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Smirking_Serpent posted:My [30F] boyfriend [34M] does not dress appropriately for the occasion and I don't know how to tell him. This really depends on where they are. I mean, shorts, sandals. and T shirt is practically formal wear in Socal unless you are dining out at a steakhouse or something. Other glaring red flags aside, someone being "too sensitive" to take advice on fashion when they have none means they are just a big whiny baby who can't take any criticism of their life. Good luck with that winner.
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Winter Stormer posted:Nothing is worth living like that I've literal conversation where my coworkers and I will be chatting about our lives and such and when asked about dating and relationships saying "I could never date a picky eater" is like some shocking thing that can't understand I would hold my ground on. I mean, I've never actually had to deal with it, and I think that would be an absolute deal breaker, but just the idea that someone who turns their nose up at a taqueria or refuses to trying a goat curry is a hard pass is weird to most people.
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Aug 7, 2019 05:47
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Fitzy Fitz posted:it's like they turned a fedora into a reddit post No a fedora theoretically has a practical value. This is the equivalent of the guys smearing their jizz over themselves because they think the pheromones will attract women.
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Aug 12, 2019 20:37
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Khazar-khum posted:No, it's that they want 14 year old geek girls with hoohas that smell like berries and cream, have giant boobs, and are happy to ride his dick while he plays games. The idea of an adult woman, with a mind of her own, someone he can't control completely, with a normal body and bodily functions, is a turn-off to them. And even then if they got a girl like that (not 14 more like 19-25) it would be a brag session for a few weeks before the river of complaints about another her putting expectations on him and why can't she just be cool about his video games and anime hobbies. Think of how many of these posts are from girls who are eventually disgusted by the guy after the initial new relationship phase ends.
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Aug 12, 2019 22:29
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Edit: can't read Reddit determined no one was the rear end in a top hat for cartoon ring guy. This is one of the situations where the ages either make it better or worse. pentyne fucked around with this message at 00:38 on Aug 18, 2019 |
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Aug 18, 2019 00:35
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ulex minor posted:is it bad advice? my advice is just, you should let your gay brother bring his boyfriend to your wedding regardless if that will piss people off "Deliberately creating conflict at a wedding" is bad advice. People spends weeks/months agonizing over their wedding down to the finest details and spends tons of money. MarcusSA posted:Announcing major life events at not your wedding isn’t cool no matter what it is. People will always gossip and be lovely about surprises especially at weddings. It's a bad venue for things like that and if someone wants to deliberately drop a surprise bombshell then regardless of the context its not fair to the bride and groom. Best case scenario, the relatives mutter and complain and freeze out and ignore the brother. The rest ignore them and happily mingle with the gay couple. Worst case, some people get too drunk (100% people get too drunk) and start screaming homophobic insults at the couple during the vows because they dared to flaunt their homosexuality in a church/wedding environment.
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Aug 19, 2019 21:09
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luxury handset posted:dad clearly needed to buy drugs in a hurry At best she could got sit outside on the steps and call cps/police to come get them, but anyone who goes into a full on panic mode after calling the authorities isn't going to want to sit there and talk to them. When the father showed up banging on the door and screaming at her most people would call the cops and she just tried to put her headphones on and hope he goes away. This isn't someone who should be watching young kids. On that note, I've seen everyone from tenured professors to diner servers bring their young kids in to their job and stick them out of the way because of a babysitting issue. Guy might've had a job where that wasn't an option, but if he's willing to leave them while someone keeps saying "no I can't what are you doing" then he's probably a lovely parent.
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Aug 20, 2019 16:17
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Miserable Maid posted:Whoa! This is interesting, thanks for the link! It's crazy how the power of makeup can completely change "unchangeable" things like basic face shape and the like Its basically 3 main things - cover blemishes and even out skin tone - lip stick/gloss to emphasize lips - excessive eye makeup Wanting your GF to do this for sex is a total rear end in a top hat move. I really doubt he's planning to put on concealer and foundation to cover up his blemishes either.
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Aug 21, 2019 16:52
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Pinecone Sample posted:GF [22] sleeps in the same bed as her ex bf [20] Saw this happen. My roommates shared a decent sized room, relationship went to poo poo but they were stuck together for a few months while they sorted out moving out. I only knew the guy well enough but it was clearly hell for them after the first month when they were both trying to see other people and then rapidly moved up their move out date.
