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Mameluke
Aug 2, 2013

by Fluffdaddy
Wow so that cop story from the last page, he is definitely an abuser

As far as this page goes, man therapists are good but some are bad, I recommend you try to read as many peoples' experiences as you can to develop a general image of therapy before grouping your own therapist into "good" or "bad." That said please do not dump whichever current therapist you have apropos of nothing.

edit: there were two recent cop stories, i mean both the creepy cop boyfriend and the invasive :murder: dad, kill 'em both

Mameluke fucked around with this message at 19:44 on Apr 18, 2017

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Mameluke
Aug 2, 2013

by Fluffdaddy
I thought the guy who kept crowing about reimbursement was the pervert, out of a desire to have his guilt assuaged.

Mameluke
Aug 2, 2013

by Fluffdaddy
How many goons live in Portland and are any of you Fred Armisen

Mameluke
Aug 2, 2013

by Fluffdaddy

Barudak posted:

They did however, want you to use what remains of their faith in scattered, christian contaminated writings to espouse anconcept of racial nationalism that they would have had no comprehension of. They were super clear on that.

Hey Neil Gaiman didn't know you were a goon

also, so this isn't a totally worthless post,

New girl [21f] ive been seeing turned off that I [27m] have Lego's

quote:

After our 3rd date last night I invited her over for some fun at my place. After we had sex she was walking around and saw my Tower of Orthanc Lego set, I showed her some of my others - kind of opened up how it's a hobby of mine and it makes me happy. Her entire demeanour seemed to change, she didn't find them interesting or cool - she kind of laughed as in "you cant be serious" when I told her how much some of them cost and how important they are to me, made me feel like an idiot for showing her.

She left this morning and I felt really embarrassed, am I a manchild for still liking and buying legos? I don't "play" with them like I did when I was younger, mostly just have them for warmth/setting for my living space. I actually liked this girl but maybe were not compatible, she's more of a typical southern California beach girl, I'm a winter sport guy(we live in California).

Tldr: new girl doesn't "get" legos

Edit: y'all are hella nice, I'm going to continue to embrace my Legos even if they do turn some women off.

Mameluke
Aug 2, 2013

by Fluffdaddy
The setup:

My [25f] husband [25] keeps getting harassed by mom telling him that if we keep spending time together, we'll get divorced. She swears by it.

quote:

My husband and I have been together for 6 years and married for 4 years. So currently, we live with my parents but not because of the reasons you are thinking. My husband works from home and so do I (I'm a youtuber), we moved back with my mom, dad, and brother because my dad lost his job and was struggling with paying the bills. So since moving in, we have been paying:

-1200 out of the 1650 of the rent -Internet -Cable -My brothers insurance

So all in all, about 1600 in total that we helping with. However, the issue is that my mother is starting to complain about how much time my husband and I spend with each other. It is true, we spend all day every day together. We are best friends and a lot of the time, we really would rather be with one another than elsewhere. It also helps that we have the same hobbies, we workout a lot, we do a lot of wood working projects, and we paint. So during the time that we are with each other, it's most likely fulfilled with activities that we both enjoy.

Anyway, recently my mother found out that I got 2 job offers, one from a statewide Chamber of Commerce and another is from a company that will allow me to work from home. She lost it when she heard about the Chamber and kept pushing me to it however, I was actually leaning towards the other position so that I can be home and better manage all of my responsibilities including Youtube which brings in 2k a month.

Well now my mom is being completely unbearable and it is affecting my marriage. She keeps walking around the house telling my husband that if we don't start being apart that she is "sure" that we will get divorced.

She even keeps bringing up anecdotal examples from people "she knew" who spend too much time with each other that they hate each other.

Additionally, whenever she doesn't get her way. She throws a tantrum and freaks out on my husband. For example, we were washing our clothes in the washing machine, my mom shoved more clothes in the washer while it was running because "we were wasting water". Well, she ended up breaking the washer. In the next 4 days the washer was filling up with water and she loudly banged dishes, yelled, and slammed doors until we siphoned ALL of the water out and had someone come in and fix it. (100 bucks)

I don't know what to do anymore. I feel like my husband and I are doing more than what is needed to help my family. Helping them financially is one thing, but biting our tongue has never been harder. In fact, we spend majority of our time in our room because she yells at us about divorcing when we are downstairs and continually tells my husband about how messy his wife is.... but in reality it was her who made the mess.

About to lose my poo poo.

TL;DR My husband and I spend about 20-24 hours a day with one another and it works for us. My mom keeps telling him that if we don't spend time away from each other that we will 100% get divorced. However, we are paying the majority of the bills and we cannot stand it anymore.

