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Finicums Wake
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good thread, op. idk if ill make further sincere posts in it, but thanks for posting it anyways

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Big Dick Cheney posted:

I have real hard time engaging with therapy sometimes. I know that there aren't enough to go around and I often feel like my condition isnt bad enough to take one of the spots. I'm still going though.

I also feel this way when I try to apply for accommodations at work/school. Still working on that one.

if you live within a developed country, the reason that there's 'not enough to go around' is due to political decisions made in the past. get the care you need. then, use your voice as a citizen to push the state to provide for more mental health resources, imo.

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Chokes McGee posted:


Hilariously I have bipolar friends who get prescribed loving ketamine of all things. I mean, it's super micro doses in an inhaler so you're not gonna be trippin on special k 24/7 but they all swear by it for alleviating depression.

there's a drug very similiar to ketamine called esketamine currently going thru fda approval. is your friend a part of the clinical trials?

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this was made ~10 years ago, so some of the info might be out of date, but it's a really interesting lecture nonetheless



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NOAgplgTxfc

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crazy cloud posted:

popping back in 2 say that one of the things that can help alleviate anxiety to some extent is to watch nina turner's speech from the bernie rally today

also good for: breaking through anhedonia, alleviating hopelessness, and getting hyped for bernie

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an article about that ketamine-esque drug, esketamine:
Fast-Acting Depression Drug, Newly Approved, Could Help Millions

the website I found that link at has comments worth checking out:
https://www.metafilter.com/179772/The-move-heralds-a-shift-from-the-Prozac-era-of-antidepressant-drugs

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my old psychiatrist moved away a few months ago. luckily, other doctors/nurse practicioners in the same office were able to take over her appointments, so i didn't spend anytime between docs with noone to refill my meds.

my current antidepressant (viibryd), which i've been on for a while now, doesn't seem to work that well. my new dr, at my request, is switching me to another antidepressant the next time I go in. she put me on abilify ~a month ago because, apparently, having that in the mix while switching between SSRIs can make the transition easier. so far the abilify doesn't seem to effect me much. i guess i eat more, but that's it.

so, in a few weeks i guess i'll be trying prozac. if anyone has experience with it, let me know how it was. i'm hoping this one works; i've tried so many antidepressants over the years that pretty soon i'll have nothing left to try but tricyclics or MAOIs. or now i guess (hope?) some kind of ketamine treatment.

crossing my fingers that 1) a dem with a good healthcare plan is elected in 2020 2) is able to implement said plan 3) it covers that esketamine drug, because otherwise, given the cost, it's extremely unlikely i'd be able to try it even if my doctor thinks it's a good idea.

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Moist von Lipwig posted:

now I'm not saying treat your depression with cough syrup buuut next time you're feeling down what do you have to lose by taking two tablespoons of Robitussin versus infusions of a drug that causes bladder cancer?

so youre saying taking a reccomended dose of dxm helps? i'm not gonna start robotripping to alleviate my depression because of a cspam post, but if it's just a dose of the magnitude listed in thr bottle i might as well give it a shot

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getting a cat is a good way to combat depression, ime, for two reasons. for one, they're low maintenance, as far as pets go. also, they'll curl up with you when youre bummed and it feels good and cosy.

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The Xkdc Larper posted:

I have fantasized at length about an alarm clock that actuates a hydraulic lift arm to turn your bed on its side

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a movie about depression, among other things, that you should check out is melancholia

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Frog Act posted:

if anyone has any really good sci fi recs for the terminally sad throw them st me itt

it's not sci fi but based on your other posts about being a historian and studying marxism, i thought you might find some of this interesting: http://www.sovlit.net

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if a mod/admin is reading this: can i get a two week probe?

i've been seeing a new psychiatrist, have been on new medicine for the past few months (and it seems to be helping), have found a therapist, etc.

overall, things have been turning around for me. i'm on the ascent.

a break from the forums, if only to have more time to focus on other stuff, seems like it would be helpful right now. i can probably just log off myself, but a 2 week or so probation to reinforce it would be cool as well. thanks

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Chokes McGee posted:

i mean fau reads this thread on the reg and can probably oblige but a probe isn’t gonna keep you from being able to read posts, which I think is the big problem. I personally don’t want to see you self ban for a few weeks so maybe grab a browser extension to block sa for a while if you need intervention.

or just throw your phone in the ocean or something I’m sure it’ll be fine

i like cspam not, primarily, because it helps me learn about politics, but because its one of the ways i get to interact with people, even if in a mediated fashion. i already read the news + my fave blogs daily to catch up on what's happening. i can still do that to scratch the politics itch while probated. plus, i won't have cspam as an activity to sink time into. so even just the lack of posting ability would help me, imo.