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Aug 21, 2019 20:44
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Xik posted:My Brother(18) has been poisoning my girlfriend(24) for the past 3 years Secretly poisoning someone is a major "end the relationship" gently caress up. That is a straight psychopath move and far more indicative of dangerous behavior in general then "waaah she's stealing you from me"
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Aug 22, 2019 00:51
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Pinecone Sample posted:I really want my weekends back, I'm going to culinary school Every over the hill boomer wants their dream of their big successful restaurant where everyone falls over themselves to compliment them on the food and decor. This is more "the art of being a pastry 'master' is my calling" but no less delusional.
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Aug 23, 2019 02:19
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Yond Cassius posted:This is a perennial favorite over in BFC's Bad With Money thread, but it might be a new link here. I wonder how many "spoiled millennials expect their dreams handed to them" social media posts that future failed chef lady has made in the last 10 years. I'd be shocked if it was less then double digits.
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Aug 23, 2019 07:41
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Yond Cassius posted:... and then just put in "a few leisurely hours chopping veg and prepping salad dressings", instead of asking questions about running a restaurant. Or, apparently, even noticing how hard everyone around him must have been working. His business plan was "open restaurant, massive success, pal around with customers like 3 star Michelin chef Marco Pieree White, hang out and drink at my bar like a badass" You just know his successful restaurant buddy saw a massive opportunity to get a fully refurbished functional space for pennies once Alcohlic Hipster flamed out. Of all the things that shocked me the most was coming from someone who bought a home didnt have the lease spaced inspected before hand. Like god forbid you wait 1 month gotta start living that dream now.
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Aug 23, 2019 18:30
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EIDE Van Hagar posted:there's an pertty good bbq place near me that seems to be open about 1 day a month at random. If its anything like the other famous bbq places ive been to that is a outstandingly success business model, because usually it's "we're closed because we gotta smoke the meat proper" and they generally sell out of everything before close.
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Aug 23, 2019 18:48
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Foo Diddley posted:I like reading about guys like this. They make me feel like some kind of paragon of competence just because I can do my own laundry There is a code in the military for when the superiors have to do a "health and hygiene" check on the enlisted grunts because many of them don't understand they need to bathe and wash their clothes. And these are the ones who actually leave their home voluntarily.
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Aug 23, 2019 21:12
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HIJK posted:What’s sadder is that so many guys live in trash heaps, don’t wipe their asses, don’t brush their teeth, and then don’t understand why this stuff matters. At least not until it gets them in a big way, like needing extensive dental work or something. A big shock to the US government was when establishing the draft for WW2 the initial requirement was basic literacy. They had to get creative for what accounted for "basic" and even then were having to disqualify a major percentage of recruits.
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Aug 23, 2019 22:23
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sephiRoth IRA posted:Oh gently caress, everybody sucks here. I hope all these people are locked in a dungeon together. It's creepy that a 33 year old is pursuing and interested in 18 year old college freshman, and given his capacity as a college professor that should be a red flag. That being said, if someone says they are going to tell everyone you are a pedophile if you don't pay them $40k you should report them to the police immediately. Either they were bluffing and it causes a bit of a ruckus then goes away, or they try to do it and you've already provided the police evidence of the blackmail attempt and are in a somewhat safer legal position.
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Aug 24, 2019 02:00
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I can't even imagine having an interesting conversation with a 18 year old much less wanting to be in a committed relationship with one. Like, you're 33, working full time, saving for retirement, are around peers your age or older, have settled and defined your life, and this 18 year old girl straight from her parents house to the college dorm is your true love?
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Aug 24, 2019 21:50
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SilvergunSuperman posted:Potatoes in a burrito seems dumb and bad, counterpoint? More vegetables in a burrito is always good.
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Aug 25, 2019 17:29
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Pinecone Sample posted:I(33m)need to divorce my wife(32f) after seeing something I wasn't supposed to. "How dare she not tell the world I have massive jackhammer dick and am rocking her brains out every time we gently caress!" It's not even some small dick ego its the absurd fantasy that you are the best sex she'll ever have in her entire life. God forbid something not be perfect when it comes to a penis. Men and woman both known exactly who they had the best sex of their life with and it is 100% not the person they happily married. It was the fun crazy maybe dangerous? person they had a fling with once but know in their heart would make a terrible life partner.
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Burt Sexual posted:Are you married? No. Sorry, bad example. That was a big overreach for what I was going for. Going into a marriage or serious relationship and having an ego so fragile that the idea your partner has had better sex before infuriates you is a pretty lovely thing. Maybe they are the best sex ever, that's a good point for sexual compatibility but no one should have the mentality of their partner fantasizing about someone/thing else as an unforgivable slap in the face to everything else in the relationship dynamic. Especially when they have kids.