The punchline:

New 2 this. (posted 1 day before the OP)

quote:

Still trying to understand what I like but I like being a little girl.

Mameluke
Aug 2, 2013

by Fluffdaddy

DragQueenofAngmar posted:

i want to believe

How do I explain to my (48F) daughter (16F) that her father (51M) is in prison for the right reasons? She believes he is innocent, and I know he is not, and I don't know how to tell her that I was involved in what he did as well.

Wow please put Veronica's plot for the next season of Riverdale in spoilers, thanks.

Mameluke
Aug 2, 2013

by Fluffdaddy
As far as The Greatest Poly Post goes, Captain Awkward's response has a weird mix of forgiveness and condemnation; https://captainawkward.com/2017/07/13/992-my-husband-is-dating-my-mom/

quote:

Obviously the ick factor of a your husband having an affair with his wife’s mother is high. Y’all have an open marriage, he could theoretically be with anyone in the world, and he chooses your mom? And your mother chooses the one man in the universe who is married to her daughter? That is some unfathomable shitheadery right there, from both of them. For the record, I don’t believe in soulmates. I don’t believe that there is romantic love that is somehow divorced from the choices you make about what to do about your feelings. I don’t believe there are feelings of love and attraction that “have to” be acted upon. I don’t believe in “it just happened.” “It” happens because people make it happen. These two assholes chose this.
...
It’s nice that you are thinking about the possibility of forgiveness for your husband (after you break them up somehow, of course), but my read on this situation is that there is no going back to any kind of happy equilibrium in these relationships. He’s always going to be the guy who dated your mom. Your mom is always going to be the mom who dated your husband. You’re framing it as “My mom stole my husband” but your husband did just as much stealing and breaking of trust.

Also, forgiveness is for when someone has a) stopped doing the harmful thing and b) apologized. These people haven’t even done you the courtesy of an honest conversation about what’s happening. I give you permission to ignore the entire concept of forgiveness for now.

Even if they agreed to end things, is there any going back to the life you (thought you) had, where your husband is a safe haven who will always leave the light on for you while you explore your addictions totally unproblematic day-drinking hobby?

Mameluke
Aug 2, 2013

by Fluffdaddy
Most of the "elder brother as legal guardian" stories belong in the r/relationships pantheon, I think. There was also the barbarian boyfriend who would carry his massive dog over his shoulders like a cape.

Mameluke
Aug 2, 2013

by Fluffdaddy
Cut off your friendship with Kelsey if you can't handle the heat, but crimes against businesses aren't really crimes IMO. It's not like she's trying to unionize Walmart employees, they don't care.

Mameluke
Aug 2, 2013

by Fluffdaddy

Inescapable Duck posted:

On another note, I think the thread's getting tetchy about age gaps, though I have to wonder given how 90% of the time it's considerably older man/younger woman there may be an aspect of 'The economy is hosed and older men are more likely to actually have a steady job and own their own home' but then again half the time they're complete mooches who sit around playing video games all day, soooooo.

how young is the girl on your pillow OP

Mameluke
Aug 2, 2013

by Fluffdaddy

welcome to hell posted:

My brother (27M) is super focused on rules, and won’t let up, even with my (31F) son’s (5M) anxiety

Rule 999: Don't interrupt Adam when he talks about Winston Churchill

Mameluke
Aug 2, 2013

by Fluffdaddy
Most if the people who melt down over porn are women without cocks and balls to torture though :confused:

Mameluke
Aug 2, 2013

by Fluffdaddy
Me (27F) just realized I'm not bisexual and want to break up with my GF of 6 years (28F) who is planning to propose late December are early January how do I break up with and without hurting her to bad and staying really good freinds

quote:

