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FireWorksWell posted:My lord, I hope she can get help and work on these anger issues. It's always the people who CAPITALIZE for emphasis that seem to say so little in so many words. Are you really this loving stupid? This poor girl is trapped in a home where her parents are openly bigoted against her and you think her being upset about this makes the girl in the wrong? FireWorksWell posted:I agree about the latter but she needs to learn better coping skills quickly, because she's gonna became a hardcore heterophobe (is that even a term yet?) Of course it's not a term yet you loving bigot. At least this answered my earlier question. If you really can't see that this girl is making a point to her homophobic parents when she points out straight people being affectionate with each other, then there's no help for you. How are all the other students at Covington Catholic school?
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lmao "gay people will ostracize her for speaking ill of straights" proves that this poster is so lovely they don't even know any gay people
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# ? Jan 23, 2019 12:39 |
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kru posted:During Christmas absolutely yes I would be surprised - here in Scotland there is zero religious element to it. I don't pray, and it is awkward for me to do so. As I stated in previous post, that's why I would feel pressured, which I'm sure you agree is absolutely normal. Alright, and as a British person myself, how about if we say 'Christmas Eve midnight mass' or something? It's a religious ceremony. Religion gonna happen during it. As other people said, if you are uncomfortable with this, feel free not to go.
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Dr. S.O. Feelgood posted:It's a religious holiday. You should not be surprised if something religious happens during it. Would you also feel pressured and awkward about taking part in a prayer before a Christmas celebration? That's a rhetorical question, I'm sure there's a ton of reddit posts about exactly that. Maybe don't invite atheists to your religious events and expect them to participate in the overtly religious parts.
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# ? Jan 23, 2019 13:45 |
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Assuming that breeder post is accurate, gently caress her family. As someone who had a hysterectomy, and shouldn't have had kids anyway due to health problems who always wanted kids, that post hits close to home.
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# ? Jan 23, 2019 13:58 |
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No Pants posted:Maybe don't invite atheists to your religious events and expect them to participate in the overtly religious parts. A lot of religious people don't seem to understand atheists and assume it's indifference towards religion, when it's usually a measure of discomfort towards it. (especially organised religion) Or they do, and it's intended to be passive-aggressive. (very common with certain kinds of religious people, ask how many open atheists get asked to say Grace. I'm one of em)
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# ? Jan 23, 2019 14:25 |
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If it's "just words" and they don't matter then it's be cool if he said the 14 words when it's his turn next year, right?? He could choose not to go, but do you think that would make his GF happier or less happy? She's the one asking for advice, not him. So the question is: does she really want to insist on this to the point of excluding him entirely? I don't think you can say he is wrong for accepting an invitation with a condition that he not be asked to participate in this one part of the event, and if that condition is not acceptable, then she shouldn't invite him. If she invites him again and then insists on something he has made clear he is uncomfortable with, then she is definitely the rear end in a top hat. I've refused to do poo poo I didn't feel comfortable with at family gatherings and people gave me a little crap for it, but whatever - getting crap for it was less uncomfortable than doing it would have been.
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Did you just compare saying a prayer at passover to saying the fourteen words at passover. what the gently caress is wrong with you.
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# ? Jan 23, 2019 15:03 |
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Freudian posted:Did you just compare saying a prayer at passover to saying the fourteen words at passover. what the gently caress is wrong with you. I'm making fun of the ridiculous "words don't matter or have meaning" argument, yes.
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# ? Jan 23, 2019 15:08 |
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"AITA for comparing a Passover prayer to the 14 words"
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# ? Jan 23, 2019 15:10 |
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FAUXTON posted:"AITA for comparing a Passover prayer to the 14 words" Okay, maybe the real issue is that words don't have meaning for you because you lack any reading comprehension. The point is that anybody saying "it's just words, right? It's not like they mean anything to him" is making an argument in bad faith to serve their own ends. They don't actually believe that words have no meaning. How do I know this? Because they get really angry over certain words! As they loving should! Because words do have meaning and the 14 words should make you mad. If they don't make you mad, there is something wrong with you.
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# ? Jan 23, 2019 15:14 |
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It really depends on which 14 words
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# ? Jan 23, 2019 15:15 |
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If words have meaning then why did you use yours to compare Jewish prayers to the 14 words
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feedmegin posted:Alright, and as a British person myself, how about if we say 'Christmas Eve midnight mass' or something? It's a religious ceremony. Religion gonna happen during it. As other people said, if you are uncomfortable with this, feel free not to go. Right (and I dont go!), but that's literally going to a church - of course there would be ceremony. I hope I dont need to explain why going to a church/synagogue is not the same as going round someones house.
