|
Skutter posted:Does anyone know of any good water-based lube that won't set off a latex allergy, besides Astroglide? My guy friend has a latex allergy and we use Astroglide, but lately he says that it's starting to feel weird or burn when it's on his skin for too long. I don't have any issues with any of that, so I'm stumped. Water Slide by Earthly Body is good.
|
#
¿
Mar 13, 2014 01:41
|
|
|
|
| # ¿ Apr 28, 2024 23:33 |
|
|
Basically any water-based lube that doesn't have parabens should be fine. All of the above qualify.
|
|
#
¿
Mar 13, 2014 03:12
|
|
|
ManOfTheYear posted:How easy it is to get STDs from oral sex? Do people usually use condoms when giving/having oral sex? I know several people who have gotten gonorrhea or chlamydia from giving oral sex to people who had active cases of same. Oral chlamydia isn't usually symptomatic, but oral gonorrhea will gently caress your throat up. This is a pretty good summary. AlbieQuirky fucked around with this message at 22:14 on Mar 17, 2014 |
|
#
¿
Mar 17, 2014 22:10
|
|
|
Does it work better when she's on top? She might have a fragment of corona (formerly known as hymen) left. The GYN should be able to tell her. She shouldn't start on a stretching regimen without a GYN's supervision.
|
|
#
¿
Apr 6, 2014 21:07
|
|
|
Slumpy posted:No, way worse on top (edit: To clarify, way worse when pain is already present, if it's when she has no pain she can be on top for a while but the pain will pop up regardless). The easiest time we have is missionary despite our best efforts. Curious as to why you think it'd be hymen related? My understanding of it may be off. The perineal pain could be referred pain from the corona, if present. The only reason I would hazard that guess is because most of the people I have known with vulvodynia had it on first penetration, not after a while of sex being fine. But. My pool is not a statistically significant sample, so this might well be a common variant of vulvodynia! Hope that she can see a GYN soon, and that the doc will be helpful. Pain sucks.
|
|
#
¿
Apr 7, 2014 05:02
|
|
|
It's really important to talk with your GYN first before using vaginal dilators.
|
|
#
¿
Apr 14, 2014 15:52
|
|
|
The "Bend Over Boyfriend" videos are useful (if you don't find Carol Queen's voice annoying).
|
|
#
¿
May 5, 2014 05:08
|
|
|
I would see my GYN about that as soon as it was convenient. Ovarian pain that is triggered by pressure in or on the pelvic region (which it sounds like this is, if it's pain that only happens during intercourse) is something you want to get checked out. Mittelschmerz isn't triggered by intercourse, though I guess it's possible that an ovary might be more tender around that time and thus more susceptible to the pressure-related pain. But the bottom line is that sex doesn't hurt more during ovulation unless something else is going on.
|
|
#
¿
May 14, 2014 19:12
|
|
|
That's not an unusual problem, actually. The best thing to do is see a urologist about it. Yohimbine has a paradoxical effect in some people; though it helps resolve delayed/impaired ejaculation in many cases, for some people it exacerbates the problem. Overtraining can also be a factor for some people. Can you ever come? Or is it that you're just not coming through vaginal intercourse?
|
|
#
¿
Jun 26, 2014 20:06
|
|
|
Yeah, if you're getting post-sex blood and everything checks out fine at the GYN, just use more lube. Natural lubrication can run short for lots of reasons, from meds to dietary changes to being less hydrated, even when you're maximally turned on. "Make sure she's turned on" might not be the best answer if she's turned on but getting dry. Lube lube lube lube. Going back a ways, KelJu, I'm sorry I assumed and made an rear end of me (but not you)!
|
|
#
¿
Jun 28, 2014 23:20
|
|
|
Apple2o posted:Is there a limit on how long you can use one condom? I know it sounds like a dumb question but I usually can't come when i'm having vaginal sex drunk so I have ended up using the same one for hours and i'm worried about it breaking or something. A half hour max is what they're tested for, and what the "perfect use" statistics are calculated with. So if it's your only contraception, that's something to keep in mind.
|
|
#
¿
Jul 14, 2014 18:47
|
|
|
Tinactin spray is the preferred jock itch treatment of dudes I know well enough for them to tell me about their jock itch.
|
|
#
¿
Jul 24, 2014 19:02
|
|
|
The trans dudes I know well enough to talk about this stuff with are all about the clitcock/cockclit/whatever their pet name for it is. But that's them, so take that for what it's worth. Anyway, without a prostate, you're likely to need more pressure to come from anal, so you being face down rear end up is probably the optimal position.
|
|
#
¿
Jul 29, 2014 00:57
|
|
|
My husband says it took about six weeks before he had 100% sensation as normal.
|
|
#
¿
Jul 31, 2014 18:55
|
|
|
hoobajoo posted:Saran wrap will do if you don't have a purpose made dental dam. And you should use it unless you're OK getting oral herpes or know your partner is clean, just like any other protection. You can also cut open a condom.