I always thought I was pansexual are bisexual but realized I'm actually straight. When I was sitting down and thinking about my sexuality I realized why I label myself pansexual becouse of my parents views. I all was hated how my father talked about gay people and it's a choice to love who you want to love and your not born that way. I kept arguing with my father saying it's not a choice and wanted to show him that gay love is not a bad thing and told him I was bi. I always thought women was pretty and I wouldn't mind dating one. Now I'm just realizing I never liked women sexually but could admire them. I was still questioning if I was bi sexual through high school but when father and mother kept telling me it was a phase I stuck with me being bi sexual. I met my girlfriend at senior year of college and she was a lesbain and I remember telling her how my parents were jerk and never accepted I was bi and keep telling me it was a phase. Me and her had great chemistry and we started dating. It was nice but I could never get sexual with her and it all was felt like a chore to have sex and only did it for her enjoyment. I just blamed it on me having no libido are sex drive. I thought maybe I just like really being submissive and she need to be more dominate. It wasn't the case either so we both just sayed it was my low sex drive. But I always was looking at guys and all was dreaming of having sex with them and then I thought penetration must turn me on alot. I got her to buy a strap on to penetrate me but it just still didn't feel right but it felt good atleast and I thought I could keep having sex like this so evertime we have sex I ask her can she use the strap on but I kept fantasizing it was a guy who was having sex with me. It's been six years we haved been together so far and we were talking about marriage and she told me she would proposed after Christmas and somewhere around early January. I knew something was wrong when I couldn't see myself with her in the future and felt I'm missing out on life. Now I realized me having fantasies about men wasn't for there masculinity but I'm straight and only like men sexually and not attracted to women sexually. I want to stay with her but it would be unfair for her. She has been talking to me about being not physical with her like cuddling and and kissing. She is my bestfreind and I want to stay with friends her. I want to start explorer my sexuality atleast in another year and we both share the house but the house is in my name and I'm not going to kick her out. I don't want it to be hard for her when I start dating. How do I break up with her without taking her soul out?? Should I tell her becouse I'm straight??? I'm sorry right now I really want to stay with her but I just can't do it anymore and it looks like she needs physical love and which I can't provide. I'm really sad right now it has to be this way :(

Tl;dr me dating girlfriend of six realized I'm not pan are bi but straight and want to stay friends with her and with out breaking her heart. I want to start dating soon with out hurting her and I'm not going to kick her out my house.

Holy poo poo imagine wasting your twenties and ruining some poor woman's life to prove you're woke to your parents

Mameluke
Aug 2, 2013

by Fluffdaddy
^ He's using again. gently caress him.

Spaghetti Shirt's story really strongly reminded me of the guy married to the woman who flat out admitted she was getting fat now that she didn't have to try anymore. He's already legally bound to his wife, why bother anymore? Even the ceremony itself is irrelevant.

Mameluke
Aug 2, 2013

by Fluffdaddy

maskenfreiheit posted:

a dog is treated poorly by a man : gbs says murder that man

a woman is treated poorly by a man: we don't know all the facts

???? this thread celebrates delivering punishing kicks to dogs

Mameluke
Aug 2, 2013

by Fluffdaddy

The Lone Badger posted:

Punching dogs. Not kicking.

Forgive me.


ABPD, always be punching dogs

Mameluke
Aug 2, 2013

by Fluffdaddy
LEAVE NOW ALEX IS KILLING YOU SLOWLY FOR HIS FETISH

Mameluke
Aug 2, 2013

by Fluffdaddy
going to need pictures of the dick scar. also who gives a gently caress, chicks dig scars

Mameluke
Aug 2, 2013

by Fluffdaddy

maskenfreiheit posted:

harsh maskenfreiheit truth: if you had two loving adoptive parents you did just fine, and tracking down some people who took the time to make sure you ended up in that situation and berating them for daring to gently caress without having a child (something this child, and everyone else on the planet does) isn't a good look.

quote:

I have no solid memories of my father until around age 11ish. He spent months away at a time. In every photo I’m being held by a different nanny. I’m definitely going to seek a therapist. I feel awful for what I did, and I’ve definitely done a disservice to my birth parents.
I know from my earliest memories that I felt confused on who the hell I was suppose to listen to because I had a different nanny every few months/years

I’m definitely going to seek therapy

quote:

Since the day my baby brother was born, they have put him as number one. My parents were never hands on with me as a kid but they smother him with love and affection and constantly remind me that one day when hey are gone he will be my responsibility because he will likely need to live with a caregiver his whole life

:smith: It really comes off as her biological parents finding the richest couple they could to give the OP to, which sounds like a good idea especially if you're a child yourself. However those parents were more concerned with money than their child, until they mellowed out in late middle age and made a defective baby "of their own" that they've then told the OP she'll be saddled with forever, because now that they care about family the OP logically would as well.

Mameluke fucked around with this message at 03:56 on Jan 9, 2018

Mameluke
Aug 2, 2013

by Fluffdaddy

girl pants posted:

My retired detective Dad [60M] and I [25F] were watching Better Call Saul and police corruption was a major theme of the episode. I misspoke and asked him if he ever "took a bribe." He won't believe I misspoke. How can I fix this?

There are no good cops, only bystanders. OP was right to confront his father for being part of an unjust and oppressive institution.

