince my friend to also make amends.

flick my Mr. Bean posted:

Seriously, what the gently caress. How do you escape your teens without getting over your fear of periods?

Gluten Freeman posted:

Masturbating to your coworkers' instagrams is creepy though.

Pvt.Scott posted:

See the documentary film Carrie.

Gluten Freeman posted:

Anyway, here's a nice story of a bunch of terrible, terrible people:


"this person me and my friend went out of our way to befriend keeps hanging around me for some reason!! what a nerd!!"

Cough Drop The Beat posted:

Holy gently caress. Teenagers are the worst. I feel so bad for that poor girl.

WampaLord posted:

I'm not exactly excusing it, but if she hadn't cut off the porn, he wouldn't have done that.

Cough Drop The Beat posted:

Holy gently caress. Teenagers are the worst. I feel so bad for that poor girl.

WampaLord posted:

I'm not exactly excusing it, but if she hadn't cut off the porn, he wouldn't have done that.

WampaLord posted:

"But it's gross!!!! Now if you'll excuse me, I'm going to get naked and rub my sweaty body all over my partner, putting my mouth on their genitals and finish up by ejaculating into them. With no grossness, thank you."

Gluten Freeman posted:

Anyway, here's a nice story of a bunch of terrible, terrible people:


"this person me and my friend went out of our way to befriend keeps hanging around me for some reason!! what a nerd!!"

The Snoo posted:

I'm so glad that my husband and I both hate porn and he's happy with just me and my big honkin' tits and if he needs to masturbate he just asks and does it on my tits so like....... no drama. nice

The Snoo posted:

I'm so glad that my husband and I both hate porn and he's happy with just me and my big honkin' tits and if he needs to masturbate he just asks and does it on my tits so like....... no drama. nice

WampaLord posted:

And now, I present the biggest baby ever:

GF [21F] guilted me [25M] into period sex

Gluten Freeman posted:

Anyway, here's a nice story of a bunch of terrible, terrible people:


"this person me and my friend went out of our way to befriend keeps hanging around me for some reason!! what a nerd!!"

The Snoo posted:

I'm so glad that my husband and I both hate porn and he's happy with just me and my big honkin' tits and if he needs to masturbate he just asks and does it on my tits so like....... no drama. nice

YeahTubaMike posted:

edit: i really hope that one day the snoo shuts the gently caress up about their husband/marriage in this thread

JFairfax posted:

I think there is something instinctively alarming about unexpectedly having blood on your penis, it's like one of those evolutionary things - your brain just says "this is a bad situation, you're gonna have a bad time"

WampaLord posted:

It's not really unexpected for that Redditor though.

JFairfax posted:

do you hold up his stomach rolls so he can reach his semi-turgid micropenis?

remigious posted:

I feel like I'm a broken human being. Porn is just not a turn on for me at all it's not all bad, but every time I seek something out I can't avoid pics of women being abused and crying and I'd rather just avoid it.

remigious posted:

I feel like I'm a broken human being. Porn is just not a turn on for me at all it's not all bad, but every time I seek something out I can't avoid pics of women being abused and crying and I'd rather just avoid it.