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ArbitraryC posted:My brother was like this a lot when we were growin up. Just refused to answer mundane questions about stuff for seemingly no reason, like if mom and him went somewhere while I was playing games and came back, if I asked him where they went he would just not tell me or say something like "wouldn't you like to know". Nothing he'd need to be secretive/private about either, if I asked my mom afterwards she'd be like "oh we went to this store to pick up this thing he needed for school/hobbies/whatever". Hard to think of other examples off the top of my head but it was a fairly common thing he did and I never really got why, I think he just thought it was funny cause he knew it annoyed me.
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# ? Jun 8, 2017 22:35 |
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CharlestheHammer posted:Well my point was it was a weirder suggestion than the possibility she may be tired of his poo poo. Sure. I realize it was a weird thing to say but it was the first thing that came to mind because, like I said, I've had that discussion before. I realize it was a stretch. I was just throwing out possible reasons for her strange behavior.
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# ? Jun 8, 2017 22:36 |
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I've encountered people who ask the same things over and over again (e.g. my own mom), but I've also encountered people who are bizarre in other ways. It very much *could* be the case that this guy asks the same things over and over again, but that requires assuming facts not in evidence. Wouldn't she *say* something to him about this? Then again, why doesn't he just loving ask her why she does that? If he already has, was her answer just gnomic silence, or did he just forget (or not pay attention to) the response? So many...questions...
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# ? Jun 8, 2017 22:37 |
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Blue Train posted:Yea she's obv not very good at her job smh. This is why people say hr is a joke People say HR* is a joke because 95% of the time it's birthdays and circle jerks and that's all they see. *my phone autocorrected HR to HE seven loving times and you know what? Still works.
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# ? Jun 8, 2017 22:37 |
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HoAssHo posted:Sure. I realize it was a weird thing to say but it was the first thing that came to mind because, like I said, I've had that discussion before. I realize it was a stretch. I was just throwing out possible reasons for her strange behavior. Hell I ain't judging.
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# ? Jun 8, 2017 22:37 |
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Well anyway if that's the case she's just passive aggressive. There are plenty of people who are otherwise cool but lie or behave evasively about insignificant poo poo. I do like the humble brag angle of "maybe she's just smarter / better at remembering poo poo, like me."
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# ? Jun 8, 2017 22:38 |
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Pick posted:Or maybe she was just desperate for love, like a lot of normal people are, and if he had reciprocated she would be loyal and adore him. Real talk: You're right, but "loyalty" and "adoration" are positive qualities in a pet, not a partner.
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# ? Jun 8, 2017 22:39 |
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xpostingPick posted:You know, I've thought a lot about this thread, and it just occurs to me that you all are living lives I wouldn't want, so why am I taking your advice on how to get there? I live a vibrant existence, and all the way it's been different than yours. When I meet people, when I connect to them (like someone who hasn't been in this convo but is a new IRL friend of mine), we get it. We work it out. We inspire one another and direct one another to be more like one another in the ways we respect and adore. There's nothing like that here. In fact, almost everyone worth a drat has left this site; this site is the well, and people are pissing on one another to disincentivize one another from leaving it and becoming more, leaving you lonely. But I am not lonely. I'm brilliant, and beautiful, and scintillating, and talented, and there's no reason for me to take directions from anyone less, much like those who gave up once they hit their teens and never made anything of themselves, who always chose the most obvious path of least resistance and never fought for anything in their lives.
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# ? Jun 8, 2017 22:39 |
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TheWeepingHorse posted:I've encountered people who ask the same things over and over again (e.g. my own mom), but I've also encountered people who are bizarre in other ways. It very much *could* be the case that this guy asks the same things over and over again, but that requires assuming facts not in evidence. Wouldn't she *say* something to him about this? Then again, why doesn't he just loving ask her why she does that? If he already has, was her answer just gnomic silence, or did he just forget (or not pay attention to) the response? So many...questions... If the dude was just being tiresome and not listening to her I feel like she'd be way less goofy and jokey about it and a lot more openly exasperated. She's providing a perfectly smooth surface against which there is no conversational purchase or excuse to start poo poo and deflecting into a game that entirely avoids personal questions. The OP sounds like he's got a pretty short fuse too so this all kinda reads like some guy complaining that his dog mysteriously always starts cowering and hiding for no reason whenever he raises his arms. A Wizard of Goatse fucked around with this message at 22:46 on Jun 8, 2017 |
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TheWeepingHorse posted:I've encountered people who ask the same things over and over again (e.g. my own mom), but I've also encountered people who are bizarre in other ways. It very much *could* be the case that this guy asks the same things over and over again, but that requires assuming facts not in evidence. Wouldn't she *say* something to him about this? Then again, why doesn't he just loving ask her why she does that? If he already has, was her answer just gnomic silence, or did he just forget (or not pay attention to) the response? So many...questions... quote:I asked her why she has this issue, but I'm sure you can guess the result by now...
