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Pinecone Sample posted:Me [22 M] with my gf [20 F] is living with her ex bf and sleeping in the same bed with him and wants me to be okay with it
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Gone Fashing posted:pictures are fine its all the "boopin snoot floof pupper heckin sloot" poo poo that i cant stand. are you okay? do you need an ambulance? since you're unable to stand continue laying down until help arrives
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Jun 12, 2019 20:04
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Tythas posted:AITA for putting pressure on my wife to get surgery Go the cheaper and less invasive route and buy her a hamster with a sign saying 'Will you be my new mommy?'
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Jun 12, 2019 20:07
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MasBrillante posted:That’s what all unsolicited comments sound like. After a while “do you have five minutes for the rain forest” sounds like “hey girl, can I be your daddy?” - a real thing, said to me multiple times by various ages of men. Wow and you're probably dating some Hummer-driving Chad and won't give these environmentally conscious guys a chance to be your daddy 
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Jun 12, 2019 20:09
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Surgery husband - huge rear end in a top hat. Medical issues daughter - NTA.
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Jun 12, 2019 20:14
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The foot fetish guy is uniquely brazen about it, from my experience in dating women with really hot feet. He'll think she is none the wiser to what he's getting at, that nobody has ever said anything like this to her before, and that it's totally socially acceptable to say in public.
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Jun 12, 2019 20:19
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My [25 F] fiance [31 M] makes me feel like I'm losing my mind.quote:Me and "Jake" have been dating for 4 years, lived together for a year and a half, and then last year we decided to live apart for a while because I was very unsatisfied when we lived together (lack of intimacy, feeling like he wouldn't do any chores, etc..) since living apart our relationship has definitely improved and we have been playing to move back in with each other when my lease is up next week. It ain't easy being cheesy 
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Jun 12, 2019 20:20
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" then he comes home without buying me anything so I'm like :/ "why did you ask if I wanted something if you weren't going to get me anything" and of course I'm met with "Oh I'm sorry, I totally forgot to get Cheetos, that was my bad I'm sorry babe!" I say it's whatever and I'll just buy em for myself next time.
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hevnz 2 murgatroyd posted:My [25 F] fiance [31 M] makes me feel like I'm losing my mind. I'd like to say ADHD or something to explain it away with forgetfulness, but this just feels like gaslighting. EDIT: Until the OP said he ate all the cheetos that she bought, I was actually thinking it was a not so subtle hint to stop eating cheetos. ScentOfAnOtaku fucked around with this message at 20:28 on Jun 12, 2019 |
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Jun 12, 2019 20:24
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He's just tired of the feeling of Cheetos dust inside his rear end in a top hat so he's getting her different kind of dusty snacks to try out some zesty new sensations
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Jun 12, 2019 20:26
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ScentOfAnOtaku posted:I'd like to say ADHD or something to explain it away with forgetfulness, but this just feels like gaslighting. It feels like that MRA thing of “poo poo tests” except that’s what they claim women are doing when they ask them to be considerate too often.
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Jun 12, 2019 20:27
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Bag of Hamsters posted:Our clothing buttons/zips left-handed because other people are supposed to dress us. Is this real? I’ve always taken it for granted as a lefty, never realizing the majority of women had to deal with it inconveniently. Another score for the southpaws.
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Jun 12, 2019 20:27
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Hot Cheetos and Takis, he bought it with his own money
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Jun 12, 2019 20:27
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Piell posted:AITA for being very angry at my Dad and Step Mom over their disrespectful behaviour? Hahaha, you spoilered it like it was shocking that they've been divorced that long and still refuse to talk to each other? Like, it's a normal thing for your mom to refuse to invite your stepmother to the wedding because she "doesn't want to pay for diner for the woman your dad is seeing" after twenty years, even though your mom was the one who left him in the firstplace? Right? This is normal? Hahaha good use of spoilers for a good joke. 
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Jun 12, 2019 20:29
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MasBrillante posted:It feels like that MRA thing of “poo poo tests” except that’s what they claim women are doing when they ask them to be considerate too often.