a specific example:

most weeknights i alternate between reading a book and checking/posting on the forums until i get tired and go to bed. but i'd rather: read, go for a jog, get ready for bed, then fall asleep reading.

two things, primarily, have prevented me from forming a weeknight jogging habit.
1) i like to jog to music; back when i was in the habit of jogging i'd always listen to music, and that helped. right now my phone is too old to even download spotify. i just checked w/ my company and they said i can come in for an upgrade (idk if it's free or cheap but whatever). so that'll be fixed within a day or two.
2) when i get tired from reading i just default to the forums. then, after i start to read the forums when it's late, i'll sometimes pick up a tallboy or two from the 7-11. even if i don't have a d drink, i just kind of laze around reading and posting. i doubt i'd get on in the first place if i couldn't post w/ the posting pals; so, a probation might help break this habit.

i don't want to self-ban because it costs money to re-reg and stuff. and i still like cspam and the forums. i'd just like to form new habits where i use them less, or in a more purposeful manner or whatever.

i know this posts has been about minutiae w/in my daily schedule, so i'm sure it's boring. but
1) i'm trying to focus on solving small, concrete problems, such as not exercising enough, rather than dreading large, abstract problems; and
2) even just not being able to post will probably help me form better habits. i said i was on the ascent, after all.

hope this makes sense. i worry a lot about whether i'm understood. i'm sure my writing doesn't help lol

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Lightning Knight posted:

hi cspam. I’m really sad. :(

I need to go back to seeing a therapist and taking my meds regularly but it’s so hard to motivate myself.

taking your meds regularly is extremely worth it, provided that you don't have meds that are hostile to your mental health. hostile in the sense that the negative effects outweigh the benefits. or even scenarios where you're taking a medicine that's supposed to be helping you that isn't doing much of anything; those i'd consider 'hostile' because they're taking up the space that something actually beneficial could fill

the ones i've ended up taking don't really fix things for me. but they provide a floor, feelingswise, that i don't find myself plunging through. all of the suicidal ideation and extreme depression thoughts have ceased.

the meds might not fix your poo poo, but can provide a base level to build upon

as for seeing a therapist--regularly + in a productive way---that's what i'm hung up on rn as well, so i can't offer any advice.

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Dragomorph posted:

That said, I was in a period of unemployable unemployment a while back because I was fired from a medical transcription job the same day I was accepted into my Ph.D program, so I ended up taking a lot of free employment courses as part of my unemployment. And one thing I definitely remember is that there are ways to actually get certified for using specific software online, sometimes for free. A quick search found this page with a bunch of courses for Excel, for example.

Something else I also learned in those courses is that a shocking amount of stuff you would think is totally pointless to list counts as job skills. Can you use Windows? A touchtone business phone? A number pad? Those are skills, bizarrely enough.

Really, I don't know if they let you do it for free if you're not actively collecting unemployment, but you might also see if courses like the ones I took in Washington State for improving your employment chances are around. I thought they were pretty useful myself but YMMV.

huh, maybe i'm not currently unemployable and forever stuck in that state. lol

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actionjackson posted:

I've always had anxiety issues, but I developed TMJ disorder recently due to clenching/grinding at night and I'm pretty sure it's due to everything going on in the world! Perhaps I should not read this forum so much!

i have anxiety and, while i was prescribed latuda off-label, had a period of weird muscle tightness in my jaw. when my doctor tried to up my dose, in hopes it would help with anxiety (and, to some extent, depression) i almost immediately experienced symptoms of tardive dyskinesia. i stopped taking it. the next time i saw my doctor, she had put me on something else, then paid much more attention to the dosage/side effects afterwards. i'm fine now. but for a long while i was having jaw pain, to the point that i'd struggle to eat or fall asleep. like, whenever i'd open my jaw past a certain point, a sound somewhere between a 'click' and a 'thunk' would travel through my skull to my ear and then my brain.

i ended up doing jaw 'exercises' that i found through google, especially when the pain kept me from sleeping. they helped a bit. the exercise articles frequently mentioned TMJ, which is why i'm typing this to you. maybe stuff like that'll help, even if only temporarilly. imo, you're going to have to change something else, closer to the root of the problem, which will probably involve seeing a doctor, though

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Turtlicious posted:

I go to school tomorrow, for the first time in 8 years, to get a computer science degree, im freaking the gently caress out.

