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spacetoaster
Feb 10, 2014

PHIZ KALIFA posted:

People who break balls or use belittling humor are doing so from a place of deep-seated insecurity and pain. Ask yourself, why is it so easy to break other people down? Why are you so quick to do it? Can you go a day without trying to hurt someone? Why don't you? What are you avoiding?

I used to be like that, but I asked myself these questions and it was just a cry for help. It's probably a cry for help in your case, also. People who do this are good at it because they've got a voice inside them criticizing everything they do, or don't do, and the easiest escape is to turn that voice on something outside yourself. You can't create joy by taking it away from other people. You can't make yourself happy by making others miserable, that's crab-bucket nonsense. seriously goons just say nice things to other people and tell me if life doesn't get a billion times better.

make that your 2019 toxx or good luck staying miserable. the world breaks enough balls as is, you don't have to help.

Nah. We do it run off people we don't like.

*edit* Let me clarify. I don't like people who are super fragile and am super happy when they decide not to interact with me again. They're super tiresome.

spacetoaster fucked around with this message at 22:24 on Dec 28, 2018

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spacetoaster
Feb 10, 2014

snergle posted:

10$ they are a marine. They double your pay if you are married so they propose to randos all the time. turns out randos like the bennies and the marine is gone for 9months at a time.

They double your pay? lol, bullshit.

spacetoaster
Feb 10, 2014

Tetramin posted:

army does too afaik

No they don't. If you're married you can get family separation pay if you're actually deployed away from them. And it's only about 200 dollars a month.

I know this because I'm an idiot who's been in longer than some of you have been alive.

spacetoaster
Feb 10, 2014

PHIZ KALIFA posted:


yeah, totally unsurprised by this dude's custom text. thank you for being an object lesson in exactly who i'm talking about.


I'm not surprised that yours says that you're a loser. :colbert:

spacetoaster
Feb 10, 2014

Zzulu posted:

No one cares about vegans

I care. Their immoral lifestyle is destroying the environment.

spacetoaster
Feb 10, 2014

cumshitter posted:

Seems like he'd be down for fisting. I'd let that guy work me like a sock puppet.

I personally, irl, know a woman who has paid for that. She attends porn conventions, and is legitimately into everything.

spacetoaster
Feb 10, 2014

dudeness posted:

If Mallrats taught me anything (and it has), it's that the poop stench stays on your hand for multiple days after contact and therefore must be avoided at all costs.

I lived in the middle east for a few years, can confirm.

spacetoaster
Feb 10, 2014

JacquelineDempsey posted:

Uhhh, okay, it's me, I'm the old woman yelling at clouds.

What does the "okay" symbol mean, if not that silly circle game? I have a co-worker that plays that game with me all the time, even though I never play back. What's the Nazi implication? I really don't want to google "nazi hand gestures".

It's not just the circle game. It's literally North American sign language and deaf people I work with use it every day. It's also used in diving.

If it's used in those situations I'd say it's obviously just an OK sign. People who don't even know sign language (or diving) throwing it up in photos would be something I'd have to ask them pointed questions about.

spacetoaster
Feb 10, 2014

MF_James posted:

I mean, I understand his point, but the woman you are supposedly wanting to spend the rest of your life with wants you to do a thing, why not do it if it makes her happy, you put out your protests against it, but she still wants it.

I did this with my wife's dad. I didn't really want to do it, thought it was a silly tradition. But then I realized it was their tradition, and it cost me nothing and made her dad (and family) really like me.

spacetoaster
Feb 10, 2014

Pirate Radar posted:

When I read “on the first day even the bad kids behaved themselves” it makes me think she’s awful to those children when no one else is watching and just has them terrified of her.

I teach elementary and that's the only thing some people have in their toolbag.

spacetoaster
Feb 10, 2014

therobit posted:

Some people come from religious traditions where they are required to get permission. In my case, the religion I was raised with specified that the couple must obtain permission from both sets of parents, or else the marriage was not valid and you would lose your administrative rights within the community. That doesn't sound serious but within my former religious tradition it was and is a huge deal.

My wife was not the same religion as I was,

It wasn't religion in our case. Well, I guess it is religion in the sense it was our personal beliefs. Our families are atheist so it was just a religious adherence to custom.

I sometimes forget that the term religion is also referring to secular beliefs too.

spacetoaster
Feb 10, 2014

Smirking_Serpent posted:

He's [45m] demanding the things he bought me [19f]when we dated back. I regifted it all already.


I know irl guys older than that, that continue to chase 19/20 year olds. It will never not be weird.

