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Mordiceius posted:My new friend has some odd behavior at times. Including acting overtly gay. Do you think he's actually gay or just an oddball? I think that bipolar II is a thing
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Mordiceius posted:My new friend has some odd behavior at times. Including acting overtly gay. Do you think he's actually gay or just an oddball? This one is from that same guy that posted [17/m] This girl (18/f) almost had a wardrobe malfunction during a school play, I tried to cover her from being exposed but now she's mad at me. Did I do the right thing? Which also includes The Bramble posted:Asking if cougars like it when a guy takes charge and far more treasures. https://www.reddit.com/user/OutsideBobcat8/
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Nov 8, 2019 07:42
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Mordiceius posted:Welp, speaking of autism. Yet another perfect example. Not really, this one just seems like an rear end in a top hat.
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Nov 8, 2019 08:15
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WIBTA for not telling a good friend that his wife sent me inappropriate texts? I know this couple well. He's a good friend and colleague of mine. She and I went to school. We dated briefly. Everyone knows this. I know he was going through some marriage trouble. He was also definitely stressed at work, I was there in the other team seeing his team's lead crumble at some of our meetings. She is dealing with things on her own I think. She was drunk one night I think and started texting me. I was just trying to be polite until it get flirty and I tried to play it down. The next night she drunkenly sent me nudes. Two dates later she apologized and told me to delete them. I did. I'm just going to brush this whole thing off. I told my gf and she suggested I have a chat with my friend. And keep it subtle. But I don't think I can do that. Either rat her out or just keep it quiet. I wanna keep it quiet. AITA?
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Nov 8, 2019 08:17
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AITA for refusing to play Cannibal Corpse at our wedding? This has to be the most ridiculous argument my fiance and I have ever had. Normally we almost never fight, and I don't know if it's just the wedding planning stress or what, but here we are. The wedding is in three weeks. We're just wrapping up some last-minute details at this point, including creating a list of music we want to play at the reception, which we have to submit to our DJ by the end of the week. It's a semiformal evening wedding at a pretty upscale venue in our city. My fiance and I have completely different musical tastes. He's very passionate about metal, while I'm much more of an indie/classic hits kind of girl. I asked him for suggestions and ALL of them are songs by Slayer, Amon Amarth, etc. I obviously shot those down and asked him to please choose some more traditional wedding songs. After a ton of arguing, he finally said he'll let me pick out the bulk of the music as long as we play one song by Cannibal Corpse (his favorite band) during the reception, and that's the most he's going to compromise. He says it's not fair that all of the wedding music is the kind of music I like and he should get some say too. Well, I don't want to play Cannibal Corpse at any point during the wedding. It's not an appropriate style of music for an event of this formality and it's going to be awkward for all the guests. Fiance says it's his wedding too and it's crappy to ask for his input and then reject all his suggestions. AITA?
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Nov 8, 2019 08:19
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Girlfriend [29F] wants me [26M] to learn how to fight. Relationships So my girlfriend says she wants me to learn how to fight so I can protect her. She says it’s important for her to feel like she’s protected in a relationship and that I can take care of her if anyone tries to hurt her. I told her I’ve never been in a fight and never plan on being in one and I’m not interested and even a little uncomfortable taking up MMA/kickboxing/etc. Now I’m above average size 6’ 2”, 180 and above average shape and tried explaining to her that I don’t like the idea of taking fighting lessons and that even if anyone tries to hurt her I would get in the way and protect her. Even if I end up getting the crap kicked out of me, if it gives her time to get to safety that’s all that matters. However she’s holding fast that it’s important that I can fight so she can feel protected and not have to worry about her safety. I ended up taking a trial kickboxing class and although I enjoyed the high intensity of the workout, I didn’t like the fighting aspect of it. So reddit, how can I approach this situation? TLDR: Girlfriend wants me to learn how to fight so she can feel safe, fighting makes me uncomfortable and I don’t want to take classes. How can we proceed?
