Gaunab posted:

Gaunab posted:

Love triangle

Barudak posted:

This is really easy, even though you obfuscated it in a shitload of boring 3 some crap. You arent marries to him, you dont want kids with him, just dump him. Or i guess just keep letting life happen to you without owning up to any of your desires which so far has somehow worked for you.

Charles Get-Out posted:

What a coincidence, this is exactly what I look for in men.

Ride The Gravitron posted:

Batman has been a constant source of hope and inspiration for me. Everytime I have a hard day I remember how much he accomplished despite losing his parents at such a young age

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I'm (30M) concerned about my wife's (29F) sudden weight gain and that she's not taking it seriously. It's causing problems in the bedroom and I'm not sure how to approach or solve it.

My wife has started a new medication in recent months, and one of the side effects of it is that she's going through a lot of weight gain. I knew that it was possible that she might put on a few pounds as she negotiated a routine and such, but I wasn't exactly prepared for her to have put on as much as she has.

I'm also concerned that she's not taking it very seriously. I try to help her be mindful when she's overeating or not exercising, and she continually laughs it off or makes excuses. It's frustrating because I'm always going to the gym or going running and inviting her along but she always seems to find a new reason to not go.

And yes it's causing problems in the bedroom. I've found myself turning her down lately because I'd be lying if I said I'm not as attracted to her. I promise I'm not trying to be shallow, but I know what she should look like and she's far from it right now. Whether I want it to be or not, it's a turn off and it makes it not work for me.

Anyone have any suggestions on how to approach this? I'm trying to approach the subject delicately but I'm not feeling like I'm getting through to her. I really want to help her stay in shape and stop this from becoming a problem, but I am finding it almost impossible to get through to her.

tl;dr: My wife is taking a medication that is causing weight gain and I'm having issues with getting her to take the problem seriously. Plus I am honestly less attracted to her in the bedroom. This is getting to be an issue and I need help with how to help her fix it.

Gaunab posted:

I [25F] think my boyfriend [24M] is into my buff friend's [27F] body.

Lunchmeat Larry posted:

my type of woman will cut off my nuts and brutally murder me and tell my family and loved ones it was self-defense so that I die with them all hating me and then she will stuff me and display me in her hallway

Gaunab posted:

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I know what she should look like and she's far from it right now.

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My husband has had a beard for several years now, which I haven't minded. Typically its been under an inch long, which I find attractive.

Over the last year, he's gone overboard with it, letting it grow very long. I absolutely hate it. While he has a nice post-shower routine which includes conditioners and nice oils, it of course gets dirtier through the day. When he eats food and liquids get stuck in it, and it makes me gag. Not to be graphic, but in sexual situations it gets sloppy and wet -- it disgusts me. I can't take it anymore.

I've asked him to trim it, to keep it at a more managable length that agrees with us both. He has refused. I have tried not to make a big deal out of it, because I realise its not good to demand your partner change their preferred appearance, but its causing me to be resentful.

I deeply love my husband, but I don't know what else to do. I no longer wish to be intimate with him, but I don't think its fair to give him an "or else!" ultimatium. Where do I go from here?

tl;dr: My husbands beard grosses me out but he won't cut it.

tl;dr: Mandatory summary/question!

Pick posted:

On the matter of long man hair, when I was in highschool a friend of a friend had long hair. Past his rear end. And it was beautiful. It was the thickest rope of lustrous hair I had ever seen. Never dyed, never subjected to harsh treatment. Just kept in a braid every single day, and it was incredible. The guy was a douche but he really did have amazing hair. I literally imagine he could have gotten two grand for it at one of those places that dyes human hair for wigs.

It looked like this,



Just incredible.

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Okay, so this is quite a long story sorry. I have a girlfriend, we’ve been together now for 7 years. There were lots of problems during the relationship but we’ve always loved each other and always succeeded to work out or issues. About three months ago there was a huge fight, we didn’t speak to each other for a month and we both thought this was really the end of us. But, we got back together and ever since everything was just great! We promised each other to learn from our mistakes and never treat each other like we used to. To never hurt each other again and always be honest with each other.

