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Burt Sexual posted:My wife and I share locations on our phones to make pick up/drop offs easier. It’s not weird at all. Yeah this. My husband will tell me he's 10 minutes away and I can temper my expectations when the phone tells me he's more like 20 minutes away.
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AITA for excluding my blind friend from my wedding? I have a friend, Bobby (not his real name), who struggles with his eyesight. He’s quite quiet and solemn most of the time, but he’s a solid guy and he’s good to spend time with. We met at college a couple of years ago and have taken tons of classes together. First year we lived together, and have stayed friends since I moved out. After the first couple of weeks of knowing him, it emerged that he was registered blind. He’s not completely without his sight so it’s not like we didn’t notice this guy with a cane and a dog, it’s just that he needs mega sized text to read, and he’s not allowed to drive or get his license. He’s completely independent though, and has a free public transport card to get the bus and train since he can’t drive. He’s always been a bit of a home bird as well, so every weekend he’d travel about 2 hours back up home, and 2 hours back, so that he could visit his mum and dad. Now my fiancé and I have been dating for over 4 years and have been engaged for 18 months. As is the way with weddings, we sent out save the dates and invites along the way, and Bobby received both. Because I’m not a very organised human, the wedding invites went out a little later than they traditionally might, but since everyone who was coming knew about the wedding in advance, and received a save the date, it was fine. We had a few people who missed the RSVP date by a couple of days but no harm no foul in my eyes. The RSVP date was set for exactly one month before the wedding. Background backgrounded. Now for the potential assholery. Bobby also missed the RSVP date. He wasn’t the only one I had to chase up a week later, but he was the only one who read the message and then took two further days to reply with a yes. Today, less than two weeks before the wedding, he’s messaged saying he can only come to the wedding if he can have a plus one. The reason for his plus one is his eyesight. Because he doesn’t drive and he’s not local he needs someone, his mum, to be present to drive him there and back. I flat out told him no, he’s not inviting his mum as a plus one because we’ve already told the hotel the number for the meal, but she’s welcome at the rest of the day. The hotel in reality doesn’t need the numbers up till 48 hours before, but the table plans are set, there’s no easy space to slot her in, and I don’t want a friends mum that nobody knows enjoying the wedding meal and speeches, and us paying for the privilege. I now doubt whether he’ll come, because I don’t know if she’s happy coming all the way, to not even be fed. Am I the rear end in a top hat?
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Jun 15, 2019 05:22
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for excluding my blind friend from my wedding? As a person who lived with a completely blind person for most of their lives, I'll gladly say that the OP is the rear end in a top hat. Heaven forbid his mom gets the "privilege" of helping her son go to his friend's wedding.
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AITA for not making it 100% clear I messed up my ex marriage to friends? I (M32] been divorced for a few months now, after a relationship that lasted more than 10 years. My now ex-wife (F32] and I are on no-contact terms. While we had issues that were pushing us slowly towards falling apart, the main reason why we are now divorced is because I had an affair which neither of us got over for different reasons. I know I am an an rear end in a top hat for that. I am now going through that awkward period where I run into situations where I have to disclose friends that we are no longer together. I take responsibility for what happened and whenever I discuss the events with close friends and family, I do not shy away from the truth. I want it to be clear that I know it is my fault, and I regret it a lot. Her family also knows what happened by her disclosure, in case that matters. But when it comes to casual friends, I usually offer something generic along the lines of "we had issues" or "we weren't happy anymore". Or I say "things piled up, and I made some critical mistakes that led to the end". However, it often feels wrong - as if the only thing that would really fit in those situations is "I messed up the marriage". I don't find it easy to admit it to every acquaintance, though. AITA for not making it crystal clear that my actions were the reason for divorce or is it "normal" that I don't tell it to every person I get to talk about this to?
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CoasterMaster posted:A little off the normal trail for this thread, but: I wanna be this girl’s roommate she sounds awesome and fun. MAKE NO BABBYS posted:uh, no they are not and they are expressly illegal in many municipalities, namely the ones with any sort of decency. Is that true? FTC says it’s not: https://www.consumer.ftc.gov/blog/2016/11/renting-apartment-be-prepared-background-check quote:Landlords can check your credit, criminal history, and even your rental history. They may ask your permission but they’re not required to.