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Nov 8, 2019 08:28
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Can't wait for the moment when the song flips from Everybody (Backstreet's Back) to I Cum Blood.
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Nov 8, 2019 08:31
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WIBTA if I hoard the good quality toilet paper from my wife? Quick disclaimer I love my wife very much, but when it comes to this she favors quantity over quality. Her most recent purchase was a 36 roll package of some see through half-ply. Now this is some real John Wayne TP, it won’t take poo poo from anybody. I went out and got a brand laced with Aloe Vera and it is top notch, HIGHLY recommend. As a loving husband, I have volunteered myself to the guest bathroom for my privacy/her protection and am considering keeping all the good good in there for myself. With that, will I be the rear end in a top hat for leaving her out to dry? Edit: This is a light-hearted post. I did throw some of the good stuff in our master bathroom when I got home, just threw this up for debate  . She bought the big pack thinking it would last a while not knowing it was crap (pun intended). I joked with her about it before for those worried about our marriage and communication.
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Nov 8, 2019 08:52
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Death metal (et al) at a wedding is fine, you just need to read the crowd and ease into it. This can be extravagant as a DJ or just having someone you trust mix things in a certain direction for a few songs before going back to Easy Listening: Wedding edition. Me and my wife also had super opposite music tastes; I like terrible Headache-Inducing Electronic Thumping stuff and she likes Jazz Musicians Who Can't Hear Each Other. Amazingly, we didn't play any of that stuff at our wedding, funny that.
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Nov 8, 2019 08:53
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maybe I'm crazy but at a wedding you should stick to stuff everyone knows. i really like post punk but not everyone wants to listen to 4 minute tracks about being heartbroken as much as I do.
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Nov 8, 2019 09:10
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We almost made it a week. To avoid a derail, no posts about the music at your wedding
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Nov 8, 2019 09:15
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HMS Beagle posted:AITA for "ghosting" my son financially after he "ghosted" me? jesus christ DeadMansSuspenders posted:My (32M) parents (60's M/F) are insistent that my wife (31F) is driving a wedge through the family by not allowing them to spank our daughter (3F). *record screech* UGH why won't my wife have some compassion for ME? Just hit our kid when she's over there, it makes things easier for me!
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Nov 8, 2019 09:21
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AITA for being mad at my dad for posting about my grandmother's death without even telling me first? Not the A-hole So I am at work and I receive this private message on Facebook by a friend saying "Sending my condolences". I started to palpitate, my heart was racing trying to find out who it was. I checked every DM, every text, nobody has said anything. Until I open my timeline and see my father's post 4 HOURS AGO announcing my grandmother's (his mother) death on Facebook, mentioning the date of the wake (where the body is laid for families and friends to view before the funeral). So I went off on them on our family (my parents and siblings) group chat saying "My grandmother died and nobody even told me. Facebook was the first to know. We really have to learn about proper online behavior and communication skills." My mother quickly replied saying they were tired and have not thought to tell me. So I feel bad now, but still it doesn't take 5 seconds to send me a message "Your grandmother died!" So, was I the rear end in a top hat?
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Nov 8, 2019 09:28
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Power Khan posted:AITA for being mad at my dad for posting about my grandmother's death without even telling me first? Absolutely NTA. Shouldn’t even question it.