Everything was so great that I really started trusting her again and even considered proposing to her soon. Then last week a longtime friend of hers died. She wouldn’t tell me who this person was, she only said that he was like family to her. So obviously I was there for her and tried to support her. I suddenly started having nightmares about her ex-boyfriend, later I found out this was a big sign! About half a year ago I caught her having contact with her ex. It was not just friendly contact, it was about her asking him to please move back in with her as soon as possible, about having children and lots of dirty talk. Plus they called each other constantly! I forgave her and tried to put this behind me and trust her one last time. It seemed like the contact was over until this friend died. She finally told me who the deceased man was and I knew this was also a very good friend of her ex. I can just put my money on it that they are talking again, and that she might be even drawn more towards him because they’re both going to a difficult time. But I didn’t ask her about this. I didn’t because I wanted to show her respect while being in such grief. I wanted her to focus on her friends passing and not bother her with my emotions until she calmed down again.

Last week I had to bring my father to this place because he was very depressed. Bringing him there hurt me a lot but I didn’t bother her to much with my issues like I never do. She’s a person who attracts problems so most of the time I spend being there for her and helping her. I take good care of her and try to be a good man to her. Last night I heard my father tried to commit suicide, luckily he’s al right and getting the help he needs now! I heard this around midnight and didn’t know what to do..my girlfriend had been acting strange to me the whole week (probably because of her ex and the passing of her friend), but I still decided to go to her place because I really needed her for once! I came to her door crying but I heard her having a party. She was there with two boys and some junky girlfriend of hers who I hate and who has the worst influence on her! She opened the door, heard the news and saw me crying. She said she couldn’t let me in because it was a bad time. She pushed me out of her front door and promised to call me asap. She didn’t. The next day I called her because this made me even more sad and also furious! She told me she felt bad for my father but not for me. Not for me because I should’ve been there more for him, she kept saying all these things that made me even feel worse because she was actually implying his suicide attempt was my fault, but it’s not! I don’t have a lot of contact with my father, true. But this is because of things that happened that are not my fault. Still I always take care of him when he’s in trouble and try to visit when I can.

She really broke my heart..I would never to that to anyone, let alone my partner of 7 years! Now she doesn’t call me, doesn’t speak to me. I don’t know what to do..I love her very much but there have been to many red flags now! I feel like she doesn’t even love me. If she would how could she treat me like this in times of pain while I’m always there for her? What should I do?

Zzulu posted:

the only prerequisite for a relationship I have is that the person is alive in some way and allows me to post on SA 24/7

Charles Get-Out posted:

My lounge blanket is an afghan my folks bought off a beach in Morocco in the 1970s. I took it and have been using it constantly for 2 decades. Ancient blankets are the best.

A Wizard of Goatse posted:

ok this one is worth posting in full

Zelder posted:

i feel like at that point if you aren't developing a fighting style based around your haircut you're just wasting your potential

A Wizard of Goatse posted:

ok this one is worth posting in full

A Wizard of Goatse posted:

ok this one is worth posting in full

A Wizard of Goatse posted:

ok this one is worth posting in full

Demon Of The Fall posted:

I'm continually shocked that people are in relationships so long. 7 years, I've seen up to 10 or more in this thread without getting married. That's crazy to me. I've never met or heard of a woman that would let a relationship go 3+ years without a bigger commitment. Who are these people?

Pick posted:

Murder.

And yes, that's a murder her. See, I'm fair .

WAY TO GO WAMPA!! posted:

pelo

I [32F] have a bit of a disagreement with my husband [34M] over his beard.

Demon Of The Fall posted:

I'm continually shocked that people are in relationships so long. 7 years, I've seen up to 10 or more in this thread without getting married. That's crazy to me. I've never met or heard of a woman that would let a relationship go 3+ years without a bigger commitment. Who are these people?

Pick posted:

The gross, overgrown beard is a loving plague here in Portland, and I hate hate hate hate hate it.

Pick posted:

Murder.

And yes, that's a murder her. See, I'm fair .

54 40 or gently caress posted:

I'm guessing it's an anti-depressant and these questions always piss me off because the partner, of I've noticed it's mostly guys, act like their partner is completely flippant about the fact they've gained weight.

Trust me, they know, and they feel like poo poo about it.

Pick posted:

I'd need an anti-depressant if I were with that dickhead.

But yeah, most women are extremely cognizant of their weight, it's not like we need to be reminded when we're up 5lbs, we loving know.