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AITA for facilitating another yoga/pilates instructor off of her probationary period over using so many songs from my playlist? Sorry if writing gets confused, I'm really sleepy right now and can't sleep because my mind keeps going around and around, so I just got up to type this out and get it off my chest. I have worked very hard to create playlists for my yoga classes with unique songs the other instructors don't use. So a new instructor gets trial-hired at one studio I teach at, and she samples one of my classes. So I thought I'd support her and go to one her classes. And then it happens. She actually has one of my songs on her playlist. Coincidence? Not likely. She plays it during savasana which is exactly when I had it playing in my class. So this totally hosed with my savasana experience because she made it impossible for me just to relax and not think about why she copied my song. I didn't know how to deal with it so I let it go. But it just kind go nagged at me. So I thought I'd go to another of her classes. This time a different song that I used came on and she quickly walked over to her phone and fast forwarded to the next song. It was just the rhythmic intro but I recognized it in the first couple seconds. And it wasn't just this. i have a phrase i use about wrapping up your rainbow as a metaphor to encourage freedom and joy in the pose. Well, she used a different cue, but it still used the phrase "your rainbow". So I confronted her after clsss and said it's wonderful she felt so inspired by my music selection and cues, butte would be more authentic in her teaching if she found her own unique voice. And she just acted like it was all a big coincidence and then said, "Awww, you need a really sweet hug today, sounds like." And she kind of pouted her lips when she said this. Totally condescending and passive aggressive. So I arranged for a meeting with the two studio owners. I told them what she did. They didn't want to talk about her stealing from my playlist but didn't like the way she treated me. She was on a trial probationary period and the owners agreed to facilitate her off of the trial period and set her free. So I felt happy about this because usually I have history of not standing up for myself and asserting my voice and this felt like a breakthrough. But then I started feeling bad about it. But if she wasn't let go I know I'd still hold resentments at her and that has led to trouble in the past with me, you know when things build up. AITA for telling studio owners I wasn't sure I couldn't work around this person's energy anymore?
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Dec 16, 2019 21:21
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for facilitating another yoga/pilates instructor off of her probationary period over using so many songs from my playlist? I really want to thank you for this. It has really made my day. #yogaproblems
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Dec 16, 2019 21:24
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Shasta Orange Soda posted:Thanks, I'll work on knowing less about my parents in the future. Just stop using specific information you know as an objective measure of how much people love their family.
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Dec 16, 2019 21:33
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of all the things to be tooootallly obsessed with, "the beach" is the most basic white girl thing i can think of
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Dec 16, 2019 21:44
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HIJK posted:I can understand themed Christmas trees but lol come on issues like this become incredibly important when you have a gimmick instead of a personality
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Dec 16, 2019 21:45
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for facilitating another yoga/pilates instructor off of her probationary period over using so many songs from my playlist? I like how even the yoga studio owners were all "this complaint is dumb as gently caress."
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Dec 16, 2019 22:06
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Smirking_Serpent posted:owners agreed to facilitate her off of the trial period and set her free. Fired. You got this lady fired, own up to it.
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Dec 16, 2019 22:15
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ugh, rebecca, i cannot believe that you would play gently caress the pain away during the savasana. that's my rainbow song
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Dec 16, 2019 22:21
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for facilitating another yoga/pilates instructor off of her probationary period over using so many songs from my playlist? And i thought the beach themed christmas tree was going to be the most insufferable, bougie, first world problem bullshit for today. But at least in that one, only crazy people's feelings were getting hurt. This dumbass person got someone fired over nonsense.
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Dec 16, 2019 22:23
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AITA for demanding the same Christmas present my stepbrother got?quote:I sound like a real rear end in a top hat but I've completely lost my mind over this.
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Dec 16, 2019 22:27
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bell jar posted:ugh, rebecca, i cannot believe that you would play gently caress the pain away during the savasana. that's my rainbow song
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Dec 16, 2019 22:27
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bell jar posted:ugh, rebecca, i cannot believe that you would play gently caress the pain away during the savasana. that's my rainbow song lol
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Dec 16, 2019 22:28
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AITA for packing game console on hospital bag for the labor and delivery for my wife? My wife’s currently 38 weeks pregnant for our second baby and the due date is late December so really we’re expecting any days now. Last night while she was packing the hospital bag, I put my nintendo switch and the charger in the bag. She looked at me so offended like I just sacrificed our first born. She said “excuse me?” And I said “what?”. She then started berating me about not being presence and won’t concentrate during the labor but rather on the game. I said well we don’t know how long she’s gonna be in labor for since for our first baby girl she was in labor for 40 hours. I didn’t leave her side at all for our first until the three of us could leave the hospital and intending to do the same for our second. There will probably be a lot of down time and it can be boring. Our daughter will be with her parents so it’s not like I have to watch her. I also said what’s the difference with playing games on my phone. And she said it’s the intention and she left the room. She’s still giving me cold shoulder til now. So reddit, AITA for wanting to bring a game console while my wife is giving birth to our daughter?