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Nov 8, 2019 09:31
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Power Khan posted:AITA for being mad at my dad for posting about my grandmother's death without even telling me first? The 21st century really has some hosed up stuff going on. Also: Anyone who ever spanks or hits my kids that I hope to have one day, regardless of shared lineage, will find their fingers on the hand they used broken by me personally, and any complaints will be responded with "It's the only way you will learn, I don't like doing this, it hurts me as much as it hurts you". That poo poo it outdated and just an excuse for parents too dumb and impatient to bring up their kids properly. Edit: Something similar applies to that clearly racist TA. Kitchner fucked around with this message at 10:00 on Nov 8, 2019 |
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Nov 8, 2019 09:54
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[UPDATE+NEED ADVICE] Me [30M] and my Wife [31F] are both going to same conference for a week, she doesn't want to share a hotel with me during this time, is telling me she has no time to spend with me during it, and it is bothering the hell out of me. Here is my original post to give some backstory: OP Basically i backed off and basically more or less let her do her own thing, helped her prepare and everything like /u/jorydotcom recommended. Stuff seemed more or less fine before the conference. We went to the conference this week, i basically decided to do like recommended and just let her do her own thing. I suggested we grab lunch or dinner if we had a chance. She was open to that, but made no promises. That never happened she more or less completely ghosted me for the entire conference until tonight. I got two whole messages from her the entire conference, one saying she landed and one from when she was about to give her session (basically wish me luck!). I sent her a few messages during the week, including one saying "hey there is a fancy resturant you wanted to go to, i can get reservations if your free on Wednesday night." No response. But i never pushed anything, just let her do her own thing. I more or less did my own thing. Tonight there was a formal dinner, basically inviting people who spend a lot of money as a thank you. I was told to go to this by my boss, so me and my coworker went, and had a nice dinner. Basically you do a bunch of networking and talk to people. I ran into my wife tonight at this dinner, i saw her walk by us and made a small hand gesture and she did the same. My coworker immediately knew who she was but i was able to shut him up. She apparently went with her boss to this/a few coworkers, she dressed up more then i have ever seen her be in a long time. But i kept my distance, since this is important for her. After dinner there was an open bar basically you mingle with various reps, i was grabbing a drink for me and my coworker and she came up to the bar as well. At this point i i kind of assumed that she was coming to talk to me so i started to talk to her. I basically told her she looked nice, and i missed her. She said she missed me too but "this isn't the time to talk, i will see you at home". Being in husband mode i agreed and reflexively went to hug her, like we always do. She stopped me right away and told me i was being an rear end in a top hat before walking away. That hurt, but yeah i it is my fault. I sent her a message basically saying i was sorry, and it was a reflex. An hour ago i got a barrage of angry messages from her basically: Saying what i did was super inappropriate because her coworkers/boss saw it and she had to lie and say i was some drunk. I am being really clingy, and not respecting her wishes at all. She is extremely upset at me, as i blatantly do not understand how important this is for her. I frankly just don't know how to respond at all. I guess part of me agrees, but at the same time the conference is basically over, and it was a mistake. Also just to explain i wasn't a slobbering drunk, at this point i had a small glass of wine but mostly water (i am hungover from last night). I guess to me in a way it makes me feel like she is deeply ashamed of me in someway or embarrassed to be seen with me, which confuses me a lot. TLDR; Ran into my wife at formal dinner, she is pissed i reflexively went to hug her. She told me i am being an rear end in a top hat, and is upset at me. I don't understand.
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Nov 8, 2019 10:28
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Absolutely nothing going on here. Totally not.
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Nov 8, 2019 10:31
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Ah, found something for the guy with the lovely physical parents 
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Nov 8, 2019 10:38
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Beachcomber posted:Does this mean he's a triplet? I think it means he has two sisters, that are a different age than him, who are twins to each other. Not him.
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Nov 8, 2019 10:48
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Chef Bourgeoisie posted:I think it means he has two sisters, that are a different age than him, who are twins to each other. Not him. I think they are triplets. She emphasises later that she is his TWIN sister
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Nov 8, 2019 10:56
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teen witch posted:Ah, found something for the guy with the lovely physical parents I mean, I know  and all but I still love that it's a red flag.