|
|
#
¿
Sep 14, 2014 21:49
|
|
|
If you're absolutely batting zero on getting recommendations/referrals from actual people, the Psychology Today therapist directory is better than nothing.
|
|
#
¿
Oct 1, 2014 01:24
|
|
|
Vagon posted:Could anyone direct me to a post that I've missed while skimming the thread or offer some advice for my fiancee and I? We both love sex, find one another attractive, all that is good and fine but.. We're both very sexually adventurous and like to try more unorthodox things than doggy-style. Our primary issue is that we're both submissive when it comes to sex and each of us find it terribly awkward trying to dom for the other. For example, even dirty/down-talking is hard for us to get going. Humiliation is kind of our kink in the psychological sense, less so in the 'tie my up and make me helpless' sense. Is hiring a professional domme out of the question? Because this is a thing they do.
|
|
#
¿
Oct 19, 2014 18:07
|
|
|
FROOOOOOOOG posted:IANAD, but I thought the whole thing with ejaculate is that there's a gland that produces it as needed, and can do so pretty drat quick, so it's not like there's a reservoir of cum, in either sex. Also I'd heard there was a reflex that makes it really hard to pee during sex, like how apparently it hurts to pee with a boner. The Bartholin's glands are each the size of a pea, so anything more than two peas' worth of liquid is pee. Pee pea.
|
|
#
¿
Dec 13, 2014 05:37
|
|
|
My favorite of the trying-to-be-classy mainstream porn of the 70s is Emmanuelle. It's worth taking a look at, especially the U.S. release version (with the rape edited out).
|
|
#
¿
Dec 16, 2014 04:38
|
|
|
anaaki posted:Best toy or device for helping find one's g-spot? I'm pretty convinced I don't even have one at this point. Doesn't help that I don't EVER have a sex drive. But hey, might as well give it a shot. Not everyone likes G-spot stimulation, just like not everyone likes stimulation of the external clitoris. If it isn't for you, it isn't for you. "Shy about sex things" is probably more of a key thing to work with than finding specific toys. I will let someone else make a "magic bullet" joke. Best of luck. AlbieQuirky fucked around with this message at 05:57 on Dec 22, 2014 |
|
#
¿
Dec 22, 2014 05:55
|
|
|
Xibanya posted:Edit: also, thanks for the advice sex thread people! Does it also take that long for bjs? I've gotten my dude off with a hand but never with mouth because it becomes tedious. Don't tell me I gotta blow a guy for 20 mins straight. 5-10 minutes in my experience. Also, some large percentage of women (55% to 70%, depending on whose numbers you use) need direct clitoral stimulation for orgasm. So maybe that's you. Edited to add: seconding the "relax" advice.
|
|
#
¿
Jan 20, 2015 22:02
|
|
|
FactsAreUseless posted:I too hope and pray for Turtlicious and his extremely real problems. I don't know which Turtlicious problems to believe in anymore 
|
|
#
¿
Feb 11, 2015 05:10
|
|
|
According to my GYN, it's totally fine.
|
|
#
¿
Apr 7, 2015 20:48
|
|
|
My guess is that she's got a yeast infection and you're catching a mild case of it. It seems weird to me that her GYN is cool with the constant bleeding from the contraceptive implant; that's usually considered to be a sign that the person isn't a good subject for that method. Constant bleeding has a few health risks associated with it, including anemia and higher risk of yeast infection (because of the humid/dry cycle of wearing tampons/pads/menstrual cups/pantyliners/whatever most days).
|
|
#
¿
Apr 19, 2015 01:07
|
|
|
cash crab posted:Sorry, just saw this. I'm definitely older than that, and have no children. The thing is, I have a friend who has to get both of her ovaries removed soon, and she asked if in a couple of years, I could like.. lend her an egg or two. I'm not using them by any stretch. My family doesn't tend towards cancers or any weird genetic stuff. Would they allow that? It's unlikely the fertility docs would go for the idea if you'll be much over 30 at the time. That said, I donated (to friends) when I was over 30 and it wasn't a huge deal. The annoying part is the fertility shots and the no loving until they harvest your eggs.
|
|
#
¿
May 25, 2015 17:08
|
|
|
Digital-Smoke posted:I want to know how to choke a girl and make her pass out safely like Roxie jezel does. I know it sounds rapey but I like rough sex. Roxy Jezel is acting, dude. Find someone who's also a good actor.
|
|
#
¿
Aug 18, 2015 17:02
|
|
|
Anne Whateley posted:It sounds more like she's bad at taking the pill daily but actually really good at prob & stat. There's no "maybe" about the need for condoms there. Something long-term definitely sounds better for her. Yes, I would think depo or IUD would be way more reliable for someone who isn't good at remembering to take pills. (Though I don't think you have to be "superhuman" to remember to take a pill at roughly the same time every day, it's not everyone's best thing.)