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Dec 16, 2019 22:30
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AITA for how I responded to my ex wife's son?quote:Around half a decade ago I caught my wife cheating on me. Just like that our marriage of 12 years ended. We went through the whole divorce process and when I mentioned custody for my then 10 yr old son she told me that it wasn't my child. We did a DNA test and it turns out that she was right. She had no remorse for what she did. All of this wasn't good for my mental health so I decided not to bother and completely exit their lives. For the next 5 years later I've been living peacefully by myself. I've healed and now that past incident no longer bothers me anymore. Last week Monday I got a call from a number. I've kept the same number I had then. The caller identified himself as my ex wife's son and said that he wanted to talk. I cut him off and told him that I wasn't his dad and if he would kindly lose all contact with me. I blocked his number and that was the last I've heard from him. Him calling me brought back memories and I didn't want to go through that depressed phase again. AITA?
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Dec 16, 2019 22:32
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DemoneeHo posted:AITA for demanding the same Christmas present my stepbrother got? Give your mom the gift card for Christmas and give your dad a rock and see if he gets the picture.
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Dec 16, 2019 22:56
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DemoneeHo posted:AITA for demanding the same Christmas present my stepbrother got? Obvious that the stepbro is the favorite. Which one of the parents thought it would be smart to get one of the kids a gift that's 10 times the amount of the other kid's gift? Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for packing game console on hospital bag for the labor and delivery for my wife? Dude is a bit tone deaf, but a quick chat should have cleared this up. If it wasn't a game system like the Switch, he would have brought a book, or be looking at his phone instead. There's going to be time where the wife wants to just rest and he's going to be sitting in the lobby.
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Dec 16, 2019 23:19
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Slowpoke Rodriguez posted:This is incredibly gross and assholish. What are you even on about?
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Dec 16, 2019 23:24
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Telemaze posted:What are you even on about? Maybe you didn't mean anything by it. Trouble remembering dates is really common in people with ADHD. That doesn't mean that they dont think that info is worth knowing, it's because their brain works differently. I keep dates on my phone because I have ADHD and don't remember dates.
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Dec 16, 2019 23:31
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DemoneeHo posted:AITA for how I responded to my ex wife's son? Yes, completely cutting yourself off from a kid who you've been raising for 10 years as your own child was an rear end in a top hat thing to do.
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Dec 16, 2019 23:32
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Kuros posted:Obvious that the stepbro is the favorite. Which one of the parents thought it would be smart to get one of the kids a gift that's 10 times the amount of the other kid's gift? it's a teenager's first car, so I'd assume about double, but OTOH it's a family that gives their kids loving cars and $600 gift cards so yeah maybe it's a Tesla Slowpoke Rodriguez posted:Maybe you didn't mean anything by it. so you've taken the extremely simple and straightforward measure it takes for you to know the date, because it matters to you. What was your point again? A Wizard of Goatse fucked around with this message at 23:36 on Dec 16, 2019 |
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Dec 16, 2019 23:32
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for facilitating another yoga/pilates instructor off of her probationary period over using so many songs from my playlist? Lol thanks for this. I've been off and on sick for a month (drat toddler germs), work has been a shitshow, and I've been too worn out to do anything fun lately but goddamn if the saga of this petty rear end patchouli princess didn't make me laugh a little bit. gently caress your "energy" Janet you got someone fired over a goddamn enya ripoff playlist.