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Nov 8, 2019 11:04
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DeadMansSuspenders posted:My (32M) parents (60's M/F) are insistent that my wife (31F) is driving a wedge through the family by not allowing them to spank our daughter (3F). quote:My daughter is not going to have permanent mental scars from getting a spanking at my parents’ house as a toddler Lol. This guy needs to take a step back here and look at what's happening. The kids are routinely spanked, to the point where it's unthinkable that the kids will not need spanked during a few days visiting. That's unthinkable the children will do something requiring physical punishment. So his daughter is going to have the experience of going to her grandparents house for her yearly beatings, I'm sure that will have no affect at all. The second part is they beat the kids all the time for misbehaving, and they kids still need more beatings for misbehaving so obviously it doesn't loving work.
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Nov 8, 2019 11:21
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Pirate Radar posted:I’ve read this three times and the fact that she doesn’t say if he’s saying good or bad things about Boris is killing me Comedy option: Both.
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Nov 8, 2019 11:34
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The best part about the Boris chanting post is she posted it around 1 in the morning meaning it's likely he was doing it there and then.
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Nov 8, 2019 11:44
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Power Khan posted:[UPDATE+NEED ADVICE] Me [30M] and my Wife [31F] are both going to same conference for a week, she doesn't want to share a hotel with me during this time, is telling me she has no time to spend with me during it, and it is bothering the hell out of me. She's loving someone in the office for sure.
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Nov 8, 2019 11:51
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Mordiceius posted:Welp, speaking of autism. Yet another perfect example. Nah that's just normal lovely dad behavior except with nerdy hobbies instead of sports. Notice how he thinks trying to relate to his daughters in any way will feminize him.
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Nov 8, 2019 11:55
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Power Khan posted:my (21f) boyfriend (21m) won't stop sleeptalking about brexit and it's driving me insane!! Power Khan posted:[UPDATE+NEED ADVICE] Me [30M] and my Wife [31F] are both going to same conference for a week, she doesn't want to share a hotel with me during this time, is telling me she has no time to spend with me during it, and it is bothering the hell out of me. But  at her pretending not to know him when they run into each other. That’s way weirder than if she’d just said, “hey y’all meet my husband, oh yeah, he is attending another conference here, love you, bye.”. And not even spending 15 seconds to answer his text or say hello? Separate hotel rooms? She’s 100% banging someone at the conference.
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Nov 8, 2019 12:24
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AITA for not wanting my husbands ex gf to be present at Christmas eve dinner?quote:My Mother-in-law has informed me that my husbands ex gf will be coming to christmas eve dinner and that I should just get used to the idea because that's how it is.
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Nov 8, 2019 12:33
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AITA for not supporting my wife’s breast implant removal?quote:So about three years ago my wife went on an all-natural lifestyle kick. We have stuck to that since, and it's had some benefits but some things annoy me because she goes down rabbit holes and echo chambers and gets stuck in her beliefs.
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Nov 8, 2019 12:36
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Nov 8, 2019 12:44
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Pinecone Sample posted:AITA for not supporting my wife’s breast implant removal? Uh, what?
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Nov 8, 2019 12:46
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Just two little coffins and a teeny tiny rendition of taps on the kazoo
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Nov 8, 2019 12:47
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Pinecone Sample posted:AITA for not supporting my wife’s breast implant removal? I feel like this deemphasizes “she got her dental fillings removed” too much What... are there just like holes in her teeth? Did they just pull the ones that had fillings?
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Nov 8, 2019 12:56
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I was assuming she had them replaced with newer material but in hindsight, what the hell?
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Nov 8, 2019 13:02
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Gonna enjoy the follow-up "AITA for asking my wife to wear dentures after all her teeth fell out?"
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Nov 8, 2019 13:03
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It’s a fear mongering scam https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dental_amalgam_controversy
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Nov 8, 2019 13:27
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Now I remember that tiger who got a gold tooth. That was awesome.
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Nov 8, 2019 13:43
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Little bothered byquote:she was paying with it with her own personal allowance through working overtime.
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Nov 8, 2019 13:43
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Sunswipe posted:Little bothered by My eyes had skipped over that but that’s a good point.
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Taking out a loan for elective surgery you can't really afford is dumb as hell, but being "in mourning" for your wife's breasts is loving weird.
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