|
|
#
¿
Dec 2, 2015 23:15
|
|
|
Do you live somewhere where it's impossible to get a safe abortion?
|
|
#
¿
Dec 5, 2015 17:57
|
|
|
PRADA SLUT posted:What else could it be? Like physiologically, there's nothing else there to mix it up with. Is it supposed to be some sort of mystery sex fluid that just materializes in some women with a launch vector from the urethra? Bartholin's glands secretions is the usual non-pee hypothesis, and there may be some of that happening. In the pee.
|
|
#
¿
Dec 11, 2015 01:01
|
|
|
Deltasquid posted:So me and my girlfriend are both young and we're each other's first. We started having sex some months ago but very irregularly as our relationship is a bit long distance until I move back home in february. She needs to go to Scarleteen.com and read all the relevant articles about how a majority of women never come from vaginal stimulation alone. Also, she doesn't do a good job of reading Cosmo if she missed all the articles about how a majority of women never come from vaginal stimulation alone, because they're in there. I blame romance and erotica novels for this myth that all/most ladies get off from loving. Anyway, next time get some lube (Sliquid is good) and go to town on her clit while you guys are loving.
|
|
#
¿
Jan 6, 2016 21:13
|
|
|
It's a lot easier to put the yogurt on a tampon. And, yeah, plain whole-milk yogurt, not Yoplait or whatever.
|
|
#
¿
Jan 7, 2016 07:02
|
|
|
Re: Convergence's friend, if she wants to have more orgasms, the most efficient way for her to start doing that is likely to be exploring what she likes solo. If she doesn't particularly care about having more orgasms, then keep on with what you've been doing. I do find that weed or a couple glasses of wine help me stay in the mood/keep my brain from going off on a tangent when I have been stressed out about something else. Let me recommend the book She Comes First if all else fails.
|
|
#
¿
Feb 19, 2016 03:37
|
|
|
Ogmius815 posted:Not to derail but medical goons: how sure are we that antidepressants help people? It sure seems like they have terrible horrible side effects and gently caress everyone up. My mom took Effexor for a while and I don't know if she had sex problems (because eww) but even if she had it would have been the least of her troubles with that drug. They're like pretty much every other drug, in that they help some people, do nothing for other people, and make some people really sick with side effects. I mean, some drugs work really reliably because we understand the disease mechanisms extremely well (antibiotics for TB, for example), but antidepressants are more of a crapshoot because the disease mechanism is so poorly understood at this time. I'm sorry your mom had such a bad experience with Effexor. It worked really well for me, but then on the other hand I took a very commonly prescribed blood pressure medication that almost killed me, much to everyone's surprise. Sometimes drugs try to kill you.
|
|
#
¿
Mar 11, 2016 07:47
|
|
|
Dudes not being able to come the first few times, or the first few times with a new person, happens all the time. If you've eliminated the question of Masturbation Death Grip as the cause, the only way to get through it is not to sweat it and just keep powering through until it works.
|
|
#
¿
May 11, 2016 01:35
|
|
|
Opening Up by Tristan Taormino is a good book about open relationships.
|
|
#
¿
Jul 2, 2016 04:02
|
|
|
Violet_Sky posted:TBF the guy had been through some Bad poo poo recently. So maybe at another time in his life he wouldn't have been a giant rear end in a top hat to you. But you met him at the time when he was a giant rear end in a top hat to you, so stop blaming yourself. Next time with the next guy will be better, because you will have seen your doc and therapist about how to approach stuff given where your body and your mind are at right now. And sex stuff goes wrong all the time, even for people with average mobility and muscle control. Kind-hearted people are chill and relaxed about it and take a break or do something else because it's not the end of the world.
|
|
#
¿
Jul 25, 2016 18:42
|
|
|
Azran, you might find some of the articles at Scarleteen.com helpful?
|
|
#
¿
Oct 7, 2016 17:26
|
|
|
Azran posted:I'm really concerned about a membrane-like ring I felt was constricting my fingers as I went further on with my fingers, and contact with it seemed to be the cause of her pain. I suppose it's the hymen? Or at least bone? No idea. Likely the corona (the current medical term for what used to be called "hymen"). There are some good articles about this stuff on Scarleteen.com.
|
|
#
¿
Nov 1, 2016 14:44
|
|
|
I'm glad you found it helpful! It does feel weird to suggest it to people in their 20s and 30s, but I don't know another resource that's anywhere near as clear and specific about sexuality and sexual health.
|
|
#
¿
Nov 2, 2016 16:54
|
|
|
|
| # ¿ Apr 28, 2024 23:33 |
|
|
No oils with condoms, though.
|
|
#
¿
Dec 9, 2016 23:29
|
|