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# ? Jan 23, 2019 15:17 |
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Imagine this guy at a wedding and when it's his turn to toast the bride and groom he insists on securing a future for white children
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Freudian posted:If words have meaning then why did you use yours to compare Jewish prayers to the 14 words Holy poo poo, are you really this dense? If you believe - as I do - that words have meaning, then obviously the 14 words are very different and incomparable to a prayer. That is literally my point. That is exactly what I was illustrating. You keep repeating my point back to me as though I don't understand it. Edit: maybe this is more clear: Me: words mean things. For instance, we all agree that those nazi words are terrible. You: hey, those nazi words are terrible! Way worse than other words! Me: yeah. Duh. That's what I'm saying. We agree. Jimbozig fucked around with this message at 15:28 on Jan 23, 2019 |
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r/legaladvice Small Claims Procedure Hi guys, tonight I got punched in the face! u/MrMcCJr quote:Today I (M21) went to a bar with 2 of my friends. The only thing that I remember about the incident was that I was told by a friend to "look out for that aggressive guy" and then I was immediately punched in the face. I filled 8 napkins with blood, and my friends sweatshirt too! My campus security spoke with me for a bit, before I spent time with the police and then the ambulance. My friends know who the girlfriend is of the man who hit me, but I want to know how I can best get justice for what happened. Who should I talk to tomorrow morning? Hey! Forgot to include that this happened in NY. And I dont know which flair to use :/
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Araenna posted:Assuming that breeder post is accurate, gently caress her family. As someone who had a hysterectomy, and shouldn't have had kids anyway due to health problems who always wanted kids, that post hits close to home. Same. Not having/wanting kids is a perfectly valid choice to make. gently caress people that treat you like a child ("You don't know what you want") or degrade your accomplishments ("That's nice but the real best thing you can do is have kids, nothing else is valuable") because they live their lives differently. Nothing like surviving cancer only to be told "Its too bad you'll never be a real woman now since you can't have kids." Saying "I do not want kids" is not a personal attack and its not an invitation to change someone's mind about their desires in life. gently caress her family.
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# ? Jan 23, 2019 15:58 |
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The cousin was way out of line, but the line about her "ruined vagina" irks me and is very misogynistic.
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# ? Jan 23, 2019 16:08 |
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Leon Einstein posted:The cousin was way out of line, but the line about her "ruined vagina" irks me and is very misogynistic. And that line from the cousin about how her life will ultimately be worthless and that she will end up bitter and alone because she chose career over a ~baby~ wasn't?
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# ? Jan 23, 2019 16:29 |
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I think the Passover story really hinges on id he was familiar with the tradition and told beforehand that part of it is that everyone must read. Some posters seem to insist that he must have known, but I have never been to a Passover dinner and would have no idea. If nobody warned him about that and he didn't know, then he hasn't really done anything wrong. If she told him beforehand and made it clear that all guests must participate, then he was being unreasonable. Anyone from the broader American/European culture with no knowledge of Jewish traditions is likely to think that it is about as religious as Christmas or Easter is for Americas/Europeans, which is to say not very religious. My wife's family is Christian, and if they asked me to say grace I would ask that someone else do it because it's not my thing. If they then insisted I must pray, I'm not sure how I would react.
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Dazerbeams posted:And that line from the cousin about how her life will ultimately be worthless and that she will end up bitter and alone because she chose career over a ~baby~ wasn't? Where did I say that? Jesus, not every situation is one good guy and one bad guy. They both said stupid poo poo.
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bell jar posted:this but unironically. if you don't want to participate in passover dinner, don't go to passover dinner. if you want to be a pissy baby about supporting your partner's heritage, you can go eat from your slop bowl at home I've been going to Seder for three years, I still feel kinda stupid and out of place during the songs in Hebrew, but I'll read a passage if asked. The first time I was like 'Wait, what? ME?' figuring I was gonna eff it up or something, but I felt like they were trying to include me. I did have a meltdown about it the first year, but only because I brought a pie for dessert and only later found out it goes against Passover rules.
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Leon Einstein posted:Where did I say that? Jesus, not every situation is one good guy and one bad guy. They both said stupid poo poo. Well I don't think they're both assholes either. The OP was subjected to several hours of harassment over her lack of baby despite everyone knowing she is physically incapable of having one. And when the cousin ramped it up to some seriously offensive poo poo, the woman snapped.
