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My [20F] sister [12F] stole my credit card and racked up $700 of charges. WTF.Non-Romantic https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/3h0rat/my_20f_sister_12f_stole_my_credit_card_and_racked/ quote:She has an issue of Keeping Up with the Joneses. Her friends have lots of cool stuff and she idolizes those beauty bloggers and YouTubers and wants the things they have. My parents are extremely wealthy but strict. They would reward us with things when we did well in school. She pulled C's this year and asked for an iPhone, and was obviously refused. UPDATE: Hi everyone. Thanks for your advice and help. I just want to add in some points that came up in comments: I did get mad at her when she stole from me the last time. I thought that being proactive by helping her get what she wants in a proper way would help, but we did have a nasty fight about it. I didn’t just shrug it off. I now realize I totally hosed that up. My parents were strict when I was younger so to me strict is just the word for them. But for her they have completely checked out. I am basically her parent. My older sister not as much, but she still is involved a fair amount more than my actual parents are. I do want to lock my door but it’s where the dog hangs out, and he needs to leave to pee sometimes, so I am hesitant. I did, however, decide to order a nanny cam for my bedroom. I am still considering the lock. Last night I came home from work and my parents had gone to bed, as well as my sister, so I decided to leave it until the morning. But I heard giggling coming from my sister’s room so I approached her and I decided to ask her about it before I talked to my parents. Well, she full on denied it. I had printed my credit card statement and I showed it to her and she just said it wasn’t her and she didn’t do it. I am the person with the mail key (we have a community mailbox) so I was taking in her Amazon packages. They were from the Marketplace and a few of them had the prices on them so they could go through customs and those prices matched what was on my statement. My dad has a key too so he probably took in the ones I didn’t see which is why I didn’t realize it was such a big problem. I also pointed out the Netflix charge. She said that she was using my other sister’s Netflix. Other sister lives in an area about two hours behind our time so I texted her right then and she said she doesn’t even have Netflix anymore, as it interfered too much with her doctorate work. My younger sister lied and said she was still using it. I told her I am giving her one chance to admit it to me otherwise I’ll be talking to the parents and I will also be calling the cops. Still, she refused to admit. I even started to doubt myself. Maybe she didn’t actually do it. I was going over all the charges and realized she’d have to have an Amazon account. I was the one who set up her email address so many years ago. If she forgot her password, my email was the recovery. I reset her password through my email. Not only had she charged $700 in this last billing cycle, but yesterday she bought two more things off Amazon, an iTunes receipt, got a receipt from a site called The Sims Resource, and a Club Penguin membership. There were still all of the old order receipts. I reset her Amazon password and I cancelled the orders she placed. I emailed Club Penguin and Netflix and told them she was a minor and was not authorized to purchase the membership. Club Penguin was awesome and they reversed the charges for me. I guess they deal with this a lot. Netflix hasn’t responded yet. This morning I talked to my parents. They offered to pay it for me and I told them that is not the point, I want her to learn what she did. They just dismissed it. So I told them if they don’t do something then I will not be doing their job for them anymore. I will disengage totally from my sister’s life. I told them that by choosing to ignore this, my grad school applications are immediately moving out of province. This did upset them because my older sister had gone the same route due to their crazy behaviour so they decided to talk to her. I don’t know what they said as I had to go walk my dog but looks like there’s been 0 consequences because she looks fine and is still holed up in her room. My dad just transferred that amount to my bank account so I am assuming they just still don’t give a poo poo. I haven't yet paid the card. It is due August 27 so I have time. I talked to my boyfriend and he has some friends on the police force as well as some paramedic friends who know the cops who do the DARE circuits, so he’s going to try and contact one of them. My older sister actually has a planned visit for next Tuesday, so we are trying to coordinate the potential police visit with that. My older sister was shocked to hear what happened and when I told her that I might do my MSc out of province she said she and her husband have room for me at their place. I could even bring my dog if I want to. So maybe that is something to consider. tl;dr: No one cares about what happened and I think my sister needs to see a psychologist UPDATE: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/3h4lxv/my_20f_sister_12f_stole_my_credit_card_and_racked/ quote:My boyfriend reached a cop he knows, who actually referred him to another person. He will be coming over Tuesday afternoon after my sister and brother-in-law arrive. After the cop talks to my sister my boyfriend is going to take her to the army offices which are stationed near the police headquarters. She's going to get a tour of both. We decided to do that part second because she might be more cooperative after the cop shows up. Worthless boomer parents. And goddamn, 12 yo stealing CC numbers for Club Penguin.
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value-brand cereal posted:Today's keyword: Abandon your sister and consign her to oblivion.