good luck. don't let the "having been out of shcool for 8 years" thing get you down. idk what kind of school you're going to now, but 'non-traditional students' are becoming a larger portion of students year after year, even in schools that aren't known for being commuter colleges/catering to non-traditional students/whatever. so, yeah, don't let that part freak you out.

as someone posting itt, i'd encourage you to check out your school's disability resources, and maybe submit the paperwork and poo poo to ask for accomodations in your classes. computer science isn't exactly the easiest degree, and having other poo poo to deal with on top of it might make it harder, so take advantage of whatever help is there for you imo

ganbatte

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SunAndSpring posted:

Is there anything I can do on my one for DBT? I want to improve my mood, I feel too angry all the time.

meditation might help with the stuff you're doing DBT for, like anger. as someone still getting into meditating, and trying to practice with any degree of regularity, i've found some of these guided audio files useful:
https://medschool.ucsd.edu/som/fmph/research/mindfulness/programs/mindfulness-programs/MBSR-programs/Pages/audio.aspx

i'm mostly trying to use the book The Mind Illuminated tho. you can probably 'find' a copy of it online if you look :filez:

edit: i'm someone pretty wary of the claims most people touting meditation make, and wary of the whole thing in general because of its connection to religion/mysticism/'woo.' if you have any of those concerns, that book i mentioned is especially good

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Yossarian-22 posted:

i find myself putting in effort to not effort post and look even-keeled and this is also a problem i have in social interactions

like i simply care too much and like to hear myself talk and expound on things and ask questions so i'm never ever chill and i can't loosen up

Yossarian-22 posted:

yeah i'm just like, super dialed in and preachy and analytical all the time and i drive myself and everyone crazy or at least i think i do and get insecure about it, and then i try to fit in with the lack of punctuation and capitalization to seem like i'm really just cool as a loving cucumber



just make the effort posts. what's the worst that's gonna happen? no empty quotes? your post gets drowned out by a sea of 'trumnt' and 'teee-ru p' and so on? a ban or a probation? it does'nt matter lol. nothing does, sure, but posting least of all. just post whatever, is what i do. and hell, maybe if you make the preachy, unchill, super dialed in effortposts or w/e on the forums, you'll either not feel the need to do the irl equivalent, or feel different about doing so.

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i put on old cum town episodes low enough so that two of the voices sound like muffled, howling wind and stav's cackles sound like the crackling of fire

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SunAndSpring posted:

Just feel really frustrated with how other people seem to always think being supporting means just acknowledging something I said. “I get sad about job searching too” doesn’t help me search for a loving job, for instance, and “Yeah I get nervous about passing too” does not help me pass. It just feels awful to constantly have things echoed back at me while I’m stuck in a rut. I don’t know why people think it helps me and then get mad at me when I keep having the same problem.

i can definitely see how that's frustrating, but at the bare minimum it counts as someone acknowledging your problems and trying to respond to them as such (even if it's not helpful, inept, etc.).

when people have echoed things back to you, have you tried to treat this as an opening for further conversation? where you can explicitly and concretely bring up how they could help you, e.g. asking for help in searching for work, or asking for concrete tips/assurance/etc on passing?

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the following response, while one possible interpretation for sure, is a very cynical one:

Addamere posted:

The serious response is that many people are hoping you will shut up and go have your problems somewhere else they don't have to acknowledge. They are saying they want to be supportive not out of genuine interest but because they have accepted that as the correct script. It's similar to how no one actually wants you to tell them how you've been when they greet you and literally ask that question: it's just a script, part of a schema of behaviour, that fits within their worldview of correct interaction. It's really terrible, but unless you are lucky enough to already have an established network of genuinely supportive people, the way you build one is with incredibly awkward and likely guilt- or shame-ridden conversations where you unambiguously request people do specific actions. Which will feel like you're intruding on them, or being rude, or being needy, or being a burden, or being weak, or any of a dozen other things your mind will throw up as reasons not to do it because what kind of horrible person would even consider it. And then you gotta do it anyway, and a big chunk of the time you'll get turned down. But it's literally the only way.


when i read your initial post, SunAndSpring, I interpreted it as people close to you making an opening move in a conversation, one limited to mere acknowledgment for fear of overstepping their boundaries or even just ignorance of what kind of response you're looking for.

i think there are a spectrum of interpretations between the one i initially considered and what addamere mentioned. without knowing about your relationships with these people, it's hard to determine where along the spectrum to interpret their response--as genuinely well intentioned but inept, or merely following a script with no genuine interest in your well-being, or something in between.