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Jun 12, 2019 20:32
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MasBrillante posted:It feels like that MRA thing of “poo poo tests” except that’s what they claim women are doing when they ask them to be considerate too often. I dunno, I don't think MRA types would admit that they hosed up and claim to be morons, I'd figure the play would be to just bring home Doritos and claim you 100% said you wanted Doritos, you've never eaten Cheetos, what are you talking about Maybe this guy is just dumb as poo poo unintentionally e: I don't actually know much about red pill tactics and I kinda just figured "admitting any mistake ever" was not a play in that book, so feel free to tell me if I'm wrong
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Jun 12, 2019 20:34
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there's actually no such thing as Cheetos, check your house for carbon monoxide
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Jun 12, 2019 20:35
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What's a "poo poo test"? Do I even want to know?
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Jun 12, 2019 20:36
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Cheeto man is definitely gaslighting her, but I can't figure out what his master plan is. I'm sure it's galaxy brain exploding in cheeto dust level though.
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Jun 12, 2019 20:37
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PostNouveau posted:What's a "poo poo test"? Do I even want to know? To me it's just how a flirting dynamic sometimes works when 2 adults tease one another but what do I know, I'm not MRA.
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Jun 12, 2019 20:41
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PostNouveau posted:What's a "poo poo test"? Do I even want to know? 
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Jun 12, 2019 20:41
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hevnz 2 murgatroyd posted:My [25 F] fiance [31 M] makes me feel like I'm losing my mind.
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Jun 12, 2019 20:43
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hevnz 2 murgatroyd posted:Cheeto man is definitely gaslighting her, but I can't figure out what his master plan is. I'm sure it's galaxy brain exploding in cheeto dust level though. Theory: he wants her to never depend on him for anything so he can live his life like the sitcom idiot dad with the hot smart wife. She is the bringer of Cheetos, he is the eater of Cheetos. Edit: or maybe brain damage, yeah
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Jun 12, 2019 20:45
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Palpek posted:Redpillers think that girls are being purposefully mean to guys that aproach them to "test" how they deal with an uncomfortable situation to check if they're "worthy males". lol
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Jun 12, 2019 20:46
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incompetent cheeto boyfriend definitely has some brain error going on
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Jun 12, 2019 20:47
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Schmeichy posted:Theory: he wants her to never depend on him for anything so he can live his life like the sitcom idiot dad with the hot smart wife. She is the bringer of Cheetos, he is the eater of Cheetos. yeah but it's apparently Cheeto-specific, which sorta turns it into either a Man Who Mistook His Wife For A Hat thing or him trying to send a message that the OP eats way too loving many Cheetos.
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Jun 12, 2019 20:49
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Well, brain issue or he wants to break up but is too much of a weenie to do it straight up, so he's going The Cheetos route.
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Jun 12, 2019 20:50
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PHIZ KALIFA posted:yeah these jokes come from 100% a place of sympathy. i think half of the appeal of the "boyfriend jeans/sweatshirts" is just that it's something durable which doesn't hug the chest like a creepy uncle. You're a diamond. Keep working your sparkle, dood.
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Jun 12, 2019 20:50
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PostNouveau posted:What's a "poo poo test"? Do I even want to know? asktrp posted:
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quote:Best answer here. It's a basic comfort test. She doesn't know what you think/feel about HER. She doesn't give a gently caress about your actual emotions, she just gives a gently caress about you giving HER good emotions. She's then trying to threaten the relationship, as a way to get you to 'open up', and POSSIBLY seeing if you'll fall for it and become beta so she'd justify leaving you. Which would really just cover her selfish desire to have you make HER feel good.
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Jun 12, 2019 20:51
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PostNouveau posted:What's a "poo poo test"? Do I even want to know? The "kinder" word for it is "fitness test" but the idea from redpillers is that FEMALES will ask unreasonable things of men, and when a man does the unreasonable thing he's proving that he takes poo poo, or lacks fitness, and is therefore not manly. I actually agree that sometimes people will ask unreasonable things from you, and sometimes when you accept the unreasonable thing the very person who asked will lose respect for you. The stupidity is universalizing it and putting an unnecessary gender dynamic on it.