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This is really long so I'll put a summary at the bottom of the post. But man, what the gently caress. My [28/F] husband [37/M] of 2 years blew up at me when I asked if I could be a working SAHM, and accused me of being a horrible step parent to his daughter [8/F]. I'm crushed. Is he right?Non-Romantic https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/31txkf/my_28f_husband_37m_of_2_years_blew_up_at_me_when/ quote:Posting from a throwaway just in case my husband or any of my family and friends reads this. I'm going to change a few details because I'm paranoid but the story is the same. UPDATE 1: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/339gvh/update_my_28f_husband_37m_of_2_years_blew_up_at/ quote:Thank you for all the kind and supportive messages on the last post. It was really helpful, as well as some of the possible suggestions as to why my husband suddenly blew up at me. I did get some nasty PM's from what sounded like bitter single dads, which only further convinced me my husband was being an absolute irrational jerk. UPDATE 2: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/3c8rpq/update_2_my_28f_husband_37m_of_2_years_blew_up_at/ quote:Hi everyone. I know it's been a long time but I just wanted to give a brief update while I still have time. I put small whales to shame with my current size and my baby is ready to burst out of me in just a few weeks although he technically could come any day now. Basically the OP didn't want to be a stay at home mom to Lizzy, her boyfriend's daughter from another mother, while she wasn't married to him and since she wanted to continue to work and be fairly independent. OP got married to boyfriend finally, got pregnant and finally wanted to be a stay at home mom to both Lizzy and the coming infant. Husband goes batshit because he thinks the unborn child doesn't deserve to have a stay at home mom when his daughter Lizzy didn't get one. OP puts her foot down with great courage and spine-having, insists counseling, which results in the husband doubling down and being using his daughter as a manipulating pawn in addition to screaming fits and other abusive tactics. Husband's family, including his own brother, tells him he's a huge dumbass idiot pissbaby but he's too dumb to understand or change his opinion. So they're getting divorced.
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value-brand cereal posted:This is really long so I'll put a summary at the bottom of the post. But man, what the gently caress. 5,844 words.
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# ? May 25, 2018 03:34 |
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Motronic posted:
They don’t yell, they use apologetics.
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# ? May 25, 2018 03:37 |
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Honestly the pregnant lady owns. Housebreak your scumbag husband by shoving his face into his puddle of piss.
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# ? May 25, 2018 03:40 |
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Veni Vidi Ameche! posted:5,844 words. Thank God value-brand cereal summed it up at the end, that’s far too much to read and continue caring
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Veni Vidi Ameche! posted:5,844 words. Thanks Rain Man.
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# ? May 25, 2018 03:46 |
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HIJK posted:Honestly the pregnant lady owns. Housebreak your scumbag husband by shoving his face into his puddle of piss. She loving rules.
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# ? May 25, 2018 03:46 |
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SAHM posted:He became hysterical and said I can't leave, that we have a family, that I can't take his son, etc etc. I was just done by that point. I said that for once HE will take Lizzy to school and I will leave during that time. I went to our room and started packing. Just for the record that's not an overreaction at all, and the only regrettable part of the story is that she had to leave the older child with this rear end in a top hat.
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# ? May 25, 2018 03:54 |
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Husband deserves some props too. Most guys with his thought process would have acquiesced and slowly built resentment for years, filling everyone's lives with bitterness all to reach the same ending. Being being an intransigent rear end in a top hat he saved everyone (except his daughter) years of pain. Edit: wait I stopped reading too soon, she's only separating, not divorcing yet and wants to give him another chance. Let's hope he continues to be intransigent, then.
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I'm glad lazy broken sister is not dragging down the OP that has figured out that sis is full of poo poo and is gonna have to sink or swim.
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# ? May 25, 2018 04:27 |
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Admiral Ray posted:Abandon your sister and consign her to oblivion. Like did nobody frame it that way for her? EDIT: The therapist probably did and I either missed it or OP left it out, but it really cuts right through her deflective bs imo. It's not a hypothetical about taking care of a broke lazy sister then, it's about the actual real life situation she's inflicting on people around her. I'm sympathetic to mental illness and food service work sucks but you gotta just suck it up or you won't get better.
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value-brand cereal posted:This is really long so I'll put a summary at the bottom of the post. But man, what the gently caress.