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Power Khan posted:Sry if this was posted before, but lol
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AITA because I declined a (pretty much) all expenses paid vacation to CA from my (very sweet) inlaws because I am so deathly afraid of sharks? Using a throwaway since I lurk and occasionally comment on this sub from my regular account and based on all my past "YTA" votes i'm probably being a massive hypocrite. I was born and raised as far away from any sort of coast as you can possibly be in the US. I've been to the ocean one time in Florida when I was little and all I can remember is thinking that something down there is going to eat me. I hit the lottery when it comes to inlaws. The are the sweetest people on the planet, they are amazing grandparents (contrary to so many of the stories I read on reddit) and they treat me as well as the do my husband's sisters. I love them so much. My FIL is a really high ranking retired Navy officer and one of his favorite subordinates is retiring in August. My inlaws have come up with a plan to cash in some stock, rent a beach house for two weeks and take their entire family on vacation to coordinate with the retirement ceremony. They are paying for all lodging, ask that we provide food and cook from time to time and they are paying for our kids' airline tickets (we would use my husbands miles for our tickets). It's insanely generous. With all that I said no. I physically can't go on a vacation where my kids are right next to the ocean. It just can't happen. They are good swimmers but so much could happen like the beaches are crowded and they get taken away, they wander into a riptide, they get hurt on the boardwalk and on and on. But mostly I am so freaking scared of sharks that I can't let me or my family go. I just can't. I know this might be irrational but it's not unrealistic. I just read a story of a triathlete getting eaten by a shark on a beach just miles north of where this beach house would be. It does happen. My kids are heartbroken, my husband is trying to be nice and not make fun of me but I know he's thinking "why did I marry this crazy woman again?" My inlaws are so disappointed because it would have been the very first time they would have had all their children and grandchildren in one location. My MIL is being so sweet to try to talk me into it but I just can't do it. AITA? Edit: I just talked with my MIL and you guys are all correct and we are going to go. But my hands were trembling as I made the call. This isn't easy for me.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA because I declined a (pretty much) all expenses paid vacation to CA from my (very sweet) inlaws because I am so deathly afraid of sharks? This person needs therapy.
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MAKE NO BABBYS posted:uh, no they are not and they are expressly illegal in many municipalities, namely the ones with any sort of decency. That’s not true at all. Most rentals do have an application fee which is supposed to be for background / credit checks.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA because I declined a (pretty much) all expenses paid vacation to CA from my (very sweet) inlaws because I am so deathly afraid of sharks? Lots and lots of therapy. I’m glad they are going but Jesus can’t even be near the ocean?
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Things more likely to kill you than a shark attack include: overexposure to sun, a biking accident, and fireworks. https://www.floridamuseum.ufl.edu/shark-attacks/odds/compare-risk/death/
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Dazerbeams posted:Things more likely to kill you than a shark attack include: overexposure to sun, a biking accident, and fireworks. Well what about land sharks??? Where are the stats on that one? Check mate.
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MarcusSA posted:Well what about land sharks??? Where are the stats on that one? https://www.niaaa.nih.gov/alcohol-health/overview-alcohol-consumption/alcohol-facts-and-statistics  Seriously no one should go out drinking Landshark. I mean, it’s OK, but certainly no way to die.
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ad090 posted:AITA for not letting my cheating ex move in with me to escape abuse?
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AITA for wanting my girlfriend to get her tattoo for her ex removed? We’ve been dating for 3 years and before me, she was dating a basketball player in college. They had been dating since high school so she thought they were the real deal and everything. They ended up breaking up but she had gotten a tattoo above her rear end , basically a tramp stamp, of her boyfriend’s jersey number. He also got the same tat on his arm or something but she kind of branded herself as his. It was always awkward to look at during sex or if she’s wearing a short shirt and it rises up. It is a constant reminder of him. She claims to hate it too and says she’s glad it’s on her back so she doesn’t have to see it and she forgets she even has it most of the time. I recently got a bonus at work so I’ve got some cash and I have money saved up and I think it’d be worth it to get laser removal. So I offered it to her and I was real nice about it, I told her she didn’t have to pay me back and it’d be a present for us both. I honestly thought I was doing her a favor and it was like a present. She thought I was crazy and she didn’t wanna do it because it’d hurt too much and it’s a waste of money. I told her that it reminds me of her ex and she said to get over it and it’s not a big deal. Easy for her to say, she doesn’t ever have to look at it. I have to look up at the ceiling if I’m banging her doggy because I can’t stand to look at it. I think she’s being insensitive and unfair. If I had a tat for my ex, she’d definitely be more pissed. And the fact that she won’t even get it removed?? Id be paying for it. It feels like a red flag to me
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I loving hate 'phobics', which is probably cruel but there's just something... deeply annoying about it. Its clearly and obviously irrational and even they know it which means it should be on them to figure it the gently caress out and by figure it out I don't mean 'Never expose themselves to whatever reduces a grown adult to a shrieking toddler'
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Dewgy posted:https://www.niaaa.nih.gov/alcohol-health/overview-alcohol-consumption/alcohol-facts-and-statistics I had never heard of this but apparently it is distributed by Margaritaville Brewing Company. I am glad I live in the Pacific Northwest where this would not be served in any bar you'd want to drink in.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for wanting my girlfriend to get her tattoo for her ex removed? At least it doesn't say "Property of the Hell's Angels Motorcycle Club. "
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therobit posted:At least it doesn't say "Property of the Hell's Angels Motorcycle Club. " Kinkshaming?? on SA??
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for wanting my girlfriend to get her tattoo for her ex removed? TBF it does hurt like a mother fucker and it’s not just one session and it could take a year or more to remove (you have to wait weeks / months between sessions) But I don’t think he’s wrong to want it removed.