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The problem with this thread is that it all runs together so I forget if things have been posted or not. My [28F] friend [35F] passed away and I found out she was a pathological liar tl;dr at the bottom I live in a house with a basement. I inherited it from my grandparents and moved in after doing renovations. The basement has been converted into a small apartment with independent access, and I planned to rent it out to help with the bills. One of my friends, "Cindy", who I've known for years after meeting via an Internet forum for a shared hobby, expressed interest in renting the place from me, as she wanted to move into my city and change jobs (she used to leave 3 hours away.) I accepted and she moved in, paying 3 months of rent in advance. She found a job within a few weeks and all was well, for the first few months. She was friendly, respectful, paid rent and bills on time, the few times I went into the basement there was no damage or anything out of place. She used to spend most of her free time home with me, and we would eat meals together, watch movies, have friends over for dinner/bbq/movie nights, she was happy about the new job and told me she was very happy about her choice to move. She had always been a bit over the top as a person, but I wasn't bothered that much by it. She had always been like that, it's not like I didn't know (our friendship was mostly offline after we first met in person). Over time, over the past 6 months roughly, things took a turn for the worse. She started to be increasingly aggressive over the most minor things and eventually she was having anger outbursts over stuff like why did I go out without inviting her or why did I keep her Amazon package in my living room (unopened!) instead of bringing it to the basement. It was unbelievable. She also started paying rent late and told me she had maxed out her credit card. She started to be controlling and wanting to know where I was and with whom. She also tried to encroach on my time more and more, requesting help for various reasons. If I refused, she would go ballistic. My boyfriend started to come over less and less and told me I had set boundaries with her. I tried, but the only result I got was getting screamed at by Cindy, who told me that I was oversensitive and I just wanted to get on her nerves. I tried multiple times, to the same result. I spent many nights at my boyfriend's place back then because I started to be very afraid of her. My BF and friends' encouraged me to start the eviction process because Cindy said that she would ignore the notice I was about to send her (two months notice to vacate the apartment without eviction.) It was an immensely stressful time and I was very scared and anxious that she would retaliate somehow. I didn't have time to do anything, though, because three weeks ago or so Cindy died of a heart attack. She was in a local supermarket with a friend when she had the first symptoms and I learnt about what happened after she had already passed. Apparently she had a family history of heart disease, plus her health was poor to begin with (smoker, unhealthy eating, etc). The hospital asked me how to get in touch with Cindy's family, I told them I had no idea, as Cindy always told me she was no-contact with her abusive family. She also had no husband or kids. The hospital must have done something to look for any next of kin, because a couple of days later I got a phone call from none other that Cindy's husband, "Thomas". Here's what I learned from Thomas, from other friends and what I found out while helping him go through Cindy's stuff in the basement (I'll make a list because I'm honestly very overwhelmed and it's easier this way): - Cindy had been married to Thomas for 12 years and had left him to move in my city, except she told him she was living on her own, in a different town than mine, and never mentioned my existence to him. They were still legally married and he told me he let her move hoping that "she would finally be happy." She had always been deeply unsatisfied with her life. - she was abusive to him in very much the same way that she had been with me during the last months, sometimes also physically. - we found some old paperwork from a psychiatry practice saying that she had been diagnosed with "borderline personality disorder". Her husband didn't know about this diagnosis. - by talking to him, I was able to find out that almost nothing she had told me about herself was true. Her studies, her jobs, her family, she lied about pretty much everything. Her parents are elderly and I'm not sure how much Thomas will tell them about Cindy's fabrications. - some of my friends who had distanced themselves from me were very supportive and told me they were not hanging out with me as much as we used to because Cindy's was very intrusive and made them uncomfortable... some of them were also propositioned sexually by her, or asked for money. None of them had told me anything before her death. - she never had a job in my city. She was living off savings and her high-paying job didn't exist. She probably had a compulsive shopping habit because the basement is full of junk that she bought. She was careful not to let me see it... - her real name wasn't even Cindy. She gave me a fake ID to sign the lease. Her husband, thankfully, is an upstanding guy and has been nothing but helpful and has already provided money to fix the damage that Cindy's done to the apartment (nothing major, luckily, but there are a few things to take care of.) (Before anyone asks, yes, that guy is HER husband, he's not lying, I verified