10 years. That's the max age difference where I think it could work.

*edit* Well ok, I'm talking a real relationship.

spacetoaster
Feb 10, 2014

Xenocides posted:

From the Malicious Compliance subreddit but it fits here:

Parent Tries to Help 1st Grade Son Cheat


My niece was recently suspected of being dyslexic and they called my brother and his wife in for a conference. My brother felt bad for how the teachers and principal were coddling them with “Now, we are nooooot saying she is stupid” as if her parents were going to go off the teachers at any moment. :(

Parents are just this dumb. I had a mom complain to me that the history lessons were too violent and scary (boiler plate WWI history from the book).

spacetoaster
Feb 10, 2014

Simply Simon posted:

Boyfriend (30m) and I (22m) were mugged. He sprinted off and left me alone with mugger. He claims he was running for help but I didn't hear from him for over an hour. Just wondering how bad I should blow up his poo poo?


lol. Is this why I see so many personal ads for redneck country boys who drive trucks?

spacetoaster
Feb 10, 2014

Admiral Ray posted:

I dunno how a belief that eating a food stains the soul and must be atoned for can be compared to an issue with texture but sure, they are the same in a reductive sort of way.

Vegans make no sense.

spacetoaster
Feb 10, 2014

Clark Nova posted:

road grit isn't a vegetable :colbert:

It does aid in digestion.

spacetoaster
Feb 10, 2014

Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA For Wanting No Military Uniforms At My Wedding?

My SO and I are ready to make our 5 year relationship official.

A bit of background, we met online and were long distance for 3 years before spending 2 years together travelling back and forth. We are planning a K1 visa and are ready to start the 90 days this year for a September wedding.

His BIL was in the Marines 8 years ago and always wears his uniform to special occasions. I straight up said I would not allow this as this Wedding is a celebration of love and committment and not a "oh you fought for the country." I would prefer if we kept any type of war, fighting, negativity away from our day.

His BIL is causing a fuss, and as you can tell im not from the US but my husband to be has my back on this. This day of ours, we want it to be about love and us. Even his wife is rolling her eyes.

AITA for not understanding his BIL's uniform?

She's a dumb bitch, and so is he.

Just get a marine corps tie pin and leave it at that. Sheesh.

spacetoaster
Feb 10, 2014

Errant Gin Monks posted:

No she's not. Not wanting uniforms is fine. Dude isn't active duty anyway.

I say this as a veteran who never wears my uniforms because why the gently caress would i?

I could care less about the uniform, I just think it's kinda dumb to be so upset over what the people at "MY SPECIAL DAY" are wearing.

My wife and I just eloped and there was only the judge and his secretary at our "wedding" so I'm really not sympathetic.

spacetoaster
Feb 10, 2014

Danaru posted:

I dropped my newborn and I’m pretty sure the nurse is responsible


:staredog:

Mom is a drug addict and psychotic.

spacetoaster
Feb 10, 2014

Xenocides posted:

Was his gf and her family perhaps of a different ethnicity?

Maybe. My wife is slavic and it's very common for people traveling to carry stuff for other folks.

When we went to visit her family a couple of years ago we had several people come give us packages/letters/etc to take with us to give to their family members that lived in the area we were headed to (and we got stuff to bring back to them).

It's a pretty nice thing to do, and other people will take your stuff (if you ever need them to) as well.

spacetoaster
Feb 10, 2014

Haifisch posted:

I am homeschooling my 10 year old son and he has been given a school attendance order. Unsure of law

I'm guessing the government gave him a very basic "Do you know basic math/reading" and he failed.

spacetoaster
Feb 10, 2014

DragQueenofAngmar posted:

have u considered that every relationship in the history of humanity might have been a power-imbalanced misbegotten monstrosity tho??

Nope.

spacetoaster
Feb 10, 2014

Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA for Knowingly Feeding My Vegetarian Roommate Something I Cooked in Meat Fat?


Depends on what flavor of vegetarian he is.

I work with acclaimed "vegetarians" who eat varying amounts of animal products either constantly, or only on occasion.

spacetoaster
Feb 10, 2014

Smirking_Serpent posted:

Boss just emailed me an unsolicited dick pic. Found out he is on sex offender list, advice?


BOSS: "Do you know why I called you in here?"

ME: "Because I accidentally sent you a dick pic?"

BOSS: "[Stops pouring 2 glasses of wine] "Accidentally?"

spacetoaster
Feb 10, 2014

Business Gorillas posted:

i mean its pretty reasonable to ask for a paternity test when you have a medical procedure that's supposed to make you infertile

You don't say anything. You just do it.