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Dec 16, 2019 23:34
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Kuros posted:There's going to be time where the wife wants to just rest and he's going to be sitting in the lobby. In my defense, it came in handy at 2am when I was trying to sleep and the baby's shrill cries were harshing my vibe. And yes, dude's gonna have to wait in the lobby probably twice: once when they do an initial checkup that includes "Ok now it's just us, is that guy forcing you to have this kid or are you under any kind of duress", and once when they do the spinal tap for the epidural. FilthyImp fucked around with this message at 23:40 on Dec 16, 2019 |
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Dec 16, 2019 23:37
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:it's a teenager's first car, so I'd assume about double, but OTOH it's a family that gives their kids loving cars and $600 gift cards so yeah maybe it's a Tesla OP posted: quote:carthrowawaypit Even a bare bones 2014 Honda Civic is going to be $6k or so.
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Dec 16, 2019 23:39
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93 y/o neighbor runs hot water for 3 weeks straight, overflows tub, & has caused 5 leaks into my apartmentquote:NYC. Upstairs neighbor is 93 years old and runs his hot water in his kitchen for weeks at a time (I can hear it from my bedroom, it's actually running right now as I type this). I go up to talk to him and he admits to running it continuously, but says it's his business and he can do as he pleases. (Building pays for heat and water so no cost to him.) Sometimes he turns it off on the spot, but it usually comes back on in a few hours. Only in New York, baby
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Dec 16, 2019 23:40
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Pinecone Sample posted:93 y/o neighbor runs hot water for 3 weeks straight, overflows tub, & has caused 5 leaks into my apartment At 4500/month you should legally be able to take a tubby with that old man
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Dec 16, 2019 23:42
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Pinecone Sample posted:93 y/o neighbor runs hot water for 3 weeks straight, overflows tub, & has caused 5 leaks into my apartment
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Dec 16, 2019 23:52
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Slowpoke Rodriguez posted:Maybe you didn't mean anything by it. Okay, sure. I was talking specifically about the people who don't think the info is worth knowing though. There were several of them in the thread. And good for them, I say! Cause this derail is dumb as hell and I'm only making it worse, I need to go take a tubby or something.
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Dec 16, 2019 23:53
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Kuros posted:OP posted: Obviously depends on location and condition, but a 2014 civic looks like around 10-14k. So her brother got a gift worth 20x what the OP got.
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Dec 16, 2019 23:53
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:so you've taken the extremely simple and straightforward measure it takes for you to know the date, because it matters to you. What was your point again? Telemaze said they had never heard of people not remembering parents birthdays, I said you never heard of non-neurotypical people? Telemaze said something like it's fine to not remember something if you don't think it's important. I thought that was lovely, because ability to remember has nothing to do with desire to remember. I posted the writing down thing to give an example of why some non-neurotypical people may seem to remember plenty. Aren't you super glad you asked? Edit: I agree, sorry. Dumb derail Slowpoke Rodriguez fucked around with this message at 23:58 on Dec 16, 2019 |
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Dec 16, 2019 23:56
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I feel like at $4500 a month you could find a better apartment, even in New York.
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Dec 17, 2019 00:00
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for not calling my girlfriends dad Mr.Lastname? Dad sounds like kind of a jerk.
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Dec 17, 2019 00:02
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ilmucche posted:I had a guy recline his seat into me on a transatlantic flight. I peeked around the chair during the night and he was leaning forward to sleep on the seat in front of him. Not responding directly to you, but I"m totally flabbergasted that everyone is saying that reclining your seat on planes is bad. When I'm flying probably about 95% of all the people will put their seats back when they can. Getting mad at people for using what little space they're provided by the airlines seems dumb, pointless and counterproductive. Either you just accept that almost everyone is going to put their seat back and you can too, or you are suggesting we enter into a social contract where no one reclines their seats to avoid upsetting everyone else. I hope we can all see how futile that would be. Better to just let people do it and not get mad. And yes I'm 6'2" so I know what it is to be very cramped on a plane Pigsfeet on Rye posted:The newest Texas statute: Sit Your Seat definitely more relevant for this modern age. A recent study proved that the majority of Texans are actually too fat to stand up Knobb Manwich posted:I struggle to remember my own birthday, I'm always surprised when it comes around and do a quick calculation when anyone asks how old I am. This may be adhd, it may be I haven't cared since turning 18, I might just be an idiot. I do the same thing and sometimes even have to ask my girlfriend how old I am. And yes, I've got ADD . . . bad Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for not calling my girlfriends dad Mr.Lastname? Next time you go for dinner, bring a large balloon full of helium. Whenever the father's name is about to come up in conversation you need to pause, calmly take a large rip from the balloon, and then continue on with a highly exaggerated MR. LASTNAME in your helium-enriched tiny voice, before calmly returning to whatever you're talking about. He'll get the message Ugly In The Morning posted:Fired. You got this lady fired, own up to it. She got herself fired with that bitchy response, honestly. That kind of talking down really gets me going, and it's a shame because she could've outmaneuvered this guy easily by just saying "I was so inspired by your session that I wanted to make mine even better but I'm sorry if that's against the rules to use the same song", which would put OP on the back foot easily. Instead it's lame passive aggressive BS which clearly got OP steamed up. Let me be clear, I hate the OP and the fired lady equally. And I hate them a whole lot. Just pointing out that there was a great opportunity for turnabout there
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Dec 17, 2019 00:48
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From the "not respecting your partner's bodily autonomy" files:Ask Prudie posted:Q. For my own good? I’m 31, and I’ve been with my husband for eight years. I always had the occasional zit, but for some reason, over the past three years, my skin has gotten a bit worse. Every few weeks I get a horrific pimple, and I have a few spots of acne on my neck. I still think I have overall good skin, and my best friends tell me they haven’t noticed a change at all. I’ve seen multiple dermatologists, always wash my face thoroughly, use prescription acne medication twice a day, and get the occasional facial. I view the acne as a minor annoyance that I’ve done the best I can with, and I’m really not too bothered. 