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# ? Jan 23, 2019 16:47 |
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But that’s the thing- most (I say most because I know some families who are super assholish about it) people wouldn’t force you to say grace. I’ve been to many Xmas and thanksgiving dinners where people pray and bowing my head for a minute doesn’t seem that egregious. It’s just common courtesy for the host. Likewise, people don’t say “but we didn’t pray!” when they come to my house. He knew the deal at Passover dinner. Is the family pushy and dickish? Yeah, a bit for having non Jewish people participate, but only the saltiest of atheists wouldn’t just read some words to be nice to the host if they knew in advance that was the deal. Getting surprised by it would flip the tables and make the family super assholes, but this guy knew the drill and still went.
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# ? Jan 23, 2019 16:48 |
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areyoucontagious posted:
Is that in the comments on reddit or something? Because the OP does not state he knew.
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Dazerbeams posted:Well I don't think they're both assholes either. The OP was subjected to several hours of harassment over her lack of baby despite everyone knowing she is physically incapable of having one. And when the cousin ramped it up to some seriously offensive poo poo, the woman snapped. Someone translate that into bad latin thanks
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CheesyDog posted:r/legaladvice Small Claims Procedure I really hope they literally said "Hey, look out for that aggressive guy" with a straight face right before he got punched.
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therobit posted:Is that in the comments on reddit or something? Because the OP does not state he knew. I was going over another poster, but it looks like you’re right. So I judge them both assholes. The first time around it’s on her for not warning him, and next Passover (assuming they’re still together) it’s on him for going but not participating.
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# ? Jan 23, 2019 16:59 |
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super rude to say the 14 words to someone who can't even have children IMO
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# ? Jan 23, 2019 17:11 |
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My Lovely Horse posted:super rude to say the 14 words to someone who can't even have children IMO lol this is great
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https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladviceofftopic/comments/abjg2y/i_trained_an_ai_to_generate_rlegaladvice_post/
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# ? Jan 23, 2019 17:17 |
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If you're comparing saying "thank you God for bringing us out of Egypt" to the fourteen words there is no hope for you. That said, at most seders there's many things said that aren't prayers. The most important part of a seder is telling the story of the Exodus, which mentions God but isn't a prayer. If this guy were mature and willing to have a conversation instead of pouting I'm sure they could work something out. If even that is too much to handle then we've got bigger problems here.
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I like to think these are all the same guy [CA] My fiance is a minor, what should I do? Update: property manager took my girlfriend 3 months ago, no idea what to do. (GA) I was arrested and won't leave I was fired from my life, what can I do? Splicer fucked around with this message at 17:24 on Jan 23, 2019 |
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No Pants posted:Maybe don't invite atheists to your religious events and expect them to participate in the overtly religious parts. I'm a big goony atheist who thinks all religion is dumb/evil/a scam, etc. I still participate in minor religious ceremonies and events for friends and family because I still possess some shred of tact and politeness. I even go to church with them sometimes for major holidays. I do it not because I want to be there, but because it is important to other people in my life and I care about them. Yeah, doing that stuff isn't really my thing either and I think it's a bit weird, but when I am a guest in someone else's house I will go along with their traditions instead of choosing to make myself the center of attention as the boyfriend did. Like I get not wanting to be forced to participate in events in general, but for this specific situation I think the boyfriend is extremely lame and needs to get over himself. That's how I acted when I was 13. edit: There were other atheists/non-religious people (including the OP) and non-Jewish people present who were fine with taking part, so clearly the issue there wasn't with "atheists", it was just this dude. wizardofloneliness fucked around with this message at 17:28 on Jan 23, 2019 |
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Splicer posted:I like to think these are all the same guy All's well that ends well, I suppose
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zakharov posted:If you're comparing saying "thank you God for bringing us out of Egypt" to the fourteen words there is no hope for you. No one said that.
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# ? Jan 23, 2019 17:28 |
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Was pulled over for getting out of an accident in the US. I am a gun.
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Splicer posted:https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladviceofftopic/comments/abjg2y/i_trained_an_ai_to_generate_rlegaladvice_post/ quote:Was pulled over for getting out of an accident in the US. I am a gun.
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I [19M] am in great relationship with [19F] but DESPERATELY want to gently caress an older womanquote:My girlfriend is certainly the girl I want to marry. We have amazing conversations, sex, and similar life goals. The thing is... I really want to have sex with a MILF. The idea of engaging in something so taboo and raunchy haunts me multiple times a day. The worst part is it won't be the same once I'm in my twenties to have sex with a 35 year old as it would be now. I want to feel like I'm finally man enough to have sex with one of my mom's friends. poor stacey
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