Gaunab posted:

gentle pete posted:

My [30F] BF [29M] of 6 yrs is controlling in weird ways that really bother me.

I'll try to be short. I love my boyfriend. There is one issue though that is really beginning to bother me. He's never been a controlling person, but over the past year or so he has started to force me to do very trivial, annoying things.

For example, sometimes he will not let me out of rooms until I give him a "password". He won't stop following me around until I give him a high five, no matter how many times I say no. Basically, he won't stop some annoying or persistent activity until I meet his demands. There have been times I simply refused and tried to wait it out. Eventually he caves, but then he acts like I ruined his day by not playing along.

The most recent example I can think of is:

A church dropped off a religious brochure in our mailbox. He started reading the passages in a loud, mocking voice. We're both atheists so I wasn't offended, but he was being extremely obnoxious. I tried to ignore him, basically, because that is how I've learned to cope with purposely annoying things like this. But after a few minutes my patience ran out and I asked him (calmly) to stop. He said he'd stop if I pick a number 7-24, and he would read the passage with that number, and that he would stop. I found his request so annoying that I said no, just stop. He kept pressuring me to pick one for a few minutes, assuring me, "I'll stop if you pick! Just pick one! Just pick one please! Pick one!" I finally relented to just get it over with, since I was busy on the computer in the room and couldn't just walk away without disturbing my work. He read it, I weathered it, and then he started reading ANOTHER ONE. I asked him angrily what he was doing, and he said "you picked one, this is my pick now."

I told him he doesn't need a pick and just stop it. He got annoyed and basically stormed out of the room, saying "Why do you have to suck all the happiness out of me?" He was slightly depressed for the rest of the night.

That sounds absolutely ridiculous reading it now. It's almost embarrassing. I'm sure that these things are coming from some deep-seated issue where he feels as if I'm not paying attention to him, or he wants to exert some control over his life, but regardless it's coming out in super petty ways that are making me question if I can even deal with it anymore.

Stickfigure posted:

Children do though

Accordion Man posted:

Pos my neg rear end.

54 40 or gently caress posted:

I absolutely do not believe that wasn't written by someone browsing this very thread

loquacius posted:

Ok I'm gonna blame this on this thread

but only because I have no idea what is going on

e: to clarify this was a post about my weird new av, but I think it's because I made a joke about Trump's impending child molestation lawsuit

Jack Trades posted:

I wish someone wouldn't stop doing my laundry.

Facebook Aunt posted:

But he washes them after, right? Still a good deal to me.

loquacius posted:

why exactly is she celibate again

Like, she just kind of used it as a descriptor for herself like "short" or "caucasian" or "left-handed" without really going into any more detail. Like, is this a Jesus thing, or is it a trauma thing she refuses to seek treatment for, or has she just decided that while other people are getting laid and high-fiving each other she will be expanding her mind with high-quality anime and video games or what

ikanreed posted:

That's why you don't.

Tears In A Vial posted:

WAY TO GO WAMPA!! posted:

[40M] is my wife [40F] having an affair

Nazzadan posted:

My [29 M] Girlfriend [25 F] refuses to play DOTA with me and plays with other people behind my back and I want to break up with her over it.


"I'm a scrub-rear end low mmr player and my gf won't play ranked with me, am I right in wanting to leave her??"

The Snoo posted:

this is what we've decided to call mine now, thank you


👌👌👌

my husband likes to hit me in the face with me own tit

Skratte posted:

Tom Gorman posted:

In my opinion as an old dude, video games are a goddamn menace to relationships. I'll just say that. If she seems like she doesn't care that you're playing Dark Souls for 6 hours, she really does but isn't at the point where it has become frustrating yet. Or maybe she doesn't give a poo poo, in which case, good on you. But be sure before you assume that. Sometimes a game can be the thing that couples can do together and enjoy their free time. But most commonly, it isn't. Spending time together is important, and 6 hours is a hell of a long stretch of time to spend in a computer cave if you have a job and a relationship.

A lot of guys just want to sit around in their boxers and play Dark Souls or Call of Duty for 8 hours. Some women want to do that, sure, but it's way, waaay less. Evidence is the number of complaints from these kinds of posts that revolve around "He doesn't pay any attention to me, just wants to play xbox games".

Tom Gorman posted:

I think the older we get the easier it is to figure this stuff out among ourselves. A 23 year old man and a 23 year old woman would have major issues if one person spent half the day playing games. With an older couple who has been together a while, everything is settled into a comfort zone and if something is wrong it's worth talking about.

54 40 or gently caress posted:

Ugh all I did was liquidate a bunch of furniture that had been in the family for over 100 years, why are they so mad??

WampaLord posted:

(research would surprise you by the way)

Syncopated posted:

Why would someone be thrown out of an american expat club for being obese anyway, that would be the main entry requirement.

loquacius posted:

I've never actually played Warhammer but I read part of the wiki once several years ago and I'm like 80% sure orcs in that game literally reproduce via spores, like fungus

54 40 or gently caress posted:

more /childfree because I am a sucker for punishment


Nah there's nothing at all special for a parent when they see the thing Growing Inside My Body In relative detail. I mean, why would anyone want to share that excitement with others? And why would Humans enjoy celebrating that excitement? I've run all the simulations and it just does not compute.


In the words of Elsa, let it go~


Definitely feeds into our theories about childfree obsessed people being just as bad as the "mombies" and "daddicts", but with animals

WampaLord posted:

HardDiskD posted:

My (24F) partner (23M) is getting popular on Twitch and it's killing something we used to love doing together. [relationships]

extra row of teeth posted:

I'm just picturing that old "bop it! Twist it! Squeeze it" 90s commercial tune overlaying a desperate girlfriend running around and sneakily using it like a bottle of booze

But yeah, there's no way that's not an euphemism for something unless she is severely autistic. I think vibrator is the right call, insecure and/or babydicked men can get really mad at them. I guess it's the male equivalent of the girl who thinks looking at a porn clip is cheating

The Snoo posted:

I'm so glad that my husband and I both hate porn and he's happy with just me and my big honkin' tits and if he needs to masturbate he just asks and does it on my tits so like....... no drama. nice