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Ghost Leviathan posted:I swear that one's come up before and the answer is clearly to ask if she is roughly 1/5 the size of a barge. Assuming 15 eggs it's 1125 calories 75 grams of fat 2600 mg (930% recommended) cholesterol 130 g protein Also, what other foods does any human eat where they have so much difficulty keeping track of it they leave trails of debris? I don't think people who always eat burgers are just leaving wrappers strewn across their homes.
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Aug 26, 2019 10:46
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Dazerbeams posted:How many people move out to the west coast hoping to break into acting, only to end up doing porn on the casting couch instead? Unless they are 18/19 very few. The general business practice is "find a girl 18-20, fly them out to the filming city, pay for apartment, have them film scenes for 5-6 months, cut them loose" pentyne fucked around with this message at 20:00 on Aug 26, 2019 |
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Xik posted:Reddit's hypocrisy is so loving transparent it's ridiculous. When a woman cheats in these stories it's "how would you feel, wouldn't you want to know if your wife cheated on you, divorce her and get the kid and money", but all the tops posts in this one are calling the OP an rear end in a top hat and they should stay out of it. The guy "learnt his lesson", "you'd be destroying a family", "he's you're brother", "he regrets it" etc etc. It's literally right after someone asking if they should out a Ftm trans person dating their brother and everyone is "NTA your brother deserves to know the truth you need to tell him NOW" I knew it reddit was a mash of fake threads, circle jerk reaction stories etc. but seeing those back to back was like a textbook red flag for toxic behavior. edit: They are barely off the same screen when scrolling.  Seriously? Reddit must be what? 95% straight white men? This is insane. pentyne fucked around with this message at 09:04 on Aug 27, 2019 |
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QuarkJets posted:There are a number of important details here: The standard line for decades is "its not your business stay out of it" It's a terrible mentality. Someone comes to you and essentially says they have been hurting and abusing someone's trust and expect you to side with them by virtue of not outing them to their partner. That's all they really want, someone to pat them on the back and keep their secret so they feel better about their continued misdeeds and dishonesty. Oh and of course once they get caught its another excuse they can use and throw the other person under the bus with the excuse "I confessed to X and they agreed I shouldn't tell you"
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Xik posted:Just looked this up and it's being asked in Legal Advice. Unfortunately he actually got the best advice for his situation. How do you find these? Every time I try to look up one of the titles posted I can never find it in any of the reddit subforums.
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I think you all need some HR mandatory training on dress codes in the workplace and personal medical information security.
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Pinecone Sample posted:aw man, I thought I was getting mandatory HR training on breast implants and bra sizes Based on the module you just finished, answer the following to the best of your ability Jane Doe has come to work wearing a low cut blouse after her recent, quite noticeable breast augmentation surgery. Which of the following is acceptable to say? a) drat LOOK AT THEM TITTIES b) Cover up whore this is a workplace c) Hi Jane, I dropped my pen, could you bend down to pick it up? Slower d) Hello fellow employee. Today is a fine day and we are both adults who understand mutual respect and understanding and have no need to create issues and conflicts over minor issues of personal appearance.
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QuarkJets posted:Why is travel approval even necessary? gently caress all of those people who were like "yes the good and proper thing is to fire this person for having the audacity to have their 9 year-old staying in the same hotel room without asking permission first", it's peak corporate culture to reach that kind of monumentally stupid decision and I only ask that you take a long hard look at yourself in the mirror if you find yourself siding with these robots. It's entirely possible that a) The poster was an rear end in a top hat for reporting her for something he could've turned a blind eye too b) The poster was required by law to disclose to his employer any policy violations c) The woman was an rear end in a top hat for being aware of the policy issues and ignoring the ones that were inconvenient d) The nature of the work requires 100% compliance with all rules and regulations or get fired on the spot (federal contracts, medical settings for example) When the choice is either "document any policy violations" or "lose my job" you can't rake someone over the coals for covering their own rear end and making sure they don't face professional consequences for the actions of another.
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Xik posted:My (22f) fiance (25m) want his father to check my hymen tomorrow night before I get married. This is one of those things where you have an equal chance of either the following being true - Oh his family are recent immigrants and still deeply religious and have regressive ideas about marriage and gender - His family are Southern US Baptists/Mormons/Evangelicals and go to a church that seats 10k people
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Midnight Voyager posted:Hey, an update on the Stan Lee autograph! Its good that the father recognizes that the sister picked an item she knew would cause major emotional pain but would use the excuse of "its just a piece of paper" and is punishing her for it. The mom is garbage because she's either willfully ignorant of how much her daughter cared about the autograph or doesn't see anything wrong with someone being emotional hurt for refusing a request.
