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quote:Bf [28M] is obsessed with being funny on snapchat. He's been wearing my [26F] lingerie in "skits"[new] Jesus just take him to Victoria's secret with you and get some stuff in his size. edit to add comment: quote:He's made himself sick with taco bell and white castle just so he could send his friends the grossest pictures possible :/ What's his SA username
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# ? Jan 23, 2017 03:30 |
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La Brea Carpet posted:Jesus just take him to Victoria's secret with you and get some stuff in his size. Maybe I'm a judgmental harpy or whatever, but I feel like it'd be really hard for me to stay in a relationship with a dude whose idea of humor is "eat enough White Castle to get hideous diarrhea, snapchat to send to friends," even before he started ruining my clothes for a joke. Like, it would frankly be more workable if it turned out this was because he had a fetish/some gender issues to work through, rather than just being terminally unfunny and juvenile.
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# ? Jan 23, 2017 03:40 |
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To be fair, any amount of White Castle is enough to give you hideous diarrhea
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# ? Jan 23, 2017 03:42 |
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Antivehicular posted:Maybe I'm a judgmental harpy or whatever, but I feel like it'd be really hard for me to stay in a relationship with a dude whose idea of humor is "eat enough White Castle to get hideous diarrhea, snapchat to send to friends," even before he started ruining my clothes for a joke. Like, it would frankly be more workable if it turned out this was because he had a fetish/some gender issues to work through, rather than just being terminally unfunny and juvenile. Yeah, he's a manchild. Don't date manchildren.
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# ? Jan 23, 2017 03:43 |
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Imagine being this lovely
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# ? Jan 23, 2017 03:45 |
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La Brea Carpet posted:Jesus just take him to Victoria's secret with you and get some stuff in his size. Lady, your boyfriend is into crossdressing. He's just playing it off as being wacky.
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# ? Jan 23, 2017 03:47 |
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Lonely Virgil posted:Lady, your boyfriend is into crossdressing. He's just playing it off as being wacky. Ah, an optimist.
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# ? Jan 23, 2017 03:47 |
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Antivehicular posted:Maybe I'm a judgmental harpy or whatever, but I feel like it'd be really hard for me to stay in a relationship with a dude whose idea of humor is "eat enough White Castle to get hideous diarrhea, snapchat to send to friends," even before he started ruining my clothes for a joke. Like, it would frankly be more workable if it turned out this was because he had a fetish/some gender issues to work through, rather than just being terminally unfunny and juvenile. Lonely Virgil posted:Lady, your boyfriend is into crossdressing. He's just playing it off as being wacky. It being a fetish or gender issues made more sense until that stuff about White Castle. I mean, maybe he's also just a man-child in general.
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# ? Jan 23, 2017 03:57 |
timefly posted:Yep. Even with some guys I've dated who have rich/well-connected parents, they'd ask what my parents do and I'd say "my dad's in QA/disabled and my mom's a lab tech" and they'd be skeeved out and tell him to stay away from me or whatever. We were pretty solidly middle class. It doesn't even just get limited to dating. I was poor as hell growing up and had rich friends, their parents loving hated me and didn't even try to disguise it. I never asked for anything, never went anywhere with anyone unless I could pay for myself. But they always acted like I was trash and it was the worst. I stopped hanging out with one friend when his mother straight up told me I was "disgusting and filthy" during a sleep over. I was a clean kid, I didn't wear lovely clothes or anything. I was just poor. quote:I [38F] have sort of become friends with a criminal investigator [30's-40'sM] who was assigned to my kid's abuse case, and not sure if it's weird.
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# ? Jan 23, 2017 04:01 |
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Relevant Tangent posted:It being a fetish or gender issues made more sense until that stuff about White Castle. I mean, maybe he's also just a man-child in general. He's into scat too.
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# ? Jan 23, 2017 04:21 |
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what kind of ingrate bitches on Reddit about getting to date Divine
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# ? Jan 23, 2017 04:32 |
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Nuebot posted:Jesus. Sure, lady. It's not weird at all to gossip about horrifying child abuse like it was your neighbor's weird love affair. Isn't that what this entire thread is about?
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# ? Jan 23, 2017 04:34 |
Beekeeping and You posted:Isn't that what this entire thread is about? They're not our kids though.
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# ? Jan 23, 2017 04:35 |
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Dunning Krugerrand posted:Me [25F] with my boyfriend [32M] he feels ''lied'' to, because I never told him my ex was a different race I date a lot of white women and I like yo think that, somehow, this one is about me
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# ? Jan 23, 2017 05:44 |
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Nuebot posted:Jesus. Sure, lady. It's not weird at all to gossip about horrifying child abuse like it was your neighbor's weird love affair.