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# ? Jun 8, 2017 22:41 |
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Hmm actually upon further thought, this is Reddit so it's probably some stupid anime bullshit.
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# ? Jun 8, 2017 22:43 |
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HoAssHo posted:That was me. I said "maybe" because I wasn't assuming anything. I was discussing possible reasons and the Japanese thing came up because I've had discussions about that being a Japanese thing with actual Japanese people. That is not really an accurate characterization of a particular cultural trait that westerners notice in Japan. If someone is telling you something that you don't want to hear or giving a negative answer to a request, it is common to get "perhaps it is difficult" or maybe "we cannot do it" as s way to soften the blow. You both know drat well what they are saying but allows them to not be rude by putting things too bluntly in a high context society.
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# ? Jun 8, 2017 22:45 |
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Blue Train posted:xposting lmao
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# ? Jun 8, 2017 22:45 |
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Missed that, hunh. But, he says that they can talk about big things? And this seems like a big thing? Maybe the answer is hiding in the contradiction, i.e. maybe their problems actually run much deeper but he doesn't see it? A Wizard of Goatse posted:The OP sounds like he's got a pretty short fuse too so this all kinda reads like some guy complaining that his dog mysteriously always starts cowering and hiding for no reason whenever he raises his arms. That assumption's trajectory escalated super fast, yeesh.
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# ? Jun 8, 2017 22:49 |
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therobit posted:That is not really an accurate characterization of a particular cultural trait that westerners notice in Japan. I know. It was a stupid thing to say. Please forgive me.
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:The OP sounds like he's got a pretty short fuse too so this all kinda reads like some guy complaining that his dog mysteriously always starts cowering and hiding for no reason whenever he raises his arms. yikes
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# ? Jun 8, 2017 22:56 |
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yeah you're right dumb broad probably systematically refuses to answer personal questions for no reason at all, bitches be cray. maybe she's a slant My wife [31F] decided to be a surrogate for her sister [40F] without discussing it with me. I'm [35M] at a loss at how to proceed. quote:I'm a busy guy and I understand that my wife puts up with a lot, works hard on taking care of our children and is strongly independent. I generally think that she is wonderful, kind and understanding. However, about a year ago her sister had a uterine infection after her first baby and had to have a hysterectomy. During my sister-in-law's recovery my wife promised that she would be a surrogate for her. I understand the sentiment, wanting to help someone where you can, however the sister in law went through with starting the surrogacy process. I get roped into this when I have to sit down and talk about my thoughts with the wanna-be expectant couple over skype "to ask my permission."
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# ? Jun 8, 2017 22:58 |
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Blue Train posted:xposting Thank Christ she took that bullshit somewhere else. I'm a divorce lawyer and this thread's my goddamned catharsis to remind me that other lives beyond mine are loving crazy.
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# ? Jun 8, 2017 22:59 |
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therobit posted:That is not really an accurate characterization of a particular cultural trait that westerners notice in Japan. There's a great example of this in the book Dave Barry Does Japan where Barry's wife spends half an hour on the phone with a Japanese travel agent trying to book a plane somewhere in the country. Except there is no plane, so the travel agent keeps politely suggesting that they may like to take a train instead. Been years but it's a hilarious book and i recommend it.
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:yeah you're right dumb broad probably systematically refuses to answer personal questions for no reason at all, bitches be cray. maybe she's a slant Man this guy sucks, I wanna be on his side but drat he's insufferable
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# ? Jun 8, 2017 23:01 |
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Content:quote:My [27F] husband [32M] of 2 years got drunk at a beach party and untied my bikini strap exposing my breasts. My mom wants me to call the police for assault, my friends say it's no big deal. Is there a middle ground here? "He's great except for when he drinks, which is often, and no we haven't sorted that out." "My friends say ignore it and my mom says to press charges. Is there some other way to negotiate a relationship problem?"
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# ? Jun 8, 2017 23:03 |
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I think I need to hear more about the lego collection before I can render judgment
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# ? Jun 8, 2017 23:05 |
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:yeah you're right dumb broad probably systematically refuses to answer personal questions for no reason at all, bitches be cray. maybe she's a slant yikes you should not be giving anyone advice
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# ? Jun 8, 2017 23:08 |
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:yeah you're right dumb broad probably systematically refuses to answer personal questions for no reason at all, bitches be cray. maybe she's a slant Found at least one short fuse. No hitting, please. I mean, it is obviously a real possibility that the OP is basically an abuser who is unable to recognize what is going on, but that is only one of many possibilities. My two cents is that his SO is hiding some "unpleasant" thought or story - could be anything, from "you are hurting me" to "I am more stressed out about XYZ than I can express" to "I am cheating on you" to "I want to break up with you", or whatever - and so she is unconsciously holding back from other, unrelated day-to-day interactions. It's a common thing that people in general do.