And visectamies (And getting a woman's tubes tied) fail all the time. I personally work with a guy who had to get a second visectomy after the first one failed and he got his wife pregnant.

spacetoaster
Feb 10, 2014

tactlessbastard posted:

Ah, but did it though?

Yeah, first thing he did was get himself checked (something a dude can do pretty quick and easy without accusing his wife of anything.).

Then he tried to beat the poo poo out of the doctor who messed up the first visectomy.

spacetoaster
Feb 10, 2014

quote:

About one and a half years ago my nephew (24) came out as transgender. His mom would not accept this, and he asked if he could come stay with us for a short time while looking for a job and an apartment. We readily agreed and have always used his proper name and pronouns. Upon his arrival, I was shocked by the person he had become. Although I expected some changes, the other trans people in my life had always changed for the better. My nephew, however, had become an entitled nightmare. He refused to look for work, he balked at helping with basic chores, and he expected to be taken care of financially. We were paying all of his living expenses, including clothing, fuel, and toiletries. He would not eat the food that we prepared and would have a complete meltdown if my husband and I didn’t prepare a separate meal for him.

After a couple of months of this nonsense, I sat him down to discuss him finding employment and his own place, as per the original agreement. He said that he hadn’t looked for work because using his legal name would cause his dysphoria to become debilitating. We paid for him to legally change his name and get a new ID. He began ignoring me completely. If he was displeased with the meal we had prepared, he would slam cupboards, sigh, and dramatically throw it out. I sat him down and asked what the issue was. Initially, he denied that he was behaving in any way other than how “normal, unrelated roommates” act toward each other. I pointed out that those “roommates” also pay rent and contribute to the household upkeep. He lost his temper and started screaming at me. The next day I tried to approach the situation in a different manner by asking him how he behaved when he lived with his grandma. He claimed that he did not remember. After having a few more questions answered in the same way, I voiced concern about him having no memories of his first 23 years. He then informed me that, as those were years when he was “female,” he couldn’t be expected to remember them. He said that the experience and memory ceased to exist once he realized that he was male. Is this a commonly seen change when a person begins their transition? Due to his behavior I no longer allow him to live with us.

I lost my poo poo at "After a couple of months".

I couldn't deal with that kind of treatment for 1 day.

spacetoaster
Feb 10, 2014

Biomute posted:

Or it's some anti-trans propaganda written up by some chud, it certainly fits in with their whole "trans people are the ultimate snowflakes" angle.

slate.com

the chudliest of sites.

spacetoaster
Feb 10, 2014

MarcusSA posted:

Here is a fun fact ( at least in CA and I assume all over) you can't just walk in to a fertility clinic and get a sperm test lol. Like you have to have a doctor order it for you and it can actually be a pain in the rear end.

Yes the dude hosed up by not going back after and seeing if it was done right but it can be a huge pain in the rear end if you just wanna check it.

What? Does nobody have a microscope in their garage anymore?

spacetoaster
Feb 10, 2014

Play posted:

Sounds like he's just an entitled oval office like many 24 year olds

No. That is absolutely not "like many 24 year olds". That's just an abusive rear end in a top hat who should have been gone within a week.

spacetoaster
Feb 10, 2014

facialimpediment posted:


"The thing is I'm getting older and need to reproduce"


No, no you don't.

I mean, it's fine if you're not a family type person (if you were though you'd probably have been married and had kids in your 20's). Don't try to have a family just because you think "it's the thing to do".

spacetoaster
Feb 10, 2014

FAUXTON posted:

Keto always sounded like something with a huge underlying harmful part because isn't it like "eat nothing but fat so your body gets so used to metabolizing fat that it burns off all your body fat"

I thought it was an intermittent fasting thing. Where your body uses up the energy in your blood (from food) and has to dip into fat stores.

spacetoaster
Feb 10, 2014

Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA for not wanting to work out at the same gym as my girlfriend because I think it's sexist?

My girlfriend and I both enjoy working out, and have gone to different gyms since before we met. Recently my girlfriend suggested that I change over to her gym so we could carpool, workout together etc. Normally I would agree with this and be happy to go to the same gym as her, the problem is that her gym has a large "women only" section. The gym charges the same entrance fee for both men and women, but this section only allows women to use it and contains about 1/4 of the area of the gym and about 1/4 of the total workout equipment.