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Gf [25F] leaves messes and neglects chores but tries to act cute and claims she "can't adult today" every time. I [27F] getting fed up. We've been together for 2 years, living together for roughly 6 months. We're both women btw. Anyways, my gf has had a tough time adjusting to the "adult" world after college but I feel like she gives no shits sometimes and refuses to help herself. Most recently, she really taken to the "adulting" meme (which I hate with a fiery passion) and will often refer to acts of laziness or neglect as "she can't adult." I guess she thinks it makes it cute and acceptable, but it doesn't. She's been working for 4 years but has heard no news of any kind of promotion. I think it's because she's frequently late for work, sometimes even up to an hour, and she takes off a LOT of random days for random things. I've asked her how her work feels about, say, her taking off a day because she's binge-watching a Netflix show and wants to finish it, but she just shrugs. Obviously, her work isn't super fond of her because she says people hired after her are already her superiors. Whenever I bring it up, she does some variation of the "adulting" thing and says there are some days she needs to take a break from being an adult. She calls them mental health days. Another thing is that since we live together, she does a LOT of stupid, neglectful things but doesn't own up to them. We had a betta fish that died because it jumped out of its fishbowl (she put too much water in despite what I told her) and flopped on the ground. Gf claims she saw this happening but somehow didn't want to do anything. I came home to a dried up fish carcass in the middle of our kitchen. Dishes are frequently left in the sink, beds unmade, half-eaten food left in the bedroom, bills taken then carelessly thrown away or put somewhere I wouldn't look causing us to pay bills late, etc. I'm beginning to feel like a nagger, but gf wants me to give her a break because she can't be "adulting" all the time. As if asking her to be an adult full-time is too much, so I can only expect her to be responsible like half the time? The most annoying thing is when she does do a basic task, like pick her clothes up from the floor or pay a bill, she wants huge congratulations for "adulting so hard" or "look at me adult." It'd be fine and cute if she said it once in a while (and wasn't a slob) but it makes me cringe when she says it all the time after purely basic life-maintenance tasks. What should I do? Tldr: Gf claims she needs time off from "adulting" and often neglects chores, tasks, etc. I'm finding this really frustrating and getting resentful of her messes and ignored responsibilities. What should I do in this situation?
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# ? May 25, 2018 09:17 |
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Ok can we all just agree to not use the word nagger? Its impossible not to at least snicker and then it makes you feel like a jerk for laughing. Not cool, lady
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# ? May 25, 2018 10:13 |
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Preggo lady is up there with Pete. Really it's a wall worth reading for once. Poor Lizzy.
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# ? May 25, 2018 10:57 |
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Yeah, even the little kid knows he's the shithead here. I can't believe this all started from "hey hon, I'm gonna adjust my working situation to better take care of our infant son".
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Smirking_Serpent posted:Gf [25F] leaves messes and neglects chores but tries to act cute and claims she "can't adult today" every time. I [27F] getting fed up. Don't date children holds true even for lesbians quote:Yeah, even the little kid knows he's the shithead here. I can't believe this all started from "hey hon, I'm gonna adjust my working situation to better take care of our infant son". He carly has some sort of psychological proven that this triggered because holy loving poo poo, dude tactlessbastard fucked around with this message at 13:04 on May 25, 2018 |
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Smirking_Serpent posted:Gf [25F] leaves messes and neglects chores but tries to act cute and claims she "can't adult today" every time. I [27F] getting fed up. Your GF is seriously depressed. You aren't obligated to stay with someone who isn't willing to help themselves/get therapy though.
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# ? May 25, 2018 13:05 |
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Smirking_Serpent posted:Gf [25F] leaves messes and neglects chores but tries to act cute and claims she "can't adult today" every time. I [27F] getting fed up. This honestly sounds like untreated ADHD.
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# ? May 25, 2018 14:22 |
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girl pants posted:This honestly sounds like untreated ADHD. Whatever it is, I've met a few people who think being "cute and helpless" will get them out of functioning as a normal human being. Past the age of 8 it is not nearly as cute as they think.
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# ? May 25, 2018 14:29 |
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loquacius posted:the Pirates porn: funny to talk about the concept of, awkward to discuss the specific details of, super awkward to actually put on to watch with people This is from pages and pages back but I hosted a party with a bunch of friends in college where we actually did this. Maybe we were just the right shade of drunk but it was hilarious and a lot of fun to watch. There was one sex scene in the cabin of the ship where the participants knock a lit candle off a table in their enthusiasm and somebody at the party went "they're going to set the ship on fire!" and Tim, our most soft-spoken and delicate friend, goes "YEAH THEY ARE" and it was a good moment.
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# ? May 25, 2018 14:50 |
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Darkhold posted:Preggo lady is up there with Pete. Really it's a wall worth reading for once. Pregnant Pete! That lady owns and I can't blame her for still holding out some sliver of hope her husband will realize he's being a complete rear end in a top hat. She's been a mother to that girl for 4 years, is about to have his kid, and prior to this explosion everything seemed great/normal. She's taken the right steps every time and is remaining firm, hoping each time that the escalating consequences will be enough to snap him out of it. They're doomed as a couple because that guy is seemingly never going to come to his senses (despite literally everyone telling him he's wrong) and even if he does, the damage done is incredibly massive at this point. The best end to this is Pregnant Pete ending up with the husbands best friend or brother that gave him that intervention and somehow getting custody of Lizzy from him. All the good people get to live happily ever after and dipshit can have his whole world collapse around him.