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it would be good and cool if people using stuff shared in this thread to be lovely to others outside this thread was a guaranteed probation

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BrokenGameboy posted:

Sorry if this gets long or rambling.

I started looking into leftcom stuff - - maybe that was mistake number 1. And now I can't help but feel there's no point in any action, that everything might as well be on a treadmill where you can't change the outcome. I know that unlike the armchair memes they do believe in organizing, but according to them it also doesn't seem to matter unless you're in a revolutionary period. I know that to them it isn't socialism unless it eliminates the value form, but this mostly ends up being used to bash anything that doesn't end up going all the way. Like, yeah, co-ops aren't socialism in that sense, but why oppose them as a means of improving current material conditions while waiting for some eventual revolution? Same with Bernie. All this has done for me is to exacerbate my existing mental health issues. Because if their critiques are true why do anything, ever?

Does anyone have any links to legitimate criticisms against leftcoms that's not just "lol armchairs?" I just want to get myself out of this, as I seem to keep falling deeper into despair.

Edit: I can't express in words how much this stuff has been weighing on my mind. Someone help.

the marxist theory thread might be a good place to ask some of these questions about leftcoms
link:
https://forums.somethingawful.com/showthread.php?threadid=3760900

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Chuka Umana posted:

I am seeing a doctor, I'm working on the issues but it gets so overwhelming sometimes. I'm taking a variety of medications that work well it just seems anger is the emotion that's stuck around.

I'm not a veteran or been the victim of a violent crime, so I doubt it's PTSD and it's not bipolar disorder because the mood swings are too rapid.

are you seeing a doctor that mainly prescribes medicine or one that does therapy and prescribes stuff? this sounds like something therapy would help with, so maybe pursue that if you're not already doing it. but, like chokes said, bringing this up to your current doctor is a good idea

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Impermanent posted:

One of my friends is trying to convince me that getting a programming job will make me a pmc and ruin my connection to the proletariat. He is a grad student. Can you still be a good communist and also have a job.

historically, good communists have been people with jobs. unless there's something specific about your programming job that makes it ideologically objectionable, and you yourself find that to be the case, i wouldn't let what he's said factor into your decision.

despite being a grad student, he has an extremely reductive idea of how a person's social location (in this case, their job) is related to their political consciousness and interests, or how political coalitions work, etc. it's just a form of vulgar marxism

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empty whippet box posted:

I'm tipsily posting this all over the loving place but, mental health thread, have a feelgood story: yesterday I rescued my old neighbor's cat - who ran off the day they moved to houston, 7 hours a way, 7 weeks ago, and who i looked for every single day until I finally saw her for the first time two days ago - and they immediately left their 4 month old baby with one of their parents and drove all the way back here as soon as I showed them pictures of her. Here we all are, with them reunited again. I hope this story and picture blesses you with some serotonin in these trying times. Good things still happen, and near-strangers might go to the ends of the earth to find and rescue your cat for you, states away, for weeks on end. So fuckin' happy right now. This will probably be my best memory from this god forsaken year.



hell yeah :kimchi:

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prom candy posted:

I just wanna say I'm pretty sick of my problems and I'd like it if my brain could process anxiety more appropriately

same :smith:

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thehandtruck posted:

Just out of curiosity what methods of dealing with anxiety have you guys tried? Anxiety can turn to depression once you feel trapped by the anxiety.

i'm heavily medicated, which helps, but isn't exactly a method for dealing with it. sometimes i write; sometimes i read and fill out workbooks with titles like The Anxiety & Phobia Workbook (Sixth Edition); but, mostly, i drink, isolate, and distract myself. needless to say, this isn't exactly a healthy method for dealing with it. and as you said, this leads to, and is bound up with, depression, something else i've got in spades.

i keep putting off finding a therapist. i had bad experiences with them as a kid. and, back then, i didn't have the legal rights to deny their services. involuntary commitment seems to have a scarring effect on many who are subjected to it, and i was subjected to it from a pretty young age, which made it especially bad. so, i have some insight as to why i have this base-level fear of and ongoing aversion is towards seeking more treatment (besides the meds, i mean).

but, yeah, i really need to get over it and talk to someone. for a while i was so depressed that, besides not wanting to go, therapy would be wasted on me, a hopeless pursuit. in the past 6 months or so, since changing my medicine (fluoxitine ftw), i'm anti-depressed enough to think therapy would be a worthwhile endeavor. i just have to get over this lingering fear

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even though i rarely post, this thread has been super helpful for me, especially when i've been at my lowest. just wanted to say thanks, chokes, and that i'm glad you seem to be doing a bit better

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Chokes McGee posted:

Packing my go bag, it's hospital time

Truck's in charge while I'm gone, try not to burn anything down

stay safe and best wishes

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Knot My President! posted:

My friend who has (medicated) depression tripped with me on Friday for the first time and hasn't had depression since. Since regularly taking psilocybin months ago I haven't been depressive either and my ptsd gets better every day :unsmith: *



* we also attend therapy regularly and are properly medicated

as a severely depressed person with fairly treatment resistant depression* i look forward to the day that i can try some manageable (read: low) dose of psychedelics in a therapist's office and talk through my poo poo.