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# ? Jan 23, 2017 05:47 |
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I hope that, through my actions and deeds, I'm causing distress for crazy white racists all over the nation. That's really all you can ask for in life
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# ? Jan 23, 2017 05:52 |
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ArbitraryC posted:yeah if it was overt racism or something it would almost make sense but the way the op wrote it as "they hate her because her family died" just seems so off the wall I just can't wrap my head around it. Rich people don't respect poor people. ... you fool
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# ? Jan 23, 2017 06:00 |
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Zelder posted:I hope that, through my actions and deeds, I'm causing distress for crazy white racists all over the nation. That's really all you can ask for in life I was friends with a black guy in college and though we didn't date whoooooooooo boy when we were out doing stuff you'd get Some Looks. Racist: *sees blonde woman with black man* *immediately and furiously imagines that black man's incredible whopper of a penis thrusting, nay, slamming into her pussy with manly grace neither he nor any other white man could ever match* *votes*
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# ? Jan 23, 2017 06:06 |
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Pick posted:
Go on... E: My wife's black, I'm hispanic but pass for white. Most we've ever gotten was a "You go, girl." from another black girl while walking in the mall.
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# ? Jan 23, 2017 06:40 |
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:what kind of ingrate bitches on Reddit about getting to date Divine
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# ? Jan 23, 2017 07:18 |
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Batterypowered7 posted:Go on... I assume it also depends on where you live, I was in the south so .
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# ? Jan 23, 2017 07:24 |
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Batterypowered7 posted:Go on... Me and my fiance both have black mothers. Several people thought we were siblings.
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# ? Jan 23, 2017 07:57 |
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"unspoken assumptions"quote:How do I (23/M) deal with unfounded anger toward a married coworker (25/F) who I have no reason to still have feelings for...[new] Hey jackass McDouchecanoe, maybe she's not flirting. maybe she's a nice person. what the gently caress would you know about this.
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# ? Jan 23, 2017 08:57 |
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I find it so tiresome and, frankly, insulting how all these random women want me for my hot body and amazing cock, a fact which they signal by making eye contact
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# ? Jan 23, 2017 09:20 |
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Me [29 M] with my wife [28 F] of 4 years, her new group expects her to exploit herself sometimes u/oddfeelingabout20m My wife was recruited into a national women's group by her good friend. It was a long process. I don't know much about these kind of groups, but it's kind of like freemasonry but for women, not totally but similar. Members span a lot of age ranges, mostly middle class and above, mostly white, like 99% I would say. They do a lot of good work for charity and do things like scholarships for female students and minorities. They do fundraising and other things also. My wife went from skeptical about it when her friend approached her (partly because she knew nothing about it), to being really into it and "inspired" by the women she meets at events and meetings. I thought it was good for her and I guess I still do. One concern was she is younger than most, but not all, for example her friend is younger. I also worry she was desired in part for not being the typical recruit, though I know that is not the only reason. To give a demonstration about her change of heart, my wife was always a religious skeptic and now she is talking about joining a church that is common among the membership. It is a mellow denomination, I have no issue with it, it's just a change. She has also started to dress differently suddenly though her past style was always very particular to her, and she got a drastically different haircut that I think is common in the group also, or more so than what she had. More professional looking and businessy. I am able to attend maybe 1/10 of the functions. This is partly work and partly many are women only. Okay so the functions attended by husbands that I have missed often segregate by gender anyway, which is weird to me. I went to a couple of them that were both men and women, but some men show up to single gender events and do things like watch games in a given room with a bar, tv, etc. But I missed many more including all of the past 3 months so I am not 100% on all of it. During that time my wife has come somehow to be expected to take care of the men who do show up. I mean as a group. She does cleanup and brings beverages to that room, chats them up and so on. Supposedly this is a rotating duty but she has done something like the last 4 out of 5 or more. I am not sure of that but pretty sure. We talked about it and she said she doesn't know when others do it, when she can expect that, or why it is usually her to do it. There are newer members, plenty, who have never done it and many older ones never have as far as we know, though others have different responsibilities to be fair. I had also wondered if it was about clothing or her looks and I think this may be part of it. When I asked her friend, who we know well for long while, if she had ever done this job or whatever, she gestured to herself laughing and said "no they don't want this, they want that" and pointed up and down at my wife, claiming then that she was just kidding. She thought it was funny and I guess it is but also not really, they laughed together at it, but they are friends and I don't think she knows that this has been a thing for us. So this led to me talking to my wife again, she agreed with my concerns and said she would talk to someone, this was at least before the new year. Then Saturday afternoon she went out again, same duty for a late lunch and then drinks after, and I feel like she has settled into the role. I could not be there as usual and it is genuinely not an option for a while. I have no reason to judge that anyone has done anything wrong or disrespectful at all, their wives are there at least in the building. But it feels odd to me and unfair too. I worry also about calendared events that could make this more out in the open. And I don't want to be creating a conflict between either my wife and the group, or with her friend, but I feel like the group has let down its stated ideals if I am right about this, and also I think her friend is supposed to be guiding her and instead is letting this go on, though again she may not know it is an issue. I suppose I'm the problem if my wife is okay with it or accepting it. So if my wife is fine with this for now, is that it? If I have an issue, is there an issue or does my opinion not matter? What else could I do? tl;dr: My wife has joined a women's group that is charitable in nature and also social. It is a national group. I feel like she has been asked to exploit herself by being a liaison to men when they attend some events. But I worry also that I am creating a problem by complaining about it.