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FilthyImp posted:She literally thinks it's a juvenile hobby and has no respect for it and in typical dumb teen fashion thinks everyone agrees / has no empathy for it It's safe to say 95% of the world knows who Stan Lee is and his role in creating some of the most famous superheros of all time thanks to 12 years of blockbuster movies alongside his countless cameos in said movies. My parents know who he is despite never having read comic books in their lives but going to see the big movies. This girl going to her social group expecting to be applauded for her actions is hilarious because anyone remotely normal would see what she did as horrifically hosed up and just light her up for it. Even after all that, still blaming the younger sister...that is some ice cold NPD that can't ever be overlooked.
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Straight White Shark posted:That story really hit home for my wife, this was her relationship with her sister growing up. Have there ever been any examples of someone pulling the "you cant abandon your family no matter what" for anything other then horrific abuse, mistreatment, really gross behavior, serious criminal acts etc? Because every time I see it mentioned its "Just because your mother stole your identity and racked up $40k in CC debt in your name there's no reason to ignore her on mothers day"
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ad090 posted:Got grounded by my father in law. Do I have to accept it? Where on earth could this possibly occur that any of this makes sense? Are there armed guards outside his door ready to kill him for disobeying? Otherwise just loving get up and leave.
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Olanphonia posted:My wife linked me this article about some kid who was such a picky eater he went blind. Thought the thread would appreciate it. This kid was losing his vision and suffering a host of other medical problems and the doctors going "Is there anything you can tell us" had him shrug and shake his head for years before he finally admitted his diet of pringles, french fries, ham, and sausage.
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Beachcomber posted:This made me immediately tense up. That's a future Estranged Parent for sure.
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Ouhei posted:It's been pointed out, but since you quoted me...that shouldn't matter really. We have absolutely no information other than a slap happened (we don't know how hard, where or what the physical makeup of either of them are), so saying anything other than it was a lovely thing to do is taking some liberties. He should definitely be seeking therapy and should cover what lead to physical violence in those sessions. Everything is still extremely raw right now and 6-12 months later things will be better, the OP will know who in his life is worth keeping around (one guy who stood up for him) and who isn't (his own mother). Like, what is the narrative later? They badmouth him that he drove her to suicide over not forgiving her repeated infidelities? There aren't many stories less likely to generate sympathy then that. I'm sure the repeated cheating won't be the lead of the story but it's hard to explain in any capacity without most normal people thinking the guy wasn't at fault.
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aegof posted:We call them "men who have sex with men" and https://www.thecut.com/2017/02/how-straight-men-explain-their-same-sex-encounters.html was a result of googling the phrase As always Ice-T has the answer https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Zd8vzIRQLLM
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Taima posted:That post definitely looks super legit and we should spend a lot of time talking about it. This is the best thread title.
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MarcusSA posted:God drat..... How is "get therapy" not the first automatic response to every reddit advice post? Either it'll work or the person is so broken that it won't matter because they just want someone to cheer lead their lovely behavior. Probably a major contributing factor in a lot of destructive behavior. You can find a support group for anything online, and the problem with expressing yourself online is that the other side is getting a completely biased narrative so however they tell the story is geared for people to agree with them and reaffirm what they already believe. Then even if they get criticized they can always look at the positive comments and just dismiss any naysayers as not knowing the "full" story. Wonder what that guys "problems" were. For sure being super conciliatory and letting someone walk all over you isn't a sign of a healthy mindset. Once she realized she could just endlessly treat him like crap and continued and he didn't stand up then there was no reason not to escalate her behavior. Motronic posted:I think this thread has broken my brain to immediately think that. And I'm gonna stick with it because otherwise it's just too depressing. I had a conversation with a coworker about this. There is a ton of fake bullshit on reddit but that doesn't mean things like that don't still happen in the world. I've known a few people in relationships who just get bored/angry/entitled and start treating the other person like crap. People get get broken pretty badly by long term relationships and act in ways they'd never expect if they don't directly address issues of conflicts and emotional problems. I was talking to someone who left a relationship after 10 years that was described by her in terms that screamed abuse and red flags, and all her friends were married going on 5-10 yrs plus and so many of them were petty, controlling, bored and cheating, or just always trying to have a singles night with her and cheat on their partners/get revenge for getting cheated on. This isn't one of those "monogamy is flawed" things, just that a lot of people just love the idea of being in a relationship so much they overlook the red flags and lovely behavior just to avoid being single again. pentyne fucked around with this message at 04:28 on Sep 9, 2019 |
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