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Dec 17, 2019 01:12
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for lying to my GF about working 6 days ( I work 5) so I can play videogames once per week? While it sounds loving exhausting to date someone who wants a date every single day of the week and doesn't let you have time to yourself ever, uh, on the other hand, all of my sympathy went out the window when this weenie complains that his girlfriend wants to cuddle after sex. They're definitely incompatible for a whole host of reasons, but this dude is a loving loser. 
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Dec 17, 2019 02:14
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DemoneeHo posted:AITA for how I responded to my ex wife's son? this guy is a turbo rear end in a top hat. If i found out my kids weren't biologically mine, it wouldn't change a thing between us. i really hope this guy is getting shamed over this.
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Dec 17, 2019 02:37
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Cough Drop The Beat posted:While it sounds loving exhausting to date someone who wants a date every single day of the week and doesn't let you have time to yourself ever, uh, on the other hand, all of my sympathy went out the window when this weenie complains that his girlfriend wants to cuddle after sex. They're definitely incompatible for a whole host of reasons, but this dude is a loving loser. Seriously. If you're not gonna cuddle afterwards why did you even bother?
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Dec 17, 2019 02:39
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dick wizard posted:this guy is a turbo rear end in a top hat. If i found out my kids weren't biologically mine, it wouldn't change a thing between us. i really hope this guy is getting shamed over this. I mean I guess but it’s sounds like the mom kinda weaponized the fact that it wasn’t his kid so he let them be.
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Dec 17, 2019 02:43
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FilthyImp posted:My wife still gives me poo poo for bringing my 3DS and Mahotantei Dikkumasuta 3 in for her induced labor delivery. MD3 is somehow the first thing to ever give me exactly zero results on Google RBA Starblade fucked around with this message at 02:54 on Dec 17, 2019 |
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Dec 17, 2019 02:46
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MarcusSA posted:I mean I guess but it’s sounds like the mom kinda weaponized the fact that it wasn’t his kid so he let them be. Yeah, but if I raised a kid for ten years and they reached out for me as a teen.... Especially knowing his mom is a psycho. Dude ought to at least make sure his son was ok, even if he didnt have any legal rights to him. Because that's what someone you raise for 10 years is regardless of his blood or what his crazy mother did to the two of you.
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Cough Drop The Beat posted:While it sounds loving exhausting to date someone who wants a date every single day of the week and doesn't let you have time to yourself ever, uh, on the other hand, all of my sympathy went out the window when this weenie complains that his girlfriend wants to cuddle after sex. They're definitely incompatible for a whole host of reasons, but this dude is a loving loser. Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for lying to my GF about working 6 days ( I work 5) so I can play videogames once per week? The sit and stare at someone for hours "because she loves him so much" sounds like the kind of love that ends with a dead rabbit in a stock pot. Human beings need personal time and personal interests. That she's giving him a hard time for his is either a)he'll zone out and game for 20 hours a week and ignore her or b)He wants to play a few hours before bed and she's complaining that the time isn't being spent on her (super clingy) They sound 100% incompatible. There's also a conspicuous lack of ages given.
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