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# ? Jan 23, 2017 09:46 |
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Pick posted:I assume it also depends on where you live, I was in the south so . Florida, which is the south and not the south all at the same time.
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# ? Jan 23, 2017 14:04 |
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Pick posted:"unspoken assumptions" The touching people when she's talking to them thing is weird. I can see where he'd be getting mixed signals, seriously, it would be hard for me to interpret somebody groping my bicep as them "just being nice" Mirthless fucked around with this message at 14:33 on Jan 23, 2017 |
# ? Jan 23, 2017 14:31 |
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Really though? I was at a work event last week and I was talking with a lady who would occasionally touch my hands when we were discussing stuff. She just came across to me as really friendly. I tend to touch people on the arm though so I'm sorry to all the frustrated men I've lead on
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# ? Jan 23, 2017 14:34 |
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For some people a little touch here and there is part of their communication but yeah, it's usually a big sign that some one is interested
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# ? Jan 23, 2017 14:37 |
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54 40 or gently caress posted:Really though? I was at a work event last week and I was talking with a lady who would occasionally touch my hands when we were discussing stuff. She just came across to me as really friendly. I tend to touch people on the arm though so I'm sorry to all the frustrated men I've lead on That seems really weird to me but then again I'm Finnish and our concept of personal space is this
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# ? Jan 23, 2017 14:38 |
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quote:My (32/F) husband (36/M) is having an affair with his step-sister (38/F).
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# ? Jan 23, 2017 14:52 |
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Andrast posted:That seems really weird to me but then again I'm Finnish and our concept of personal space is this Ah the cold civility of Scandinavia. I wonder if it has something to do the fact we're both women.
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# ? Jan 23, 2017 14:53 |
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Pick posted:So I've liked her for a long time. Not like the crushes over a pretty face like most of my work, but because she is eerily similar to me and thats hard to find in a chick. I love that this dude thinks if he were a female chick, he'd be the kind of chick that's a hot piece that gets all the men's boners up and wobbling, because they'll all want a piece of his groovy chick rear end. Even better is when he's like "I think she's having an affair(?) with the jock supervisor I hate but I not actually sure, but IT PISSES ME OFF SO MUCH HE hosed THE CHICK I LOVE"
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# ? Jan 23, 2017 14:58 |
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i honestly do not get cheating.
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# ? Jan 23, 2017 15:06 |
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Groovelord Neato posted:i honestly do not get cheating. Sex with new people is exciting. Being desired by someone other than your partner is exciting. Successfully hiding an affair is exciting. It's not hard to get.
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# ? Jan 23, 2017 15:07 |
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La Brea Carpet posted:1.) Dude is a shithead and the chick is awesome I didn't read the ages at the beginning. I actually did,"ew" out loud when I scrolled back up to check.
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# ? Jan 23, 2017 15:16 |
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That step sister one has waaaaaay too much extraneous detail. Why would she describe her younger sister as gorgeous?
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# ? Jan 23, 2017 15:20 |
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54 40 or gently caress posted:Really though? I was at a work event last week and I was talking with a lady who would occasionally touch my hands when we were discussing stuff. She just came across to me as really friendly. I tend to touch people on the arm though so I'm sorry to all the frustrated men I've lead on It depends on the context and how often you do it but, yeah, it's really not normal to enter somebody's physical space and engage them directly. Additionally, a lot of people really don't like being randomly touched so this is a weirdly invasive and kind of rude thing to do, besides. VanSandman posted:That step sister one has waaaaaay too much extraneous detail. Why would she describe her younger sister as gorgeous? Respect and gratitude for being there for her when she needed her. It's the same thing as if it were a man posting it and he said "I called my brother up, he's 25 and he's a bad rear end motherfucker"
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# ? Jan 23, 2017 15:22 |
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My workplace training has always stressed not touching any employee under you ever due to possible implications. I sat through one that literally recommended only handshakes and hi fives, and that to be extra sure to only do that whennother coworkers were present and that touching a coworkers arm as described above could be grounds for sexual harassment.
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# ? Jan 23, 2017 15:26 |
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54 40 or gently caress posted:Really though? I was at a work event last week and I was talking with a lady who would occasionally touch my hands when we were discussing stuff. She just came across to me as really friendly. I tend to touch people on the arm though so I'm sorry to all the frustrated men I've lead on You were both women; it seems weird to men because male friendships have little/none of the comraderie or emotional (and non-sexual but physical) intimacy that women seem often to have. We've all seen the back-pat-tough-bro-hug that is all that many men feel comfortable doing
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