I told my girlfriend that I didn't want to go to a gym that would charge someone 100% of the fee but only allow them to use 75% of the equipment because of their sex. When she said that I was being stupid about this I asked her if she would go to a gym that charged her the same as men, but forbid her from using a large portion of the equipment and area? She got upset at this, and said that "I just don't understand", and that "it's different for women".


Am I being the rear end in a top hat here and just not understanding?

Women/Men only clubs still exist all over the place and are fine.

Unless there's some super special piece of equipment that is only in the woman's section it's not a big deal.

spacetoaster
Feb 10, 2014

Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA for getting pissed when my wife whistles to get my children's attention in public. The exact tone you would use to call a dog.

I see this as being on the same level as people put their kids on leashes. It annoys me to no end and she sees no problem with it.

I also do not see a problem with it. In a noisy spot a whistle is unique and is probably better than just yelling.

As for the chinese food lady: Dump that dude. He's too fragile over bullshit. You should have ordered the chop suey.

spacetoaster
Feb 10, 2014

She says he's half chinese. Does that mean he was raised by a chinese father? Or in china? Or what?

We had a chinese exchange student (teenage male) for a year and I had to have a come to jesus meeting with him immediately, over his treatment of my wife and daughter due to what his "culture" taught him about women.

spacetoaster
Feb 10, 2014

Biplane posted:

unironically murder all child abusers.

Murder if a term for an un-justified killing. :colbert:

spacetoaster
Feb 10, 2014

Thanatosian posted:

Get a copy of the video, file for divorce and a restraining order before he gets back.

Also file a criminal complaint with the military police, and the civilian police.

spacetoaster
Feb 10, 2014

FireWorksWell posted:

But then the daughters won't have any parental figures because the father will be in jail

Most murders in the U.S. are never solved. I think the official statistic is around 40% (that ever get solved).

spacetoaster
Feb 10, 2014

FireWorksWell posted:

I mean, as long as he doesn't get investigated and someone finds his reddit post, which could constitute probable cause depending on the state.

I've got a degree in forensic anthropology and getting away with murder (how to) came up in every drat class.

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spacetoaster
Feb 10, 2014

FireWorksWell posted:


That doesn't mean everyone understands how to do so, just the ones who don't get caught. .

Oh not at all. It just speaks to the level of stupidity in investigating crimes, and the time police have available to investigate.

If it's not easily provable that you absolutely did it (bloody knife in your hand when they find you standing over the body), or somehow a big deal (murdered famous person), the odds that a detective will spend anymore than an hour on investigating is very low.

Anony Mouse posted:

Hah, I have a personal experience almost exactly like this. In my case, I was the "stubborn atheist boyfriend," except I wasn't the S/O of anyone involved, just friends with a person who hosts a Passover meal every year.

The first year, I went along with it and read from the Haggadah but it made me fairly uncomfortable and I did not really enjoy that part of the evening.

The second year, I politely but firmly refused to read on my turns. It clearly made the host a little annoyed, but no one pressed the issue and we continued the evening.

The third year, prior to the event the host privately made it known to me how important it was to her that everyone read from the Haggadah, no exceptions, and would I please do so? Given how much she seemed to care about this, versus my own discomfort with being pressured to read, and how weird I felt about her insistence, I opted to just skip the party entirely. I haven't been since, though we're still (distant) friends.

The "words are just words" argument is bullshit because it instantly falls apart under its own weight. If the words are meaningless, then what does it matter if you read them or not? No one has any basis whatsoever on insisting that someone else read them, nor does anyone have any basis whatsoever for not reading them. "I want you to read the words" and "I do not want to read the words" become equally (in)valid.

I reject that argument because clearly the words do have a lot of loving meaning. And in that case, it seems 1) intellectually dishonest to insist that they don't have meaning in a bid to win the argument, 2) to cheapen the very meaning of the words if you're pressuring someone to say them when they don't have their heart in it or are actively resentful of it, and 3) to open the door to perfectly valid personal preference to not participate in saying the words.

I'm not even saying that Jewish lady is wrong for wanting her S/O to participate in Passover. But neither is he wrong for not wanting to be forced into something he doesn't want to do. But trying to push someone around is kinda not cool. In my opinion - all things being equal, and the validity of belief or non belief on both sides being equally valid - trying overly much to pressure someone into doing something objectionable is inherently a shittier thing to do, so I side with BF on this one.

Just tell them your religious beliefs prevent you from reading from their religious book. They wouldn't ask a christian/buddhist/etc friend to do it, would they?

spacetoaster fucked around with this message at 21:02 on Jan 23, 2019

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