with the authorities and my lawyer). This is just off the top of my head. It's a loving mess. We had mutual friends, and while all of us suspected she was embellishing her stories/life experiences, none of us though she had created a fake life. We have been talking a lot with each other comparing things that Cindy said or did, she was mostly consistent with her stories, but some details were different, usually to prevent us from finding out that she lied about something (an example would be that she told me that our friend "Sean" slept with her, but please don't talk to him about it because he ended up regretting it, and would repeat the same story to someone else but changing a detail or two about why we could not mention their hookup to "Sean". Of course Sean never hosed her to begin with.) So the questions here are a lot: how do I move on from here? How do I mend the relationship with my friends who have been harassed by Cindy? (they say it's not my fault, but I feel like it is.) Has anyone else experienced this kind of betrayal? I realize it was a psychiatric problem and not outright maliciousness, but it still hurts, and it feels like a proper betrayal! I feel like an idiot. Do you think I should see a therapist? I have a lot of mental and physical symptoms since she started being abusive, and now there's her death and all the stuff I found out about. I don't know where to start. I guess I might have forgotten a few details, I'm very angry, shocked, numb, all at the same time, right now, so ask away if you want to understand better. tl;dr my friend of 8 years has fabricated her whole life and I found out after she died, WTF do I do now Great summary of all that there.
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the fact that brain idiot cheeto boyfriend is like, crying and apologizing, makes it seem like it's not a dumb red pill tactic. Per the above posts, it's certainly not displaying "amused mastery" so I think he's just somehow broken. It seems to go beyond ADHD, though. I have ADHD and sometimes forget stuff at the store for my wife, but never like three times in a row then eat the thing she asked for when she buys it.
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Jun 12, 2019 20:57
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:yeah but it's apparently Cheeto-specific, which sorta turns it into either a Man Who Mistook His Wife For A Hat thing or him trying to send a message that the OP eats way too loving many Cheetos. She mentions he pulls this kind of poo poo in a lot of other areas. He's pretending to be clueless to get out of doing anything. And even if he really IS that forgetful, she doesn't have to put up with it.
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Jun 12, 2019 20:57
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:yeah but it's apparently Cheeto-specific, which sorta turns it into either a Man Who Mistook His Wife For A Hat thing or him trying to send a message that the OP eats way too loving many Cheetos. She says that it's not just Cheetos
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Jun 12, 2019 20:58
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Also important to note that the phrase "I have a boyfriend" is also considered a poo poo test to redpillers because the girl is obviously just trying to see whether you're a pussy who will stop advancing after that.
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Jun 12, 2019 21:00
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Don't move people you "know" from the internet into your house. Just a suggestion.
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Jun 12, 2019 21:01
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Hmm after re-reading they should probably just go to a neurologist asap. It could have been a stroke or something similar, I read some insane examples of patient symptoms some time ago.
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Jun 12, 2019 21:05
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Me [25F] with my dad [65M] I have been talking for years about wanting sugar gliders as pets. I finally decided to go through with it recently. He gifted me 3 sugar gliders. The problem? I have already picked out and paid for other ones and I don't want these ones.quote:I am pretty bad with social stuff so if the answer to this seems simple- I am sorry for not noticing it. NEVER GIFT PETS! Also, I love gliders and want to burn down that mill. 
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Jun 12, 2019 21:07
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Schmeichy posted:She says that it's not just Cheetos yeah but it's not everything, he doesn't actually have some overarching mental disability where he's like periodically forgetting his car exists or locking himself in the bathroom and starving to death, it's just very specific apparently trivial things he has decided aren't real A Wizard of Goatse fucked around with this message at 21:10 on Jun 12, 2019 |
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Jun 12, 2019 21:07
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Wow, responding to a girlfriend's request for emotional openness with an Austin Powers quote may be the worst advice I've ever seen.
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:yeah but it's not everything, he doesn't actually have some overarching mental disability where he's like periodically forgetting his car exists or locking himself in the bathroom and starving to death, it's just very specific apparently trivial things he has decided aren't real
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