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# ? May 25, 2018 14:57 |
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Buzkashi posted:This is from pages and pages back but I hosted a party with a bunch of friends in college where we actually did this. Maybe we were just the right shade of drunk but it was hilarious and a lot of fun to watch. There was one sex scene in the cabin of the ship where the participants knock a lit candle off a table in their enthusiasm and somebody at the party went "they're going to set the ship on fire!" and Tim, our most soft-spoken and delicate friend, goes "YEAH THEY ARE" and it was a good moment.
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# ? May 25, 2018 15:02 |
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I've just realised that Pirate porn isn't porn that involves pirates - with swashbuckling and mizzenmasts and cries of "Yaaarrrrrr!". I think I'm... disappointed?
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# ? May 25, 2018 15:09 |
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13Pandora13 posted:Your GF is seriously depressed. You aren't obligated to stay with someone who isn't willing to help themselves/get therapy though. Lady your girlfriend sounds like just that, a girl.
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# ? May 25, 2018 15:10 |
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Clarence posted:I've just realised that Pirate porn isn't porn that involves pirates - with swashbuckling and mizzenmasts and cries of "Yaaarrrrrr!". I think I'm... disappointed?
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# ? May 25, 2018 15:19 |
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The Pirates! is better.
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# ? May 25, 2018 15:22 |
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Clarence posted:I've just realised that Pirate porn isn't porn that involves pirates - with swashbuckling and mizzenmasts and cries of "Yaaarrrrrr!". I think I'm... disappointed? Oh no there were *lots* of masts, my friend
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# ? May 25, 2018 16:12 |
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value-brand cereal posted:This is really long so I'll put a summary at the bottom of the post. But man, what the gently caress. I have a deep hatred for the father here.
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# ? May 25, 2018 16:54 |
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Buzkashi posted:This is from pages and pages back but I hosted a party with a bunch of friends in college where we actually did this. Maybe we were just the right shade of drunk but it was hilarious and a lot of fun to watch. There was one sex scene in the cabin of the ship where the participants knock a lit candle off a table in their enthusiasm and somebody at the party went "they're going to set the ship on fire!" and Tim, our most soft-spoken and delicate friend, goes "YEAH THEY ARE" and it was a good moment.
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# ? May 25, 2018 17:03 |
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Admiral Ray posted:I have a deep hatred for the father here. First wife clearly broke his brain, but he's already hit the snooze button on half a dozen wake up calls so any sympathy is gone.
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# ? May 25, 2018 17:06 |
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My [35 M] girlfriend's [36 F] friend [21 F] who has never been in a serious relationship is trying to convince her to break up with me because of disagreements that are normal in a relationship.quote:My girlfriend Lisa works as a programmer and for a while she's been the only woman in her group. A year ago, another female engineer, Jen, was hired.
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# ? May 25, 2018 18:02 |
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P-Mack posted:First wife clearly broke his brain, but he's already hit the snooze button on half a dozen wake up calls so any sympathy is gone. ah yes if you take a long enough view, it was a woman's fault lmao
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# ? May 25, 2018 18:05 |
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fruit on the bottom posted:My [35 M] girlfriend's [36 F] friend [21 F] who has never been in a serious relationship is trying to convince her to break up with me because of disagreements that are normal in a relationship. Buddy when you say normal arguments in a relationship Im thinking “what brand of toliet paper will this household defend to the death” not “Im a piece of poo poo who expects my girlfiend to do all the housework and move to accomdate me”
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# ? May 25, 2018 18:06 |
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Barudak posted:Buddy when you say normal arguments in a relationship Im thinking “what brand of toliet paper will this household defend to the death” not “Im a piece of poo poo who expects my girlfiend to do all the housework and move to accomdate me” I'd love to know the specifics on whether or not he's actually a lazy poo poo or if Jen just wants in Lisa's pants and is paving the way for it to happen. I'm leaning towards him actually being a lazy poo poo, but would be interesting to get more details there.
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# ? May 25, 2018 18:32 |
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Since he acknowledges being a lazy poo poo ("I've been trying to do my fair share after our last argument about it") and doesn't even try arguing against the other points, I'm leaning toward lazy shithead
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# ? May 25, 2018 18:40 |
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fruit on the bottom posted:My [35 M] girlfriend's [36 F] friend [21 F] who has never been in a serious relationship is trying to convince her to break up with me because of disagreements that are normal in a relationship. quote:And even "What are you getting out of this relationship? Sounds like he's acting more like your kid than an equal." Lmao
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Admiral Ray posted:I have a deep hatred for the father here. Reading through all that - assuming this came out of nowhere, did the husband have some sort of break with reality? In her last update, someone mentions that despite friends, family and their therapist telling him he is in the wrong here he doesn't appear to have taken a second to reconsider his position. That isn't normal behavior.
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