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# ? Jun 8, 2017 23:09 |
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And because this story is just a proxy for unresolved stressors, everyone ignores the fact that the real piece of poo poo here is the one of her friends took a picture of her topless, without her permission, and then posted the topless picture to Facebook.
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# ? Jun 8, 2017 23:09 |
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Blue Train posted:Man this guy sucks, I wanna be on his side but drat he's insufferable "Told my wife to do what she wanted. Now she's doing what she wanted. Help!"
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# ? Jun 8, 2017 23:09 |
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My girlfriend [40F] of 15 months took offence to me [53M] applying a family rule to her jokingly during dinner with me and my kids [17F,13M] at my house, and then stormed offquote:We have the rule at our house that no one brings their ‘device’ to the dinner table. It’s hard enough to regularly connect with my kids and tear them away from their social media, so dinner every night is the one time we can talk and catch up. My kids are well aware of this rule, as is my girlfriend.
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# ? Jun 8, 2017 23:11 |
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the relationships sub is pretty mined out at this point but once in a while there's still gold in them hills I (27f) broke up with (27m) two weeks ago and found out I was pregnant. quote:So like it says. I'm pregnant. For the past two weeks he has been telling me he wanted to work on things, go to counseling, and "be a family". I've been on the edge about keeping it. Well I got news yesterday he has been talking to a woman who has been a problem our whole relationship. I showed up at his house wanting to see his phone. He said that's not my business and he can do what he wants because I'm not his girl friend. Which I agree, but to sit there and tell me all those things but to be not focused and looking else where already makes me think he isn't going to change into a man I can raise a child with. Also, he wouldn't let me see his phone but said that he's only asked her to go fishing, but this girl is the girl of the town that everyone knows you don't just hang out and fish with, and she has done stuff with his friends with his friends even if they have girl friends.
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# ? Jun 8, 2017 23:11 |
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my wife wont answer my smalltalk ARE YOU ABUSING HER?!
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# ? Jun 8, 2017 23:18 |
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Get an abortion, starting with your mother.
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# ? Jun 8, 2017 23:32 |
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:the relationships sub is pretty mined out at this point but once in a while there's still gold in them hills OH NO I GOT PREGNANT ON THE PULL OUT METHOD WHO WOULD'VE THOUGHT
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# ? Jun 8, 2017 23:45 |
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:the relationships sub is pretty mined out at this point but once in a while there's still gold in them hills Over/under on Confederate flags involved in this post: Over 4
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# ? Jun 8, 2017 23:48 |
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Please, these mines will never run dry. I [14f] got my boyfriend [16m] blocked. What do I do? quote:This is petty teenage drama so feel free to laugh and judge me but I feel terrible. I was stupid. So my boyfriend and I share passwords, no secrets. And we havent done anything to break that trust. Until I hosed it up Fair enough I see your point.
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# ? Jun 8, 2017 23:51 |
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Barudak posted:Get an abortion, starting with your mother. *his mother
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# ? Jun 8, 2017 23:51 |
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cyberia posted:*his mother Thank you, I did read that wrong because laffo those are some extra large brass ovaries to do that.
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# ? Jun 8, 2017 23:53 |
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:the relationships sub is pretty mined out at this point but once in a while there's still gold in them hills I was with him until "we have 3 kids already, and I am upset she said no to a 4th but is still willing to do this for her sister." If they had no kids then his concern about the risks to her and her fertility might be founded, but if she had 3 successful pregnancy there are probably no risks to her and it sounds like she doesn't want any more kids.
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fruit on the bottom posted:Please, these mines will never run dry. Yea the Instagram girl is the crazy psycho in this story, agreed
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# ? Jun 9, 2017 00:03 |
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Is there some semi-substantive Instagram celebrity reason why unfollowing-then-refollowing would be an actionable offense? Or is that cosplayer just nuts?
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# ? Jun 9, 2017 00:14 |
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TheWeepingHorse posted:Is there some semi-substantive Instagram celebrity reason why unfollowing-then-refollowing would be an actionable offense? Or is that cosplayer just nuts? How would she know it was done on purpose? They could've hit the unfollow button by accident, noticed their mistake and fixed it.
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Lareine posted:How would she know it was done on purpose? They could've hit the unfollow button by accident, noticed their mistake and fixed it. Yeah, I'm confused.
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