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I am from a place where sharks eat people so I don’t swim in the ocean but I do wade and also like go to beaches. I enjoy people that make me look less neurotic by comparison, so, so much. Also, being landlocked beaks your brain, apparently.
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just get it turned into a different number, jeez like if it's a 37 you can turn it easily into 87 and pretend you just really love sidney crosby
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Sagebrush posted:just get it turned into a different number, jeez Honestly getting it covered up is the better choice. I know this from experience. Don’t get dumb tattoos friends.
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Barudak posted:Candygram This was noticed and appreciated.
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MasBrillante posted:I am from a place where sharks eat people so I don’t swim in the ocean but I do wade and also like go to beaches. I enjoy people that make me look less neurotic by comparison, so, so much. Also, being landlocked beaks your brain, apparently. Jaws literally broke people's brains. Mind you Psycho also apparently made people terrified of taking showers. I blame baby boomers.
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Ghost Leviathan posted:Mind you Psycho also apparently made people terrified of taking showers. Oh is THAT what happened?
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One time I saw a moth land on a little girl who was totally cool with it right up till her obese mother started screaming and spastic panicking, full arms jiggling, elephantine feet stomping which set off her daughter and I had to leave. I literally couldn't watch something so loving awful as a stupid moron's stupid moronic behaviors breeding... no, infecting another person in real time. Its not just that it normalizes hysterics over trivial poo poo... its infectious, its hereditary.
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MasBrillante posted:Oh is THAT what happened? I walked into that one, yes. Personally I don't get it. Showers are great and make you feel great.
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MasBrillante posted:I am from a place where sharks eat people so I don’t swim in the ocean but I do wade and also like go to beaches. I enjoy people that make me look less neurotic by comparison, so, so much. Also, being landlocked beaks your brain, apparently. Don't they have shark fences or whatever in Australia? Or maybe you're in South Africa? We did the Great Barrier Reef and my wife got manic after I saw a shark. Because she didn't. The rest of our vacation was suddenly taking a boat out every day and luckily, on the last day, she managed to see one. Thank loving God, because she was miserable.
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Aita for lying to my friend about going to the same highschool with her to get her hopes up and not to make her worry about making new friends. Backstory) So we were at like loving junior highschool like 4months and we had to fill out applications to highschools and my friend (15f) said thats shes going to vuolu (finnish highschool for 3 years we have highschool 3years in europe and sayd to me did you put vuolu because we can be friends and hangout at that highschool soo this girl is literally the most shyest person ever and not the most socially active she said to me if you wont i would be lonely and not make friends she spends her offtime at home so i just sayed yes so she got happy with the idea of both of us going to same highschools so now its june 13 we get to know where highschool we got accepted everybody gets to know where they got accepted fastforward like couple of hours i would at around about at 12:00 am so she called me happy and said that she got accepted to the highschool she literally got so happy to think that we are going to spend 3x more years bonding and i sayed to her at first i was lying to get her hopes up and i am going to go to some other highschool she called me oval office fastforward she sent me snaps saying that i was dumbass for lying to her and wanted never to see me which in my case i dont believe that and she removed me from friends and blocked me at snapchat. So reddit am i the rear end in a top hat for lying to my friend so that she doesnt have to worry about making friends at highschool.
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AITA for not telling my SO I had a vasectomy? My SO (28F) and I (31M) have been together for 2 years and she suggested we work on having a kid together. I said sure knowing full well it would be impossible. We have been attempting for a week or so. I opted to get a vasectomy when I was younger before I met her and I have never brought it up, it never entered the conversation. Am I the rear end in a top hat for not telling her right away?
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do they not use punctuation in finland? gently caress
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Smirking_Serpent posted:Aita for lying to my friend about going to the same highschool with her to get her hopes up and not to make her worry about making new friends. Please spend much much more time in school. TIA
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for not telling my SO I had a vasectomy? Forget the vasectomy, this guy needs to be castrated.
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Sagebrush posted:do they not use punctuation in finland? gently caress uh they use plenty of punctuation, it just looks like a and k in English
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Sagebrush posted:do they not use punctuation in finland? gently caress MarcusSA posted:Please spend much much more time in school. Silence, you nerds. I'd love to see either of you write Finnish as well as he writes in English. Although he is the rear end in a top hat, should've ripped that band-aid off early.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for not telling my SO I had a vasectomy? I don't understand how people can be so willfully dense. And what's even worse is that this exact scenario has been posted here before.
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LOVE LOVE SKELETON posted:i imagine one future, where they realize they're an rear end in a top hat, and make honest efforts to both treat people well and learn more about the world while collecting everyone's emails and then calling them uncultured dirtfarming hillfucks was... ah... not the smoothest of moves, i understand the motivation and admire the OP's determination to not back down from "i loving hate this shithole and cannot wait to leave". live your fuckin truth kid. it gets so much better once you graduate and go somewhere you actually want to be. e: just, uh, maybe do your best in the meantime to not make the next few years worse for yourself than they have to be, by calling everyone fuckin morons for not liking anime and the googoo dolls or whatever Cactus Ghost fucked around with this message at 07:14 on Jun 15, 2019 |
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