*re: treatment resistant depression: i haven't done ECT or ketamine infusions, but have tried basically every major anti-depressant that's not a tricyclic or MAOI. i'm afraid i'm going to have to try those, or something more drastic, next :(

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Gnossiennes posted:

yeah, i've applied to a couple psilocbyin trials even though it means i'd have to travel for them. i've tried every class of antidepressant pretty much, including tricyclics and MAOI, and am currently taking adhd meds which kinda helps a little.

i also just went on medical leave because i just couldn't handle work anymore. like hours to write a loving 3 line email, blowing thru deadlines, unable to engage in meetings, just couldn't do it. like i'd write a task list, break stuff into chunks, whatever, but i just couldn't get myself to do anything.

i am in therapy and on a waiting list for a DBT group, but jeez, it still sucks. my pdoc is focusing primarily on the adhd now, but i've been through a few diff adhd meds now too. honestly i think a lot of it is just plain burnout and no amount of adhd meds (or antidepressants), or talk therapy, or cbt, or anything is going to fix it if i keep trying to ya know, work through it. and i've had years of just pushing through it and ignoring it.

it sucks!!!!!

it's funny that you mention ADHD medicine. i'm on adderall for help with issues concentrating and committing to poo poo i need to do, but it seems to have relieved my depression symptoms almost as much as a maxed out SSRI dose. i feel like adderall allows me to perform basic functions of daily living that my otherwise-crippling depression would keep me from doing. poo poo like not living in total filth and showering and wearing clean clothes. it is, of course, not a fix for depression, but i can definitely see how it alleviates some of the problems that come from depression.

also, if you don't mind sharing, where does one find such psilocbyin trials to even sign up for?

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Zil posted:

Anyone happen to have experience with latuda? Other than that costing an arm and a leg apparently my doc wants to put me on it.

i tried it but ended up switching to abilify because of the side effects

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indigi posted:

do you ever wish your parents were dead so you wouldn’t feel guilty about killing yourself

yeah :smith:

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happy new years, cspam. i hope this one is less bad than the last

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that's an unbelievably lovely situation heaped on top of a tragic one. take care of yourself, op

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TheLemonOfIchabod posted:

now that we are approaching the """""""solution"""""""" to this crisis (vaccines for anyone who wants them and doesn't mind getting them every year for literally forever) does anyone feel shittier than they have at any point yet or is it just me? like wow, we sure did blow up the world a whole lot in one year. I am in/trying to enter into a profession with no future (humanities academia) and I feel like I should have just learned to code or gone to law school. not too late for either of those I suppose but a pivot that large will make my 20s an absolute waste.

it's always lovely to invest a lot of time in a project that doesn't end up working out, especially when that project concerns your career and how you're to make a living. but you don't know, at this point, for certain that a career in the academic humanities is foreclosed to you. and even if an academic career actually is ruled out, it doesn't follow that your time spent preparing for such a career--learning poo poo about the humanities--was itself "an absolute waste" of your 20s. as a humanities enthusiast, it sounds like time well spent to me.

idk if this will make you feel any better, but no matter what ends up happening to me, i'll have wasted my 20s, and i won't even have a degree or credential i can try and parlay into further opportunities to show for it. neither will i have spent my 20s doing somehing valuable like studying the humanities. instead i spent the majority of that crucial decade too mentally ill to function. i'm not trying to play oppression olympics, or one-up you by having it worse, or whatever, so sorry if my post comes across that way. instead i'm trying to say that, from my perspective, even if you can't turn the time you spent studying into a career, there are some aspects of your situation which point in a positive direction, to the point that i myself wish i shared your situation, in those respects

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i decided to really get into my obscure and arduous intellectual interests, like finally reading hegel. that takes up so much of my cognitive energy which would otherwise be spent on rumination that reading hegel feels therapeutic, in a round-a-bout way. if you're already a bookish nerd, it might be helpful to double down on that, ime

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