Mameluke
Aug 2, 2013

by Fluffdaddy

This girl's dad can gently caress off but so can she. She's either got zero empathy for an "annoying" sibling with the same shithead dad, or she refuses to acknowledge the best vector for loving with his life once she exits it.

Mameluke
Aug 2, 2013

by Fluffdaddy
Call CPS on your boyfriend's mom.

Mameluke
Aug 2, 2013

by Fluffdaddy
r/relationships: I don't know if gorillas in general are currently off limits

Mameluke
Aug 2, 2013

by Fluffdaddy

Smirking_Serpent posted:

My (M18) estranged older brother (M25) has come home and I don’t trust him. My parents (M47, F45) think I should give him a second chance.

Your house has stairs in it. There's your solution!

Mameluke
Aug 2, 2013

by Fluffdaddy

Caganer posted:

My neighbour has tried to rape my girlfriend multiple times. self.Advice

People whose posts clearly imply that they have staircases in their home ought to just do the needful and not bother us

Mameluke
Aug 2, 2013

by Fluffdaddy

A big flaming stink posted:

ANYWAY

Me [23F] with my coach's fiancé [29F], she confronted me, I had a panic attack & now it's hard for me to go to practice


This is old by the thread's standards, but the "sport" is Quidditch, isn't it?

Mameluke
Aug 2, 2013

by Fluffdaddy

burial posted:

I (26M) am dating someone (22F) that is late to almost everything. It isn't improving and getting to the point that I don't want to see her anymore. It seems like such a stupid reason to break up.
u/BeOnTimeJustOnce

This poo poo's not hard! Just stand her up! Say, "I'm running late" by text, and see how long it'll take for her to get it.

Mameluke
Aug 2, 2013

by Fluffdaddy
Postpartum abortion?

edit: drat

Mameluke
Aug 2, 2013

by Fluffdaddy

Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA if i don't share my stash with my long term gf?

Stop smoking two grams a day dumdum

Mameluke
Aug 2, 2013

by Fluffdaddy
This is from a few pages ago, but I find it very powerful that the biggest media conglomerate's "prestige" subsidiary did no good for anyone's mental health with $90 million, but two stray cats loving in an an alley can provide meaningful comfort to at least 3-5 people

Mameluke
Aug 2, 2013

by Fluffdaddy

Smirking_Serpent posted:

My (20M) father in law (50M) is a sociopath and has a fake instagram where he pretends to date his daughter (24F)

Kill all cops

Mameluke
Aug 2, 2013

by Fluffdaddy
Well your plan worked OP and hopefully your brother finds it too difficult to go to his fat girlfriend's house instead

Mameluke
Aug 2, 2013

by Fluffdaddy

Smirking_Serpent posted:

My father [58M] has "disowned" me [27M] for taking my three siblings to a dinner that was "too nice"

Give up on the loser, be extra nice to your mom, and wait for heart disease to do its thing

Mameluke
Aug 2, 2013

by Fluffdaddy

Power Khan posted:

"My wife left her mirror unlocked, and i snooped (i know, wrong). Turns out she's sexting with one of the Istari and sent him visions of her "golden locks" between her legs. She told him that she can't wait for his "strong and gnarled" staff and hopes he's dropping by soon."

Mods please change my name to Inceleborn

Mameluke
Aug 2, 2013

by Fluffdaddy
Break up with poop sock girl and tell her you bought your gym socks for their porousness and breathability imo

Mameluke
Aug 2, 2013

by Fluffdaddy
You did not gently caress up OP but you could have done to say "Looks like we both win as you obviously overspend"

Mameluke
Aug 2, 2013

by Fluffdaddy

CheesyDog posted:

r/legaladvice
Can my mother resign me from my job?
u/savv1234

Please leave west virginia OP

Mameluke
Aug 2, 2013

by Fluffdaddy

Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA for making an offensive joke about poor people?

Thank god you didn't tell Mallory who poor people like to shoot back at

Mameluke
Aug 2, 2013

by Fluffdaddy

hawowanlawow posted:

these conversations about planet fitness and outback have really pulled the curtain back on how spoiled and classist the denizens of this thread are, lol

if you don't ardently defend the lowest-quality, profit seeking, mass market cheapest option you must hate poor people

CheesyDog posted:

r/McDonalds
So MAD. Can't order a McDouble Cheeseburger with NO CHEESE. Forced to pay $2 more. (Fort McMurray, Canada) Worst. Policy. Ever.
u/obidunn

OP, you have two options; leave your subarctic tar hellhole, or cut into your Truck Nutz-and-Bud Light budget

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Mameluke
Aug 2, 2013

by Fluffdaddy
says the guy claiming goons hate garbage because poor people use it

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